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I can think of a couple who would ride around the woods for a few hours, take in lashings of ale on the return route,
get showered and then go at it like wild animals. These things are not mutually exclusive.
Partner that bikes also – worth it’s weight in gold – yup, you’ll need double the ‘gold’ to pay for the kit.
Mostly mythical though aren't they IME.
The number of Women that ride bikes is sadly relatively very small, and the unwanted attention they get when they do probably drives a few more away from cycling.
Me and the boss share enough common interests that we're not struggling for conversation or things to do, and she can normally tell when I'm overdue for a bike ride by my mood so then just sends me out then.
But she has a habit of assuming my time outside of work and childcare duties is hers by default. She's tried to enjoy cycling, but just doesn't and forcing her on to a bike would be a cruel thing to do for both of us.
There's a whole discussion to be had about assumed gender roles and the bad habits we pick up from our parents and wider society etc, but I don't think anyone really wants that, it's easier to gripe about the familiar patterns of behaviour many of us fall into.
I'm not keen on divorce or becoming single seemingly being surrounded by cheerleaders for it, I do actually love my wife.
Unfortunately for many of us riding bikes is something we really like to do but having a family and relationships has to come first, and thus 'Mens hobbies' (I know) often end up as the neglected aspect of our lives. All very predictable and common it seems.
Right guys. Just to clarify, I obviously didn't say 'hey, about meeting up this weekend I CBA, rather go cycling'. I do have more tact than that...
You remind me of how lucky I got...
Got divorced some 10+ years ago, then met a nice gal. She had as many bikes as I did then. Now there are 3 road bikes on the living room wall - 2 of hers, one of mine. And she has 6 bikes while I got just 5.
Things are good.
Road bikes? Hmmmmm.
MTBs are in the garage of course!
Road bikes are more art than ridden. And always meticulously cleaned after that summer sunday ride. Neither of us loves road riding that much - there are cars on the roads, after all.
The acceptance came in our relationship when Mrs Binners put this framed print up in the dining room as there’s invariably a bike in there. My road bike is leaning against the table at the moment 😀
TBH I was surprised that Mrs DoD told me to leave my mtb in the living room next to the table which is already the home of my gravel bike 🙂
Fwiw I think just being honest - as someone else suggested, "it's been really hectic and I could really do with having this weekend to myself and some bike time" - is definitely the best way to go. If you can't be honest with each other and give each other a bit of space when you need it that's a problem, I think. Rather than a problem about how much time is reasonable to spend with your bikes. Feeling obliged to fib about it isn't a good sign, maybe. I can't really imagine any more what it'd be like to have to compromise and share my time or consider anyone else, but that's not very healthy! And with that, I'm off out to the garage to unhealthily spend time with the old MTB that's stuck on the turbo!
Me and the boss share enough common interests that we’re not struggling for conversation or things to do, and she can normally tell when I’m overdue for a bike ride by my mood so then just sends me out then
Though I'm noticing a greater correlation between "You haven't been out on your bike - it would do you good to get out" and it being dangerous rush hour traffic.....she's more cunning than I first thought
Mostly mythical though aren’t they IME.
The number of Women that ride bikes is sadly relatively very small,
Agreed, hence my point they they are worth their weight in gold IME.
My tactic has always been to make it very clear on the first date that half of the weekend is bike riding/whatever hobby I'm into time, no ifs buts or maybes. It's worked well so far.
So you're (still) single then...
I'm flattered but sorry I'm currently taken. I'll be sure to let you know if that changes though.
Jeepers
Mrs Tj was a cyclist. 2 of my female pals are cyclists both quicker than me. I cannot imagine being in a relationship where i could not share my passion for wandering around the scenery by bike.
Though I’m noticing a greater correlation between “You haven’t been out on your bike – it would do you good to get out” and it being dangerous rush hour traffic…..she’s more cunning than I first thought
You know that she knows that you know. But.... you get to go out on your bike, so roll with it I reckon.
The number of Women that ride bikes is sadly relatively very small, and the unwanted attention they get when they do probably drives a few more away from cycling.
Not as rare as you think. They might not be as obsessive about it, and perhaps to reinforce the stereotypes they might (in general) not be about the gnar or riding until you hit the wall but there's plenty of women on bikes. As TJ says:
Mrs Tj was a cyclist. 2 of my female pals are cyclists both quicker than me. I cannot imagine being in a relationship where i could not share my passion for wandering around the scenery by bike.
Of the "cyclists" I know at least 1/3rd are women - most could either kick my ass on speed or technical skills, and a few of them on both. Of the women I know well, the majority would be quite happy to hop on a bike and go for at least a leisurely cycle for a few hours. I'd respectfully suggest that if you are finding it hard to maintain a long term relationship AND spending huge amounts of time on bikes without them - the two factors may well be linked. If your "identity" is very much about fitness / outdoors / active etc - then if your "search criteria" for partners isn't at least considering that then you are bound to fail. That doesn't mean you can never date non-cyclists, there's plenty of female runners, plenty of hill walkers, and even plenty who are less active but quite like their own space whilst you go off to play. I'd also suggest that since cycling is actually fun, many women would do it if encouraged the right way by a supportive partner - you might need to compromise on climbs, distance, duration or technicality if you want any less experienced rider to have fun.