[Closed] Charging 23 year old Daughter keep?

I thought £20 / week was a fair amount given she is earning £800/month.

That's generous, £50 a week would be fair.

£20 a week? That's more than generous.

My kids aren't yet old enough to charge keep, but I will be doing so once they are.

My parents tried to charge me £200 per month when I lived at home after uni in 2003 (with job) and I managed to negotiate it down to £100. They have not charged my middle brother at all.

Guess who had the incentive to leave home 12 months later and who lived at home until they were 33?

I charge my 4 year old goddaughter rent and she doesn’t even live with me. I’ll give her the total bill when she starts earning…

Rachel

Bloody hell are you soft or what.
I paid £50 a week to my parents to live at home in 1982 when I was earning £150 a week as a shift engineer.

I even managed to save for a house as well.

After years of nagging him my 22 year old nephew now pays my brother £40 a week.
My nephew is a brickie and earns a pound a brick.
His mum gets ups at 5.30 so she can drop him to work.
Saucy little ****ing shit.

I paid £100 a month from 21 to 23 (earning 750 a month) back in 06-08

I'll give you £30 a week chuck her out!! 😉

Nothing wrong at all with charging a 23 year old to live at home if she objects loudly then a suggestion that you wouldn't object if she'd prefer to find her own place to rent.

At 18 (1988) I was paying a quarter of everything except the mortgage to live at home which was anything between £150-£230 depending on the time of year ( I should point out I'd moved back home after being booted out at 17 and was back on the understanding that I wasn't being kept)

Agreed. £20 a week is nothing.
Every time she moans about it, put it up by another £10.

Earning £800 a month, and she hasnt offered any help with her costs?
She'd be given a talking to about her responsibilities and threatened with eviction here if she didnt offer a reasonable amount.£100/month is very cheap.
In 1986 when I left my parents house, I was giving them £20 a week, I was taking home just under £100 a week then.

Seems reasonable to me.
Paid my parents £100pcm when i first got a job, and when i got a pay rise they did too.

I was paying my parents that when I was 17, nearly 30 bloody years ago! I was doing an apprenticeship, earning peanuts. Moved out when I was 18!

20 quid is surely just a token gesture! If she won't even pay that, earing the money she's on....

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flanagaj - Member
Just had a massive ding dong with 23 year old daughter over having to start paying keep now she has a job. My wife and I thought £20 / week was a fair amount given she is earning £800/month. She is home for the summer until it the snow season starts again and can swan off with boyfriend for the ski season.

I said her mum and I where not here for her to have free lodgings just so she can rack her cash by to live an unrealistic lifestyle.

Anyone charge their grown up kids keep?

£150-200 a month is a very good deal these days, in my opinion.

Thanks all. Reassures us both that we are not being unreasonable.

Terrible behaviour. You're supposed to be a parent not a landlord

Trollolololol

Perfectly reasonable, that doesn't even come close to food alone.

when I was 17, nearly 30 bloody years ago!

🙂

17 posts, and no ones asked for pics?

Standards are slipping round here!

In 93 I paid my parents £150 a month when I was earning £7k a year. They lived elsewhere so that included bills but not food.

I paid for board as soon as I started earning at 18. Think it was only £100 a month, a quarter of my salary (1987) but my parents put half into an account which paid for all my white goods when I bought my first house at 21.

My kids know they'll be paying board when they quit full time education. They don't know we'll be saving half for them. 😉

any pics of the wife?

I seem to remember paying £30 a week when I had my first job after leaving uni, that was 15 years ago.

Think it was only £100 a month, a quarter of my salary (1987) but my parents put half into an account which paid for all my white goods when I bought my first house at 21.

OP is subsidising white goods already

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Flashy - I actually looked like the hairy layabout in that popular beat combo at the time 😀

My mum charged me £50 a month I think, maybe a week. My dad would have quadrupled it but I never asked him...

binners - Member
Flashy - I actually looked like the hairy layabout in that popular beat combo at the time

You looked like Neil from The Young Ones?

I think my grandad would have appraised the situation thus:

"She needs her arse punching".

You looked like Neil from The Young Ones?

Yeah... and to be fair to my parents they turned a blind eye to me smoking weed all the time out of my bedroom window, and fettling motor bikes til all hours, so fairs fair I suppose 🙂

Flashy - I actually looked like the hairy layabout in that popular beat combo at the time

Without the West Country accent, though! 🙂

What are you planning on doing with the money? Maybe think about keeping some aside for her as a deposit for first months rent to help her move on when she makes that choice. Some may think she should be doing that herself anyway, but nothing wrong with helping out.

If you don't need the money, why don't you charge her and chuck it in a savings account so when she wants to buy a house she has a bit of cash. As its very difficult for the young'uns to get on that ladder.

It's not even enough for coke and hookers really, so you need to be charging her more

I think my grandad would have appraised the situation thus:

"She needs her arse punching".

any pics of the grandma?

She is complaining about getting board and lodging for less than £3 per day? She should snap you hand off!

£50 per week would be more than reasonable.

Time for some tough love.

My old man charged me £100 per month when I was working, out of college and that pretty much included food and laundry services.
I didn't always pay, I missed the odd month but I thought it was fair. It was more than fair really. Young people need to learn how to budget, or they'll be screwed when faced with real world costs.

we charge our 21 yr old son £50 a week which even he says is very good and has offered more !
£20 is very very generous and id be showing her the door for any less

What are relative incomes, wealth and disposable income, and how does she spend it? I doubt the Queen ever billed her kids but poverty stricken parents are justified in taking a few pounds off a high-earning, bling-living off-spring. I doubt I'll ever bill junior so long as he can bring himself to be civil. In fact I've agreed to bank roll his next three to five years, so long as he can bring himself to be civil. Flat, fibre connection, mobile phone, food, transport clothes... . He just has to send me the bills and till receipts for everything except drink and drugs.

Bloody hell! Hark at little Lord Fauntleroy 😆

My Mum let me stay in return for baby sitting my little sister after I offered to pay - after Uni but before I got a job at which point I moved out. My Dad didn't know we'd agreed this and asked what I wanted to pay but my Mum told him all sorted 🙂

Flat, fibre connection, mobile phone, food, transport clothes... . He just has to send me the bills and till receipts for everything except drink and drugs.

if they are old enough to have a flat why don't you give them a monthly sum - much better way of educating them on budgeting shurely

Heated wing mirrors?

Oh how the other half....

binners - Member
Heated wing mirrors?

Oh how the other half....

I lived on a grant with no parental top up and it was a lesson in life I didn't need. I'd rather pick up the tab than have him eating out of bins, never using the heating, worrying about the cost of a swimming pool entry, not visiting parents because of the transport cost and being sick of standing around in the rain hitch-hiking... .