My two previous partners were 8 yrs younger and they were very good happy solid relationships (until the end obviously) both lasted 10yrs+ the current MrsBikeBouy is only 1 yr younger, the differance in attitude is marked.
My mate is 30 and married a 60 yr old woman. However - he went out with her daughter for quite a while before hand.
He now has step grandkids at 30. Mad eh!
My ex-wife was 5 years older than me, that caused problems as I always felt pressured by her bio clock and by the time we got to a place that was right to start thinking about a family, her age worked against us.
I'm 37 now, spent the last 2 years with a girl of 25 which worked pretty well but fizzled out. We were on a far closer wavelength and far more evenly matched when it came to the physical side of the relationship.
And I can't deny, going from a saggy 40-something to a pert smooth-skinned 25 year-old is definitely to be recommended. 😉
Current play-thing is 24, not marriage material but great fun when the lights are out!
No age gap here but some of you seem to think that just a few years is an age gap, I'd say 10 years before you talk some sort of age gap. Not this 4, 5 or even 7 years thing.
Me 43. She 24. Inter-racial relationship too. Lasted only two years but that was down to cultural differences not the age gap, and in her culture it was common for the woman to be much younger that the guy.
i'm a toy boy - by 7 weeks 😉
oh, anyone else noticed the UK Stairlift ad that has appeared atop the screen as I browse the thread 🙂
Me 30 her 22. Age doesn't matter.
Drac - ModeratorNo age gap here but some of you seem to think that just a few years is an age gap, I'd say 10 years before you talk some sort of age gap. Not this 4, 5 or even 7 years thing.
I'd disagree with that, as per my last post, when you're a mid-thirties guy, being with a woman 5 years older puts huge pressures on the relationship. I agree, 5 years younger is hardly worth a mention - it all depends when and where people are in their lives.
When I first met my wife, I was 21, she was 26. The age gap wasn't an issue at all then.
With my most recent ex, the 12 year age gap (her younger) didn't really seem to cause any issues as we were very similar in terms of mentality and maturity... And other ways too! 😉
I'm still interested to hear about the Him:75, Her:45 relationships and how the smell of wee and being retired fits into daily life...
I'd disagree with that, as per my last post, when you're a mid-thirties guy, being with a woman 5 years older puts huge pressures on the relationship. I agree, 5 years younger is hardly worth a mention - it all depends when and where people are in their live
Can't speak from experience of course but it's only 5 years, it's not like you were some teenager or young man in your twenties.
32:22
A much better ratio than say 32:29. Where the balance swings far too much in the direction of 'life plans'.
But whilst we're on this topic... My ex's dad was 72. He was dating a 29 yr old. Based on his history of ex-wives he seemed to part-ex every 15 years to get a newer model. An inspiration.
Can't speak from experience of course but it's only 5 years, it's not like you were some teenager or young man in your twenties.
That's my point - when I was a younger man, starting a family wasn't part of the equation. When I was 18, I had a fling with a 32 year old - as far as I was concerned, I was just spreading a few wild oats.
But when my wife's age started to impede her ability to have a family, that 5 years suddenly became a gulf. If she'd been the same age as me, we'd have had a 5-year headstart on the position we found ourselves in, which would have made a huge difference.
I never fail to be amazed at the stupidity of mankind
Me neither when it comes to people utterly mis-interpreting posts 🙂
35:32 for me and Mrs Grips ftr.
I see your point but it's to do with choosing not to have kids until your ready which is the wise decision. But still 5 years is nothing, a 37 old going with a 20 year old and it's a bigger difference. But only if the 30 year old wasn't ready for kids.
I'm still interested to hear about the Him:75, Her:45 relationships and how the smell of wee and being retired fits into daily life...
Depends on his estate doesn't it?
Depends on his estate doesn't it?
Probably a Passat if he's STW member.
Me 30, she 33. Not much but still feels a bit naughty, like she's taking advantage of me.
Im 49, wife is 37.
She does find it amusing that she used to go on holiday to where i lived when she was very little and i would have been hanging around on street corners in my leather jacket and Clash t-shirt.
My wife is 9 years younger than me - at (nearly) 44 and (just turned) 35 it isn't a problem. But when she was 18 and I was 27 it did not go down well with her dad well at all.
The age gap never really caused us any problems at all (emotionally), although it was difficult accepting her going away to uni, going traveling etc when I owned my own house and was getting on with a career.
wonny j = easily titillated!
does anyone else read these numbers and think 'gear ratios'...
42:28
36:24
etc.
...just me then?
I have a theory on this that in age gap relationships you default to the age of one of the parties in terms of behaviour and attitude. For example, my younger brother is 28 and has married a girl who is 32 where as I can 30 going out with a 25 year old. I feel like I have an older brother as he is settling down with kids, has a career and has a more mature attitude, he is now 32. Compared to me who still goes out drinking, spends a lot of his time playing on push bikes and has no intention of kids just yet, so I am 25.
it is not about intelligence but wisdom and maturity....I can see why you dont look for that in a partner
Touché! (-:
does anyone else read these numbers and think 'gear ratios'...
guilty of this as well
old enough to bleed, old enough to slaughter.
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I have to say I tend to find some of the age gap relationships rather creepy.
I concur, sometimes they creep me out.
Yet when I see a 50 something fella with a 30 something younger model, after ive gotten over the resentment, I feel like high fiving him.
when I was seeing the 28 year old, age was never an issue. she was very smart, very sexy, liked the fact that I was more active than other men she knew. my age, or her age was irrelevant to both of us. there are childish 60 year olds and dull, middle aged 24 year olds. flabby 21 year olds and lean active 56 year olds. if you're on the right wavelength the age isn't much of an issue - unless the younger one is less than 17 IMO.
slimjim78 - what would your initial reaction be to a 30 something fella with a 50 something lady?
i find it hard to believe that a relationship that is workable at 48 V 28 isn't going to be totally unworkable when those numbers are 68 V 48.
i guess lots of us here are roughly around 48, many 68 year olds out there that really do it for you or would share the energy and enthusiasm you still have for life ?
supertramp - dont really have an issue with that either. I would just ecpect it to happen less often as we all know men tend to age a bit... better?
Unless you really want to have kids, then what the hell? right?
Within 5 years is effectively the same age as far as relationships go, and its only really counted as an age gap when its over 10 years.
slimjim78 I'm not sure that the man being the older in an age gap relationship is the norm. I think we would have to set a base line figure of say 5 years (though I'm open to suggestions) of difference and then count up the replies outside this range - any volunteers?
We've a couple where I work. She is 35 he is just 20. A very young 20 IYKWIM - acne flounces and all that caper.
Most people here think it's weird. A woman in the local sarnie shop asked her where her son was one day when she went in without the boyfriend!
I'm not bothered. I just think he should've played the field a bit before getting so serious with her.
on of my posts seems to have gone AWOL, I was going to say the same anyway, if we discounted 5 years or less gap and counted up the responses would men be in the majority as the older half of age gap relationships? it appears not, but I can't be bothered too count the replies - volunteers?
Leave it Derek. Move on 😉
I did see a 30yr old when I was 17, but that was exceptional circumstances (someone was after citizenship, I wish I was making it up).
My current SO if the one woman who is younger than me, and it's alright.
There's currently a 18.5% difference in ages and its slowly shrinking.
I came out of a 12 year relationship 3 years ago
There was a 28 year age gap between us, and for most of that we had a wonderful time.
I made the incredibly difficult decision to leave as there were two things we were never going to be able to do together:
Have a family together, and Grow old together..... 🙁
I am now 38, engaged to someone I went to school with and we have a Beautiful 14mth old girl.
Age gap relationships in my experience can be wonderful, but there will come a time when you need/want/have to do different things.
I'm 55 and hopefully lovely young Roxana Gregorova will get a Visa this year to come over following our wedding in Georgia.
We met online and its not like what everyone says. We are normal people and she has a big heart. She is also bringing over her Mother, ex husband and child too as she didn't want to feel lonely in a different culture.
Thanks Hora...needed that! 😆
What did Hora's wife say? or is she dating a Polish guy while Mark has his fun? 😆
I dated a 42 year old when I was 26, she was hot and smoking in bed literally. We broke up as the conversation of kids/growing old made her worry I would leave her. She was wrong as I still don't want kids and I'm 34 now.
Hello Russian wives direct? I would like to order part number 36DD please...my credit card is 8)
cr500Dom...
You were 35 and she 63 when you broke up? And 23 and her 51 when it started? 😯
Back to seriousness. sis in law (30) saw a married 50yr old and he told her all the male-crap (that we all know), strung her along for two years. You know 'will leave wife etc etc'.
He didn't even have any money and looked like Chris De Burg ffs 😆
Some people just like em older looking I guess.
Personally I'd be more than happy with a 21-38 yr old 
