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having a choice is definitely true. for example, i get irritated (which is sometimes an understatement!) by a lot of ads on TV (those postcode lottery ones, for example... argh!) and i know it's completely irrational, and that i could choose to ignore them or even just switch them off. but i don't, and yeah i know that's entirely down to me.
i think what i'm saying is that maybe we like being irritated, and choose to get in that state deliberately, albeit perhaps subconsciously?
There's no doubt getting angry can sometimes be quite enjoyable, sometimes a good rant is just what you need.
Sounds like me too I'm afraid and I also seem to have become rather judgemental and opinionated and I don't really like it; turned 50 last November.
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Yes, and after letting my irritation show in one particular setting (involving a charitable board) once too often I'm learning to keep my irritation in check. Broadly people are alright. I now try to think in terms of a group ride - you go at the pace of the slowest person.
I just got snapped at for telling my wife the car needs some T-Cut. Apparently, she already knows this.
I’m sure I read that increasing irritability/grumpiness in men as they age is related to falling testosterone levels.
Yeah but look on the bright side, irritability isn't as bad as engaging in the sudden casual violence that youth and testosterone encourages. Swings and roundabouts etc etc
A couple of things: although mentally I say let it go my body continues to react amost making me feel unwell but saying something releases that tension albeit it's short term relief and I pay in the long term by being confrontational.I have had trouble with depression/anxiety and an inability to relax for decades (even with lots of exercise) and used to use alcohol to chill me out but took that too far ending up in hospital so am tea total now.Add in chronic long term insomnia and guess it's not suprising I am often irritable and impatient.I really envy type b personalities with sloping shoulders who can fall asleep on a knife edge.With regards to enjoying being irritable I think it's unlikely although I do love the Victor M character and dry humour like Cleese uses in faulty towers when addressing people he's not too impressed with!
It's quite normal to find yourself getting more irritated by people as you get older. You've had more time than many to appreciate quite how irritating many of them can be. Danny Dyer has a word for them.
"yeah, in fact a fellow STWer even called me Victor on Twitter this morning. pissed me off a bit. oh, the ironing."
Yeah - Ironing on a Sunday winds me up too . . .
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I get really irritated if someone asks me to do something, then tells me how to do it, and micro manages it. Either F off and let me do it in peace, or do it yourself, don't turn it into a two man job!
Ditto people who repeatedly ask "have you done it yet?", no I F** well haven't, you said it needed doing for next tuesday and it'll be done for next tuesday, but today is wednesday and there's a whole heap of stuff on my priority list before your task.
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Not pointing out what’s wrong with what people are doing and being overly careful of their feelings is what gave us snowflakes.
Stay irritable I say.
Didn't you call me condescending in another thread for disagreeing with you?
Page 2 and we still don't have this list of things that irritate OP.
A quick glance through this thread and it looks like STW has come up with the definitive answer to solve irritability -
- Be happy
- Don't get old.
Wise words.