[Closed] do you have any regrets?

Should have gone and lived in France when I was a student and had the chance to work there during holidays - may have been able to do more than order beer and book a campsite now!

the twins. *sigh*

Plenty, but id rather regret something ive done than regretting something i didnt do.

Do more travelling, but on the other hand, "day aint over yet"

(hopefully that the correct link, as youtube is blocked at work)

Regrets? Well, I've had a few, but then again, too few to mention.

Still wonder about not moving to Western Oz when we had the chance a few years ago, but then again, I've got a wife and four kids that I absolutely adore, a reasonable income / nice house and stuff, so the regrets only surface occasionally.

Maybe a bit over serious here but I really regret not seeing more of my mum

sorry

I try not to regret, I try to learn from mistakes. regret can be a negative thing. Having said that there are plenty things that had I the chance over, I would do differently. On the other hand I have a gorgeous wife and fantastic children. Had I done something different then maybe I wouldn't have what I have now.

2 japanese women who wanted to 'see my hotel room' - oh how naieve 🙁

iza, polish girl.

other than that, i can't think of many things i [i]regret[/i]...

there may be things i'm ashamed of though.

one_happy_hippy - Member

Plenty, but id rather regret something ive done than regretting something i didnt do.

even rape?

Every descision you make, good or bad, leads you to where you are now. If you are happy in that place, then no regrets!

I'm currently busy learning just how much I have to regret not doing over the last 10 years. It's going to be quite a long list, much of it falling into the formula: "I regret not doing X with incredibly sexy and amusing women who actually like me earlier". 😕

I wish I hadn't listened to my parents as much as I did about jobs, and I wish I'd have known it was possible to just sod off around the world.....

Joining this forum.

AS Gav said.

There are a few things I wished I had pursued further.

Rugby - I was a decent player at school. I stopped playing at 16 tho. Now I wonder how far I could have got.

I had the opportunity to go on a Greenpeace ship but had just accepted a really good job offer. I took the boring path and I sometimes wonder what would have happened had I chose the other path.

No real regrets as such tho. I just sometimes wonder where I would have been had I made different choices in a few places

Regret moving to Brittany back in 2001...it's taken us nearly 10 years to finally make it back to only 3 miles away from where we were living when we left. Still, I appreciate where I'm living now more.

Regret wife not taking the job in Sydney she was offered when we both left Uni.

...that'll do for now. Unfortunately I do tend to regret too much which can't be healthy 🙁

There are at least 4 lovely women that I was too immature to notice were well up for it when I was at college.

Loads of regrets. Mostly for all the those things I've done, which, on reflection, were perhaps, regrettable.

I would imagine most have a regret or two.

I regret buying Michelin and Continental tyres, oh yes.

Yeah, loads of stuff

🙂

S

There are at least 4 lovely women that I was too immature to notice were well up for it when I was a college.

Now you mention it!

On a serious note I dont regret much my life is great but if I could change some things I would have been more sensible in my approach to running when i was younger and not squandered the few chances I had to perform at a decent level.
Only a minor thing and I'm a simple person!

I regret following my dad into his business and not becoming the world famous music journalist I was destined to be!

However, if I hadn't gone into the family business, I wouldn;t have met the missus and then not had the kids which are by far and away the greatest thing in the world. So, I suppose, no regrets.

Solo - i second the continental regret!

I definitely have not partied hard enough.

I would live a vastly more daring teenage life if I could go back now.

I regret not telling my father how much I loved him, that he was the most influential person in my life. Saying a few words at the funeral next week won't make up for this omission.

Yep. I suspect I got the most important choice in my life wrong. I try not to worry about it.

What littlegirlbunny said
and I married the wrong woman

Mr C
I thought I should get something bike related in there 🙂

But also 2nd the wistful lament others have expressed about not spotting the really hot and up-for-it Chicks that I knew, when I was a younger Man.
But it makes me smile.

God some of those girls were ultra gorgeous.

😀

S

Onion. I've been in the place you are now, you have my sympathies.

I regret not telling my father how much I loved him, that he was the most influential person in my life.

He'd have known anyway parents know everything. x

Littl girl bunny - I perhaps have partied too much - but the memories are hazy. It certainly stopped me achieving as much as I might have done.

Onion. condolences old chap. I bet he knew tho. Your actions if not your words will have said a lot

I regret not telling my father how much I loved him, that he was the most influential person in my life. Saying a few words at the funeral next week won't make up for this omission.

I perhaps have partied too much

is that possible?

Regret moving to Brittany back in 2001.

Why? Boring to live there? It seems a nice place to be but not a lot to do maybe? I say this as cycled around there and beyond last year and thought how much more pleasant than where I live in Surrey it is.

A girl wanted to marry me back in 2002; I thought best not. Later married a different girl whilst I'm happy enough some of her bad points were not shared by the previous girl so do wonder what might have been sometimes.

I started fencing when I was 9 and gave up when I was 12 when I moved to another area. I was pretty good but didn't like the new school and just gave up out of laziness really; shame as it's the only sport I was ever really good at.

Life's too short for regrets. Accept that you sometimes make the wrong decision and move on 🙂

LGB - partying is overrated, like TJ I don't remember much from my "wild" days (1991 > 2001), and ended up a bit of a mess. But I don't regret it..... 😀

i still regret not knowing enough cpr when my mate died next to me whilst in the army even tho doc said he was prob dead when he hit the floor . He was only two foot from my and i couldnt do anything. I now know quite a lot of first aid and glad i do

Years of debaucherous living lead to addiction which I quit only to replace it with something very similar. When I finally quit that on 01/08/07 I had a bipolar incident that turned my life upside down. I lost my wife, someone who was my best friend for 8 years and now wouldn't piss on me if I was on fire. I have a great "new" life with another girl who is also great and I'm very happy, but I seriously regret the way I behaved. Wish I'd had some control over it.

[i]Why? Boring to live there? It seems a nice place to be but not a lot to do maybe?[/i]

Yep...nice place to visit but not to necessarily to live particularly after moving from the hustle and bustle of London/Surrey. Personally I think we were to young, the weather for the first year was awful, access rights seem bad in France (No bridleways without driving to places like Nantes-Brest canal, Huelgoat)...I could go on. Not Brittany's fault necessarily...just didn't work for us.

I should have pursued a career in what I wanted to do rather than what I thought I should do.

Although I have been all over the world, I should have travelled more when I jad no responsibilities eg. A long overland journey by car/bike/moto, but due to work/career issues didn't feel that I could leave it all for 6 months or a year and pick up where I left off.

With hindsight these were excuses and I should have travelled, come back and started again at something different.

All in all, I have had a good life so far though.

I regret giving up my dream job of radio presenter just because everything got 'too much'. If I wasn't such a coward I would have stuck with it and could be doing a much better job than Chris Moyles by now...

Frederique Paone

Although even that not really, it's still a good story when I meet up with the mates and in any case, +1 to Gavskater

"There's the crime of passion and the crime of revenge but the worst crime of all is the crime of regret"......Wayne Hussey

I regret some of the choices I made in my mid 20s over relationships. taking the 'safe' route when deep down I knew it was the wrong route. However, it's all part of who I am now, and I think I'm ok.

Wish I'd travelled more before I had the kids, but I'll rectify that in.....*mental arithmetic* 8 years, give or take... Anyone want to come with me? 🙂

smoking too much dope over the years;
drinking too much booze over the years;
wearing stretch denims in those all-important adolescent years, thereby restricting the wee chap's 'room to roam';
not being brave enough with the ladies who were so obviously interested in me (or the wee chap);
not finding my [i]raison d'etre[/i] - now 42 and wondering why I'm here and what I'm supposed to be doing to make the most of it;
spending money on bad fashion choices and music tapes/CDs which are just rubbish;
not getting away from home earlier, or making efforts to stay away when I actually did make the break;

****. I could continue, but it's Friday, and I'd like a pint this evening - not a depression brought on by reflecting on the negatives.
Didn't mean to bring anyone down.

Sorry Jo I will on my way back by then 😉

One or two regrets about things I did or didn't do, said or didn't say. But being older and wiser is a good thing. I have a feeling that unless I bite the bullet and set out to achieve the goals I want to this year rather than settling for the secure option, I'll have deep regrets.

I reveresed over my sisters Horse with the tractor, wasn't my finest hour

Man, there's just so much to regret.

The biggest one must be buying a house with someone without talking about/sorting out the real stuff first. Stupid, stupid man. Sometimes what you fear the most meets you halfway...

But there's not really much point in it all though now is there?

listening to my folks about the likelihood of my career aspirations.

Still, that's on the mend now, and as a result I have had a cracking past 20 years, just a bit behind on the career thing now (not that I'm bothered actually)

otherwise, few ladies, few opportunities, but I would only have taken them in hindsight if they led to where I am now. which is unlikely.

oh, and the twins.

Yes.
I'd have started racing motorbikes at a younger age.
I'd have loved to have raced in the IOM TT.

My choice of career at 18 - I'd change and maybe gone to study Geography and geology. Maybe.
Not messed an old GF about many moons ago - who knows?

Things are still ongoing with another family matter, so I'm not sure yet on that score.
It might work out or it might yet sink the boat!

[b]Finally -[/b] I do think I might have made more of an effort to get along with my father, now he's got dementia it's all too late to un-pick that particular tapestry, although one up-side is he laughs at my jokes now and seems to have forgotten that he and I don't really get along!

And you have the added bonus of telling him the same joke over and over??

Make the most of what's left.

Hitting the top of the descent slightly quicker than my ability could match, then spending the best part of last year with a cast on my arm.

Pressing "Send" on an e-mail to a Boss (now former).
Why doesn't Outlook have a "Are your really sure" and a "Are you really, really sure" button?

Shamed again! How did you now?

Just 2.5% of the government's medical research budget is spent on dementia research, while a quarter is spent on cancer research.
1 in 3 over 65s will die with some form of dementia.

The future is not that rosy near to the end.
However, I do think that being physically active and dynamic makes a massive difference from your mid 40's onwards, into the 50's and 60's. Don't fancy the 70's - all that brown corduroy and tank-tops! 😉

chooseing Rachael over Deb
Not getting Jim-the-greyhounds kennelmate from the rescue place when we got him (as well as not instead of)
selling my Colnago Dream with Mapei paint! (just ordered new 'nago tho!)

I have always believed it is far better to regret something you have done than to regret something you have not...

I now know this is very true as I did not do something last year and its a VERY BIG regret in life... 🙁

Just the one thing. Wish I'd gone out on my bike that day...

Not so much regrets as 'I wish I'd done this or that instead'. Like if I'd stayed on the Cooncil as a fitter I'd probly be retired now (wouldv'e been 38 years next month) but I went into business with Ma & Pa, & if we'd sold the business in the mid 80's for the valuation price of 175K instead of 65K in 1997.... well who knows. Instead I'm not exactly well off & will need to crack on till I'm 65, (like lots of others I suppose)
Should NEVER have married the one I did though, thank **** it was all over by 91'

It would be dodgy changing even the tiniest thing in my past give the set of coicidences that got me to where I'm happily sitting now.

I wish I'd figured out something I liked doing when I was about 15, instead of having to wait til my mid 20s after doing a degree with no relevance to it.

Also kind of wish I hadn't broken my hip, that was about 5 years down the drain.

And, women, obviously.

loads, most of late teenage years were pretty bad with a collection of hurting people that cared for me and ****ing over a lot of decent people. Drugs and the arrogance of youth do not make happy bed fellows 🙁
biggest regret was not being there for someone when they needed me who's now sadly no longer with us.

It does mean that I'm now a much more tolerant caring person than my persona sometimes shows and although painful, at least I've always taken full accounability for my actions rather than blaming it on society, the sate, my childhood etc..

My life motto is now "that which does not kill you, makes you stranger"

Yup if I was going to regret anything, it would be a relationship one. But like an earlier poster said, it made me part of what I am today and I don't regret that particular journey.

Only one and that is I shouldn't of hit that drop to quick, 6 months later and my shoulder still ****ed and looks like i'll be seeing the consultant again 🙁

Onion had that thought 7 months ago as Tails said he already knew 🙂

Regret?

Yes, one I guess as I have not learned another language, which I should.

😕

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I regret not telling my father how much I loved him, that he was the most influential person in my life. Saying a few words at the funeral next week won't make up for this omission.

i been thinking what you said all day onion, and i have come to the conclusion that he knew, i just know he knew - 6th sense i figure.

Regrets? Well, I've had a few, but then again, too few to mention

Steady on, think I may a copyright on those words! 😉

I have two that still cross my mind every day

1. I was accepted for my dream job in the RAF, but 2 days before i was due to start training i called them up to say i wanted to withdraw from my place. All because of a girl. I could have been working for the 'security services' now

2. A girl called Katie, she was the 'one', still think about her everyday, i just wish i worked harder at the relationship and had known why i was feeling how i was (which i do now)

Ah well, maybe I'll come back and get to do it all again

I regret every minute I didn't spend with a GF before she passed away. You just don't expect these things to happen when you're only 23.

Still - several years later and I'm happily married. Not many of my friends are allowed to keep up pictures of previous GFs in their house.

ohhh im actually feeling pretty happy about this now...

im a mere 19 years old, have already been travelling for a year, have been with a reasonable amount of ladies, all of which are reasonably attractive, am sort of learning French and plan to spend a year in Belgium after ive finished My Geography Degree...

i bet when im the average age of the STW forum Users (37 was it?) there will be some sort of regrets....

That I spent most of my 20s building up enormous debt, getting fat and drinking far, far too much alcohol. By the time my wife and I calmed down and started a family, I was 4 stone heavier, £75 grand poorer and 10 years older. Got to love those secured loans, takaways and 8-for-a-fiver booze deals.

after ive finished My Geography Degree...

Funny you say that, choosing to study Geography just to be against my parent's will has probably been my biggest regret yet. I should have done Economics or Finance. When you realise you want to be at the very top, you also realise that a 'geography degree' stuggles to be recognized in a world already filled to the brim with businese and econ graduates.

I regret kicking those beautiful identical twin sisters out of my bed last night once I'd fired my load. If I'd let them stay they could've made my breakfast this morning.

I lived with a man on his parent's farm. They had working dogs who lived out of doors in sheds/kennels and so on. I was very fond of one, Ben, a border collie. I was encouraged not to be friends with him, but I used to take him for walks and spend time with him. The farmer did not clean out the shed nor nurture Ben as we down here in the south treat our animals. One day after a walk Ben did not want to go back in his house, I made him go back in. Next day I went to see him he was dead. Never forgiven myself. 😥

Should have done more sex when I was young,but I did o'rate for a funny-looking ****er...

I regret quitting med school due to my ethics.

Now I'd rather be wealthy and the hell with my ethics and values!

Need to find a developing country and set up a new business and be rich!

(Screwed it up) Did it my way...

Reading this thread for a ****ing start.

Nope none, and life has thrown up some tough stuff, I must be pretty lucky.

I regret my lack of fish keeping skills.

Regrets, I have a few in no particular order other than the last one which is one of the one's that will haunt me for years to come and cannot be rectifyed later on in life.

Having a drink problem
Having a gambling problem
Buggering up my A levels
Not appealing a decision by the Uni and thus not getting a degree
Not taking relocation
Not buying a house at a great price linked to the relocation

Went on a fruit machine bender rather than going to a night club which I'd said i'd go to, I still believe if I'd gone a good mate would still be alive.

I Shouldn't have fallen in love with someone I shouldn't have fallen in love with!

zulu - we've all done that right?