So I guess it’s the not being asked which bothers me, because it implies that they consider me as completely beneath them.
Are you sure that's not an inference on your part?
You are at best sending mixed messages. You don't mind them parking except when you do. Your actual gripe is that they didn't ask you first, which is fair enough, but you say you'd have said yes anyway... so as a neighbour knowing that you're perfectly happy for them to use the space, why would they bother asking? What would be the point? Do you really want them knocking on your door when they come home from work every night? "Hi mate, I've been parking here for the last ten years now, just checking that you haven't changed your mind today."
I get it, I do. It'd irritate me too. But I think you either need to put up with it happening, or if it bothers you that much then you need to talk to your neighbours so that they understand your expectations. Maybe have them round for a cup of tea and a Powerpoint presentation. 😁
EVEN if this was a public road it’s still polite for the neighbours to ask before they tell contractors to “just park outside the neighbours”…
Maybe your local geography is different from mine but I don't think I've ever instructed contractors or delivery drivers where to park in the history of ever. They're like minicab drivers round here, they park where they like and bollocks to anyone else.
Anyway, it turns out I was being a knob because I just opened the door to the neighbour bearing a Christmas card with chocolates and a note apologising for the contractors parking outside my house.
Ouch - don't you just hate it when that happens. You will, forever, feel bad now.
What sort of chocolates?
Perhaps the neighbour lurks on this site…
What sort of chocolates?
A double decker...
Hopefully it’s not a box of novelty knob shaped choccies.
Cougar
Maybe your local geography is different from mine but I don’t think I’ve ever instructed contractors or delivery drivers where to park in the history of ever. They’re like minicab drivers round here, they park where they like and bollocks to anyone else.
Contractors and normal delivery drivers are two different beasties.
Getting 20 tonnes of hardcore delivered and unloaded or 5000 roof tiles or a 4 ton mini digger hire etc. is another matter. In my experience companies delivering those rarely deliver WITHOUT checking parking extensively...
The roof tiles is a real example as the neighbours asked in advance... but same neighbours asked to park in front of my house (on public road) when they were getting their extension conversion as well so the contractors didn't park in front of me (and made it easier to unload). The contractor came round WITH neighbour and asked and then offered to get an extra 100 and replace a few of the damaged ones on my roof.
One HUGE difference is anything NOT a permitted development is likely to have constraints on construction traffic in planning from highways especially if this has been raised as an objection.
Flaperon
Anyway, it turns out I was being a knob because I just opened the door to the neighbour bearing a Christmas card with chocolates and a note apologising for the contractors parking outside my house.
Still don't think you were being a knob, they should have at least asked ... HOWEVER I'd have taken the opportunity to gratefully receive choc's whilst saying "thank you - very much appreciated but it is actually my land and I'd appreciate you asking in advance if you can just in case I have informed someone to park there or I intend to whilst a visitor uses my drive"
Stupid design in the development, if you ask me. Its the developer saying "you all have shared responsibility for this non adopted access road", except when it comes to retarmccing the access, are you going to go out and have a seperate contractor do you individual bits?
If its yours, go and get some double yellows painted on your bit?
A double decker
This deserves acknowledgment!!😂😂
Re the askimg first.
Hi Flaperon, is ok to park outside ypur House all day today?
"umm no, sorry not today as my elderly relatives are all coming rpund for lunch, but thanks for asking, its usually ok as i dont use it much"
Can we have a classic footpaths thread? Mainly so I can find out what one is!
That would presumably be in the 'classics' part of a forum dedicated to such things. Like, Single Tracks... ah, oh.
This deserves acknowledgment!!😂😂
Yup. 👏
Perhaps the neighbour lurks on this site…
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In an exciting plot twist it turns out the neighbor is in fact @Cougar
And the chocolates are indeed knob-shaped.
Don't ask how I made the mould.
@squirrelking I think if I had to pick once decisive factor it'd have to be the word "knob" in the title.
I've just popped back having thought I'd avoid all the bickering for a couple of days. Can I have a summary and is knob status determined yet?
I would say after having seen the location then yes, you're being a dick....perhaps not as big a dick as the developers or those who granted planning permission.
Not as if there's a defined verge or area that looks as though it's attached to your property.
Suck it up or cause disruption and have a neighbourly dispute on the records when you come to sell it.
tomparkin
Full Member
@squirrelking I think if I had to pick once decisive factor it’d have to be the word “knob” in the title.
Disappointing. I'd hoped you were made of cake. 😀
Summary. He owns the road, but no one would ever know by the way its built. Neighbour just arrived with peace offering and apology
Knob Status = flaccid
