[Closed] Age gap relationships

Me 36 she 43

Me 34, she 26.

Me (female) 35 , him 53. TBH it worked better before he hit 50 and decided he was old, it's hard work keeping him in a positive frame of mind at times.

i'm ten years younger than my wife. no issues at all.
if you get on and have fun, age really isn't an issue.

Me 33

Him 60

Me 43, she 50.
My sister (who is 45), has married a bloke who is 34. He's a good lad too. Way, way better than her first husband who was more her age but quite frankly, a ballsac. All money, money and fast cars and that. Her new husband rides mountain bikes. He's alright in my book, and probably Benji's too. Except he only rides at weekends. But at least it's mountain bikes and not cross bikes or road bikes. 10 miles of mountain biking is worth a million cross miles, yes?

Me 65 she 12. oops wrong forum! 😉

me 32 him 40.
i dont think age matters at all.

Roter Stern - Is your stage name Gary G? 😆

My brother was 35 and divorced with 2 kids when he met his current wife, who was 17 at the time. He went on to have 3 more kids with her, and recently they've become grandparents.

EDIT : I had three consecutive long term relationship in which all three were 9 years younger than me. Not a big gap I know, but it was weird that all three were nine years younger than me, and they all followed each other.

The Gentleman's Rule states that it's acceptable for a boy to date a girl half his age plus seven.

Think about that for a minute. It's a very good rule of thumb. At 16, your floor limit is 15. At 20, it's 17. At 30, 22. At 40, 27.

Cougar - does it also apply to women and younger men?

Me 37, her 42.

I've always liked the more worldly lady.

Its one thing to fancy a nubile, young, pert, milky skinned lovely...it's another being forced to have a conversation with them 😉

The Gentleman's Rule states that it's acceptable for a boy to date a girl half his age plus seven.

What complete and utter bollox.

If it's legal in your country, and both parties are willing participants, what does the age gap matter?

What kind of moron invented a formula?

Girl "I love you and want to be with you but I'm only...". Guy "Oh cool, wait hang on, let me get my calculator..."

I never fail to be amazed at the stupidity of mankind.

I just watched Piers Morgan interview Barbara Windsor

unless you were:
a) paid a fortune
b) forced at gunpoint
c) offered long sexytimes with Cheryl Cole
... then why did you watch such utter contemptible shite?

Cougar - does it also apply to women and younger men?

I never really worked that out TBH. I'm open to suggestion.

What complete and utter bollox.

Thank you for that eloquent response to a light-hearted comment. In terms of selecting a partner I don't think age is your biggest worry.

I never fail to be amazed at the stupidity of mankind.

You are Gary Glitter AICM5P. By that logic, I for one look forward to shagging 16 year olds when I retire.

stoner hits the nail on the head

+1 for stoner...

...I've dated women younger than me. Lordy.

I'm a deep thinker and I don't suffer fools.

-1 for Stoner.

The theory is sound, but intelligence does not directly equate to age. I'd rather chat to an intelligent teen that an idiot my own age.

it is not about intelligence but wisdom and maturity....I can see why you dont look for that in a partner 😉

She was 31 and I was 17,
I knew nothing about love, she knew everything,
When I sat down beside her on the front porch swing,
And wondered what the coming night would bring.

its not just intelligence though. and yes there's plenty of young ladies who are a delight to talk to.... but it's a rubbish numbers game 🙂

I do have a mate in his early 30s who's dating an amazing girl of 19. She's very much the exception to the rule, but she's absolutely scintillating company.

99% of girls younger than 28 don't interest me.

muppetWrangler - Proverbs 31:17 - She girdeth her loins with strength,.... Showing her readiness to every good work; and with what cheerfulness, spirit, and resolution, she set about it, and with what dispatch and expedition she performed it. 😉

@tuckeruk Dude chill, its just a joke..

culpzy - you've lost me, what is just a joke? 😕

What complete and utter bollox.

What kind of moron invented a formula?

I never fail to be amazed at the stupidity of mankind.

What a strange thing to get angry about 😕

Me 21 years younger than her.

Together 21 years.

Still happy, still hate being stuck in hotels away from her.

Does it work?

No idea, I have only had 21 years of experience so far. I will answer back in another 20

4 years younger than my wife, was dating a 28 year old when I was 17 for a long while. I've only ever been out with one person who was my age or younger and it was cack.

Stimulate my brain and interest me with your thoughts and life experience and I'll crawl over broken glass for you regardless of what you look like

tazzymtb - if my wife dies soon. do you want to meet up?

😉

anytime darling 😀

me 44, she 28 😯

Age is just a number.

If two people love each other, who are we to judge?

(Older women are hot)

Worldclassaccident is my hero 😆

Stimulate my brain and interest me with your thoughts and life experience and I'll crawl over broken glass for you regardless of what you look like

Someone else who prescribes to the Henry Rollins school of dating too then!

In all seriousness, age doesn't matter, it's how you get on with the other person that counts. But as tazzy and others here have suggested, much more often than not, younger women fail to stimulate the brain in such a way! OK, my ex (7 years my junior) was perhaps the single exception, but other than her, just about every girl I've ever been involved with (for more than a couple of dates) has been at least a year or so older than me... Read into that what you will, but you can't buy maturity!

Shouldn't be an issue unless you want children but the body clock is ticking away ...

We have a family friend who was a priest and theological advisor to the Pope, got thrown out of the Vatican for his views on marriage for Catholic priests and at the age of 60 he left the priesthood and married a Jewish woman aged 30. They have two sons who are now at University. He is the kindest, most wise person I have ever known.

I'm 24 she is 22. Not a massive age gap but we have been together for the last 6 years she stuck by me when I have been all over the world playing soldiers. Love her to bits and think it's there forever.

My dad is 62 and last year married a 38 ( now39) year old and they had a baby so I am in the odd position of getting a baby (half) sister at 36 who is younger than both of my own kids!
It seems fine for now but I don't understand how it is all going to work in 10 years or so. Thankfully it's not my problem as such, especially as he lives in the US and I live in Europe as does my brother.

I think the age gap must only really become an issue in later life. Do you really want to be 45 and married to an incontinent 70 year old geriatric?

I'm 26 she's 30, together 6.5 years and been through loads together. She didn't know I was as young as I was when we met, we clicked (I've generally got on better with people older than me) and the rest just happened.

She still laughs at thinking I was starting secondary when she left.

I'm 16 years older than my wife. Age is just a state of mind.

Me 33
Her 40

Just had a baby and have a 10 year old.

All good!

me 46, she 36. been together since 27/17. has worked great so far, 2 kids, and we've changed together as the years have rolled by, both with same outlook/goals in life. so far......... 🙂

I'm 13 days older than my wifey. The stubborn girl's is just unwilling to accept that I'm simply more mature and more worldly wise than she......

DrP

My two previous partners were 8 yrs younger and they were very good happy solid relationships (until the end obviously) both lasted 10yrs+ the current MrsBikeBouy is only 1 yr younger, the differance in attitude is marked.

My mate is 30 and married a 60 yr old woman. However - he went out with her daughter for quite a while before hand.

He now has step grandkids at 30. Mad eh!

My ex-wife was 5 years older than me, that caused problems as I always felt pressured by her bio clock and by the time we got to a place that was right to start thinking about a family, her age worked against us.

I'm 37 now, spent the last 2 years with a girl of 25 which worked pretty well but fizzled out. We were on a far closer wavelength and far more evenly matched when it came to the physical side of the relationship.

And I can't deny, going from a saggy 40-something to a pert smooth-skinned 25 year-old is definitely to be recommended. 😉

Current play-thing is 24, not marriage material but great fun when the lights are out!

No age gap here but some of you seem to think that just a few years is an age gap, I'd say 10 years before you talk some sort of age gap. Not this 4, 5 or even 7 years thing.

Me 43. She 24. Inter-racial relationship too. Lasted only two years but that was down to cultural differences not the age gap, and in her culture it was common for the woman to be much younger that the guy.

i'm a toy boy - by 7 weeks 😉

oh, anyone else noticed the UK Stairlift ad that has appeared atop the screen as I browse the thread 🙂

Me 30 her 22. Age doesn't matter.

Drac - Moderator

No age gap here but some of you seem to think that just a few years is an age gap, I'd say 10 years before you talk some sort of age gap. Not this 4, 5 or even 7 years thing.

I'd disagree with that, as per my last post, when you're a mid-thirties guy, being with a woman 5 years older puts huge pressures on the relationship. I agree, 5 years younger is hardly worth a mention - it all depends when and where people are in their lives.

When I first met my wife, I was 21, she was 26. The age gap wasn't an issue at all then.

With my most recent ex, the 12 year age gap (her younger) didn't really seem to cause any issues as we were very similar in terms of mentality and maturity... And other ways too! 😉

I'm still interested to hear about the Him:75, Her:45 relationships and how the smell of wee and being retired fits into daily life...

I'd disagree with that, as per my last post, when you're a mid-thirties guy, being with a woman 5 years older puts huge pressures on the relationship. I agree, 5 years younger is hardly worth a mention - it all depends when and where people are in their live

Can't speak from experience of course but it's only 5 years, it's not like you were some teenager or young man in your twenties.

32:22

A much better ratio than say 32:29. Where the balance swings far too much in the direction of 'life plans'.

But whilst we're on this topic... My ex's dad was 72. He was dating a 29 yr old. Based on his history of ex-wives he seemed to part-ex every 15 years to get a newer model. An inspiration.

Can't speak from experience of course but it's only 5 years, it's not like you were some teenager or young man in your twenties.

That's my point - when I was a younger man, starting a family wasn't part of the equation. When I was 18, I had a fling with a 32 year old - as far as I was concerned, I was just spreading a few wild oats.

But when my wife's age started to impede her ability to have a family, that 5 years suddenly became a gulf. If she'd been the same age as me, we'd have had a 5-year headstart on the position we found ourselves in, which would have made a huge difference.

I never fail to be amazed at the stupidity of mankind

Me neither when it comes to people utterly mis-interpreting posts 🙂

35:32 for me and Mrs Grips ftr.

I see your point but it's to do with choosing not to have kids until your ready which is the wise decision. But still 5 years is nothing, a 37 old going with a 20 year old and it's a bigger difference. But only if the 30 year old wasn't ready for kids.

I'm still interested to hear about the Him:75, Her:45 relationships and how the smell of wee and being retired fits into daily life...

Depends on his estate doesn't it?

Probably a Passat if he's STW member.

Me 30, she 33. Not much but still feels a bit naughty, like she's taking advantage of me.

Im 49, wife is 37.
She does find it amusing that she used to go on holiday to where i lived when she was very little and i would have been hanging around on street corners in my leather jacket and Clash t-shirt.

My wife is 9 years younger than me - at (nearly) 44 and (just turned) 35 it isn't a problem. But when she was 18 and I was 27 it did not go down well with her dad well at all.

The age gap never really caused us any problems at all (emotionally), although it was difficult accepting her going away to uni, going traveling etc when I owned my own house and was getting on with a career.

wonny j = easily titillated!

does anyone else read these numbers and think 'gear ratios'...

42:28

36:24

etc.

...just me then?

I have a theory on this that in age gap relationships you default to the age of one of the parties in terms of behaviour and attitude. For example, my younger brother is 28 and has married a girl who is 32 where as I can 30 going out with a 25 year old. I feel like I have an older brother as he is settling down with kids, has a career and has a more mature attitude, he is now 32. Compared to me who still goes out drinking, spends a lot of his time playing on push bikes and has no intention of kids just yet, so I am 25.

it is not about intelligence but wisdom and maturity....I can see why you dont look for that in a partner

Touché! (-:

does anyone else read these numbers and think 'gear ratios'...

old enough to bleed, old enough to slaughter.

😯

I have to say I tend to find some of the age gap relationships rather creepy.

I concur, sometimes they creep me out.
Yet when I see a 50 something fella with a 30 something younger model, after ive gotten over the resentment, I feel like high fiving him.

when I was seeing the 28 year old, age was never an issue. she was very smart, very sexy, liked the fact that I was more active than other men she knew. my age, or her age was irrelevant to both of us. there are childish 60 year olds and dull, middle aged 24 year olds. flabby 21 year olds and lean active 56 year olds. if you're on the right wavelength the age isn't much of an issue - unless the younger one is less than 17 IMO.

slimjim78 - what would your initial reaction be to a 30 something fella with a 50 something lady?

i find it hard to believe that a relationship that is workable at 48 V 28 isn't going to be totally unworkable when those numbers are 68 V 48.

i guess lots of us here are roughly around 48, many 68 year olds out there that really do it for you or would share the energy and enthusiasm you still have for life ?

supertramp - dont really have an issue with that either. I would just ecpect it to happen less often as we all know men tend to age a bit... better?

Unless you really want to have kids, then what the hell? right?

Within 5 years is effectively the same age as far as relationships go, and its only really counted as an age gap when its over 10 years.

slimjim78 I'm not sure that the man being the older in an age gap relationship is the norm. I think we would have to set a base line figure of say 5 years (though I'm open to suggestions) of difference and then count up the replies outside this range - any volunteers?