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Happy as a pig in shit.
On a personal level yes, I do consider myself successful. I have a solid marriage and healthy kids.
On a financial level, no. At 40 I can now see I was in an exceptionally good position at 18 to become very wealthy for the rest of my life and I wasted that opportunity.
Wors, you'll be even happier once they're open/empty 😉
Everyone measures success very differently. I'm in my mid thirties and single with no kids, so by most peoples measure I'm no success. But for a variety of other reasons I am pretty happy, and really look forward to getting up every morning. So I'm not planning on any change of life plan just yet.
I'm happy, without making other people unhappy.
That'll do for me.
I'm happy.
Another danger**** without getting caught. Woooo hooooo!
I'm basically content with what I have achieved, but also feel very restless - like I've got more in me to give, and will not give up until I have succeeded, or I die.
Mleh
My dad does .....
Ill always consider him to be more of a success than me though - kicked out at 16 and worked his way up by him self Including having me arrive at 19
Ive had all the opportunities and support he never had and for that i thank him.
As for am i a sucess - lot more to give yet im just getting started
Success is about being happy in my book. Whatever path taken in life - if it makes you happy generally, then that is a success.
You don't buy days like this with money
yeah you do. theres rucksacks and shades and walking boots and all the stuff that's in them, and getting there, and time off from work... Your kidding yourself TJShe's got a very good point you know, Teej.
not particularly.
What is 'success' though?
Alexander the Great wept because he had no lands left to conquer.
Surely it's better to be always striving to improve, to be a better person, to achieve more, to push things even further?
Otherwise, what's the point? Where's the motivation to carry on?
I seek that which can never be attained; Perfection.
I think I could have done a lot more impressive/important/influential things, so perhaps not as successful in those ways as I could have been, but if I had I wouldn't be where I am now. Apparently I am quite good at my job, even though I am not a director or a manager even, and some people have even said I am a nice person.
Had some pretty shitty times of late but I have an amazing husband, a good family and some fantastic friends so in that respect I have been very successful. I am not rich in £££ but I am rich in other ways and that'll do for me.
So, do I consider myself to be a success? Suppose it depends what kind of mood I am in. 😉
I keep a roof over my famliys head so that will do for me........
emsz +1, if you consider yourself a success you could be as delusional as most of the tossers on x factor. To judge your own success would need to be done at the end of your existence with the scales removed from your eyes
no, I know Elf, I have a pizza in the oven do you want a slice? holyy sheet theres a massivve pile of opinion falling on a thread
Yeah go on then Kev.
I bought one the other day, stuck it in't oven, bloody forgot about it din't I? 🙄
What a tit....
I'm 44, no kids and to be honest no real prospect of them, which kinda makes me sad. I have the reality of being old and alone to look forward to.
However, i have a loving partner, my own home and health enough to enjoy my silly expensive toys, good friends and my parents still alive and well.
Not too bad in balance i suppose.
bloody nice pizza I tell thee.
You're kidding, right?
Needed more cheese though Kev.
You're kidding, right?
No, I tell you; bunged it in, stuck it on about 200ºC, went away, got distracted with something (easily done), suddenly remebered it about 40 mins later.
It was virtually all charcoal. 🙁
****in lush thumbs up. Buurrp!
Bloody glad you're not cooking my dinner fred!
Oooh, I could right fancy a pizza now. Thanks, guys.
No normally I'm on the ball, Muddy. Ask Kev; he'll tell you how good my prawns are.
I was probbly on here arguing with some knobend over something silly, and forgot me pizza. 😆
S'alright, i've burnt soup afore now!
proper good pizza mateys 😆
I don't consider myself a failure.
but do you like pizza?
Yep, found a mate, mated, had three kids, the human race continues,job done!!!!!
I have tried to post a reply several times...
But i still can't decide if i'm a success or not..
**goes all philosophical**
What was the question?
EDIT: Found this very interesting
http://www.ted.com/talks/alain_de_botton_a_kinder_gentler_philosophy_of_success.html
a great many of my personal successes will have been when others may have considered me to be failing..
I spent more than a decade owning nothing more than a hi-fi, some hand drawn sketches, a few sentimental items and the clothes that I stood up in.. but in that time I laughed long and heartily each and every day.. I was frequently filled with a sense of wonderment.. my mind was always stimulated and inspired and the sense of safety and freedom and comfort that my friends instilled in me has been unparalleled at any time before or since..
🙂
it all depends how you look at things I guess.. I could say that I'm not doing great right now.. but similarly I'm not doing too bad either..
Nope, not at all at the moment. Academically I fubar'ed myself in exams earlier this year, work is monotonous but is actually getting a bit better but primarily at this point in time I am failing badly as a woman and it's shite.
try not to beat yourself up too much emma.. sometimes you have to change gear and just very gently keep plugging away at it for a while until you see the little signs that things are starting to go your way again..
nothing is constant except change..
Thanks Yunki x
I consider myself a failure, other people don't seem to have noticed. That's a result in my book. Breathe on.
Not really no. Sometimes I think I messed everything up. Lot of wasted potential.I've done alright as far as work and life experiences and all that rubbish goes, quite happy there, but I'm an emotional and social cripple and I feel that's what really counts. Sometimes I feel happy, but normally I don't. I always assumed unhappiness was the natural male state.
Ho hum.
Whoah, I know where you're coming from but I hope that's just the Christmas blues talking. At least you realise what the important things are, eh?
I think being too hard on themselves is the natural state for a lot of men. Myself included.
nothing is constant except change..
Usually quoted to me by somebody making me redundant, but still true. Things not brilliant here now but they have been before and I'm confident they will be again.
🙂
Emma, NO, please don't beat yourself up. If you want to email me and talk please do.
Yes I do consider myself to be a success, I hope that doesn't sound immodest.
In most senses, yes. Financially/careerwise I've done far better than I'd have ever dreamed. Married for 20 years (I tried hard to wreck this but came to my senses), 2 great kids. Life's genuinely good.
But I have to work astonishingly hard to maintain this, and there are a zillion things I'd rather be doing than what I do to earn a living. In that sense, I'm a total failure.
All of that said, I was thrashing a 4.7litre V8 round Fraser Island yesterday, with my wife and kids alongside me. We were all laughing like loons as the bumps got bigger. Then we saw a hugely photogenic dingo on the way back to the campsite. Pretty much a perfect day. It's not what I'd necessarily call a classic definition of success, but it'll do for me. The job.......it just has to provide enough cash to do the things I want to do.
I guess yes but there are things I need to improve on which require courage. One thing I needed to do was get out of a job that paid well but was bad for me mentally. Done it. Left the country. That's helped.
It depends on how you define "success".
My older brother has two houses, a wife and two lovely daughters, earns four times as much as I do and is a really nice bloke to boot. He has his problems though and his life is far from perfect.
I on the other hand am by no means wealthy, don't own the home I live in and have struggled at being the stepfather I aspire to be. I do however have a job I love, the most amazing partner I could ever wish for and I feel generally very content. I'd say that I'm successful too.
At the moment I'd probably say not really, but that's probably christmas blues talking and not really being where I want to be and doing the things I want to do just at the moment.
But in the bigger scheme of things I think I'm doing alright- line of work I mostly quite like which pays enough to do the things I like, new wife, everyone's healthy. I'm not that bothered by the trappings of success though.
feel pretty alienated,but I'm healthy,got too many bikes,plenty of time for myself,become a much better person,can build great wheels.
girls smile at me on the street,stopped smoking,can cook.
I'm doing allright,as a person.professionally I've squandered it all.
can't sing tho,can't even whistle.