[Closed] Did your significant other vote differently to you in the referendum?

We voted differently, but decided it doesn't matter cos we just cancel each other out.

my wife and I voted differently, its no problem , it just reflects our different attitudes to risk.

Why would it be a problem? its not like your gf single handedly decided the UK should leave the EU.

No.

Dunno.
Secret ballot innit?

Surely its the reasons for voting leave that define the issue, not the vote.

Me, my wife and my 2 children who live at home all voted the same way. To remain. They are engaged and articulate however they have been betrayed by their elders who voted based on fear, hate an prejudice. We are all grateful.

My wife isn't allowed to vote, despite having being a UK resident for almost 9 years and the vote having a really significant impact on her life.

My gf voted the same as me, but I'm struggling to hold my tongue against various relatives who voted leave. They're no more racist, xenophobic or stupid than they were before the referendum, but it somewhat highlights our differences and the bitterness at the result is hard to ignore.

Mrs_oab and I voted differently in the Scottish referendum. We have had bigger arguments. 😉

Yes,

She voted.... I never.

She told what to vote, how to vote and when to vote.

I voted the opposite to her anyway lol. She voted leave.

I don't even ask my wife, I seem to be able to assume she agrees with me, and she does 🙂

Yes - she voted for the other side.

I think my wife voted the same as me

My parents were 1v1 so decided they'd both stay at home

No OH did not vote the same as me but only because as a non-UK EU citizens he had no vote.

Voted the same, even my 7 YO realised that we should remain.

Mrs Jay was undecided for a long time, we often vote differently, but she managed to find a decition tool she trusted based on stastical fact and well thought out reasoning on the expected outcome of Leave and was was very IN after that.

As for the OP it really depends on her reasoning for me, are you two sides of the same coin, or does she just mumble about immigrants, bendy bananas and white cliffs of Dover?

No idea, not had a definite "What did you do....?" conversation.

Suspect she wanted to leave. I'd prefer to stay due to financial risks. This may not just be restricted to the EU referendum.....

I know exactly how my wife voted, as I had her proxy 😛

I said in she said out so I shuck it all about .

We both voted the same, which was what our youngest (17) wanted, which was what we wanted. Seemed fair as it's going to affect him longer and harder than us and he's too young to vote.

We voted differently, who cares.

my mrs voted differently. I truthfully feel weird about it. She wanted out. She's the daughter of an immigrant from the 60's. I am quite embarrassed by her at the moment. She's very happy today. I'm honestly worried how I'll pay the mortgage if I lose my job. Its possible the company I work for will slowly move head office into Europe. Zero interest might sound good but only if you can pay a flat rate mortgage.

There said it. Humph.

My FIL always voted socialist and assumed MIL did the same. She eventually told him she had been voting for the capitalist imperialist suppressors all along when they were in their seventies.

Yup & she lost. It's OK though I think we're still married and she knows this isn't the end of the world for the UK despite the doom and gloom.

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We both voted the same, which was what our youngest (17) wanted, which was what we wanted. Seemed fair as it's going to affect him longer and harder than us and he's too young to vote.
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We voted the same.

I've heard a few couples say they stayed at home because one vote cancelled out the other. I think that's a great shame since whilst turnout doesn't affect the actual result, it does give some insight into how engaged the voting public are. If 10% of partnerships had differing opinions and half of them decided not to bother voting because their votes cancelled each other out, how much would that have shifted the turnout % if they had bothered to vote?

My partner of 22 years is German so she didn't get a say, even though she has been in this country longer than an 18 year old, who could. Where that leaves us now is anyone's guess.

My girlfriend's reasons for voting for leave were that she thought that we'd be able to continue to trade with Europe and that the money we'd save by exiting would be able to be spent on the NHS 😆 😯

Me and Mrs P voted differently. Our two kids were split as well (though too young to vote). Zero sum game innit?!?

It's no biggie, we understand each other's reasons and are sensible enough to accept that neither option was compelling, it's not the end of the world either way despite what some wallys would have you believe and, more importantly, that the UK faces much bigger challenges than this, IN or OUT. Also anyone thinking that this is the end-game is quite seriously mistaken, because this saga has legs yet...

No but I'm pleased that Mrs Danny for the first time researched her decision.

She didn't know which way to vote and didn't want to just do what I did so discussed it with people, did some reading etc.

First time she's really engaged with the process so one small positive out of the whole mess.

I think Mrs mt voted the same as me (we had many differing discussions) but whatever she voted is not an issue to me. We'll still be together as the threatened Armageddon/massive improvement in living standards (choose your own) starts now that it's out.

Am amazed that it's an issue for some.

My girlfriend's reasons for voting for leave were that she thought that we'd be able to continue to trade with Europe and that the money we'd save by exiting would be able to be spent on the NHS

Fortunately I'm single so I never had to worry about that particular conversation.

no, we both didn't vote lol