My kids 25,23,19,18 have historically been non political- they all voted to remain and are more than slightly annoyed - angry would best describe it. Now they don't really have a view on old school politics (don't really know who Thatcher, Blair etc are) so they don't have a left/right political view. They now have no time or respect for the perceived mass voters (pensioners, benefits class, non graduates in many cases) who took Europe away from them.
It should be noted they are a significant number of them and they recieve on the whole little or nothing in the way of benefits (quite the opposite as many have student debt)
They were not quite strong enough to swing the vote in the referendum however this is not the case in a general election as proportional representation means nothing.
So it's 2017 and the Tories win a landslide with a combination of Brexit and the new political class - step forward to 2021 and tax receipts are on there arse, unemployment and low pay no progression jobs are the norm for the new political class who are now on the whole 30 years old- when the Tory Government of he day says we must cut pensions/benefits back to subsistence living are the new political class going to rise up and defend the old and unemployed? Like **** are they
The UK has changed politically but not in the way the a Brexiteers expected
[I]The UK has changed politically but not in the way the a Brexiteers expected [/I]
Would that be the Politician Brexiteers or the Brexiteers Voters?
IMO the Politicians didn't have a plan, except to get into power, and the Voters were just anti-Politics and had no idea that a plan was needed...
If you treat people like animals, they behave as such.
Blaming people is easy.
The cult of the self is now the norm.
People are proud of behaviour that previously would have been seen as reprehensible. Social responsibility is seen as weakness, caring about others a character flaw.
The political and social legitimisation of greed, combined with the deliberate disenfranchisment of the working class?
This is what you get.
Just wait for the top generations of populace to die off. Those that blindly vote Tory because of "what labour did in the 70s". The younger generations are now better informed than the old and are losing their political apathy at an earlier age. Tory and labour are both on borrowed time. I think you'll see a lot more multi party coalitions. The current government know this is coming and are trying to line their own pockets at the expense of the working classes and the sick.
No telly in your house in the nineties?
BOOOORIIIING
I think they're here already!!!
I just saw this. It was the poorer workers what done it -
http://www.spectator.co.uk/2016/07/brexit-voters-are-not-thick-not-racist-just-poor/?ref=yfp
I've been assuming it was the biggest protest vote I've ever seen, perhaps a way of saying 'get this stitched' to DC.
pensioners, benefits class, non graduates
OP i suggest the first thing they do is understand the above is a false and ludicrous steriotype, secondly that they try and appeciate that the EU is unlike any other "trade" organisation in the world and that that is not a good quality.
As for the future no one has a crystal ball but consider this scenario, the 2020 election takes place in an environment where we have exited the EU and are starting to see the benfots of new global relationships. Against this backdrop Europe is in a deep eurozone crises, Greece has left the euro and the other members are nursing €200bn is losses with Portugal, Spain and Italy on the brink with unemployment running at 15%. Remainers of all ages realise we are better off out of that mess and the Tories sweep to victory.
I'll have whatever jamba's drinking,I haven't tripped like that in 40 years.
^^ Jamba's wet dream right there...
New political class.... Nah.
No respect for the old, unemployed, less well educated workers...... we've seen it all before. Thatcher anyone?
They now have no time or respect for the perceived mass voters (pensioners, benefits class, non graduates in many cases) who took Europe away from them.
EU values would promote respect for all, as would democratic values.
Perhaps they've spent a lot of time online reading their friends shared links, exposed to the echochambers of various forums, facebook groups etc. and don't appreciate the nuances to the "leave" arguments - having not been exposed to them (aside, of course, from straw-man image macros).
I'd be angry with those who hold the actual power, rather than the fellow commoner, if I were in their position - divide & conquer innit? 😉
So we had a peasants revolt? What happens next? Let's be honest this group of people on the whole couldn't be arsed to vote in the last election?
All of them?
Wow.
Blaming the poor for everything used to just be the preserve of a certain kind of unpleasant, snobbish fool.
Isn't it so much nicer now we can all join in?
The younger generations are now better informed than the old and are losing their political apathy at an earlier age.
[b]64%[/b] of 18-24 year olds didn't vote in the EU Referendum.
The point I am trying to make is that if this protest group feels down trodden then this is actually going to make life worse as they have no political support under the current system - so are they going to take their protest to the street?
Let's see. The referendum was only advisory, and there's been a backlash. Son-of-Dave may choose to ignore it after a few opinion polls show a majority for remain. And heirs-of-Boris haven't come up with a plan. Meanwhile the EU are discovering it's not only the UK that's expressing doubts, so may offer an olive branch.
If Labour weren't so busy stabbing their leader in the back, they'd be getting stuck into the Tories. Let this amateur coup get sidelined, then Chilcot will shut them up, and JC can start acting like a leader. As Nicola has been since day one.
Another three weeks, I'd guess.
so are they going to take their protest to the street?
Well if almost two-thirds of 18-24 years couldn't be bothered to stroll down to their local polling stations for a once-in-a-lifetime referendum vote then I wouldn't rely on too many of them manning the barricades.
This isn't the 1960s you know.
They have better things to think about - such as unattainable dreams of becoming rich and famous.
Bang on Ernie.
So how does a protest vote work when it hands power to the very people who are most likely to reduce even further the rights and wellbeing of the working poor?
So how does a protest vote work when it hands power to the very people who are most likely to reduce even further the rights and wellbeing of the working poor?
which is also what a lot of people think the goal of the EU is.
A lot of these older voters have seen the whole history of signing up to the common market, the expansion of the EU, the political aspirations of the EU, how the EU has stuffed the southern countries of Europe, etc, and have made a judgement based on that.
But apparently not, we should be trusting the politically naive youth.
Look at the voting stats, the older voters were, the greater the leave vote.
It would be nice for the current parties to be able to divorce some of their history, choosing your vote today based on thatcher, Blair or what clegg may or may not have done is pointless and leads to the deep divisions across politics. For the young get involved, make it conversation and shape your own future.
Seriously OP? If people in their 20's do not remember Blair or have an idea who Thatcher was I would say they are dangerously ignorant and not equipped to make an informed choice about EU membership. You seem to be suggesting that their opinions should carry more weight than older people (particularly non graduates).
Maybe they should educate themselves about democracy, learn to respect others and wind their collective necks in!
Did any of these precious souls actually make any effort to win over Leave voters before the referendum?
Not saying that this new political class is smart or well educated in politics or the EU but the fact is the exit voters are not likely to prosper and as I have said elsewhere it's those who didn't vote to leave who will prosper- the division between the haves and have not sure will get bigger as no one in power gives a rats ass about the working/or not poor
but the fact is the exit voters are not likely to prosper and as I have said elsewhere it's those who didn't vote to leave who will prosper- the division between the haves and have not sure will get bigger as no one in power gives a rats ass about the working/or not poor
That's a fact is it? Really? I don't know if you've noticed but this Tory government whilst in Europe has been hitting the poorest and most vulnerable in society again and again. The young who voted to remain as you say have had no favours either tuition fees set to rise, high cost of housing, minimum wage a real prospect for most with no hours contracts to boot. I think you live in a dream world mate.
oldmanmtb - MemberMy kids 25,23,19,18
Four kids?
How horribly selfish.
They are all anti democracy then? Maybe they would be happier in north Korea.
Where were steriotype benfots?
Mitsumonkey I agree the Tories have been doing this to the poorest but my point is that group of people voted for Brexit handing more power and less accountability to the Tories or are we going to see a massive resurgence of the Labour left?
Four kids yes selfish but all bought and paid for...
and less accountability to the Tories
Out of the EU all UK governments will be more accountable, include Tory governments.
So how many people reading this the thread think the poor (working and not) will benefit from Brexit.
What people are ignoring is the fact that as individuals age, they become more conservative. Many of the insular and fearful oldies who voted leave would have been on here opining on common good and global responsibilities when they were younger.
So it is ourselves who will be that older generation soon, and we can expect our views to be out of kilter with the radical young. Humbug.
So how many people reading this the thread think the poor (working and not) will benefit from Brexit
Yes it's like they've shot themselves in the foot isn't it. Complain about the Polish taking their jobs but at least there were jobs to be taken. Not so sure any more.
Well if almost two-thirds of 18-24 years couldn't be bothered to stroll down to their local polling stations for a once-in-a-lifetime referendum vote then I wouldn't rely on too many of them manning the barricades.
This +1
If they want to blame someone, they should lay the blame at their friends, not the old.
Agree muffin man but the question remains will the poor suffer due to Brexit, we have probably got many years of Tory rule ahead of us (with a majority)
Recent polling indicates that young people did turn out and vote.
http://www.theguardian.com/politics/2016/jul/02/brexit-referendum-voters-survey
Someones got their figures massively wrong! On Tuesday it was 36%...
...from 36% to 70% turnout in the space of a few days. Someones massively cocked-up, or the young who didn't vote are now claiming they did when surveyed. And no one can prove otherwise.
^^ Jamba's wet dream right there...
Aah...
His typing left handed would help explain the spelling errors that turn half his posts into utter gibberish.
The other half? Well...
ernie_lynch - Member
The younger generations are now better informed than the old and are losing their political apathy at an earlier age.
64% of 18-24 year olds didn't vote in the EU Referendum
I'm not sure if I'm shocked or saddened or both by that information.
We need reform of the voting system, move it online and I'm pretty sure more young voters would engage.
Like my children they move around a lot with Uni jobs, life etc registering for voting is bottom of their priority and I understand that.
We all get one vote, use it whatever your age. Wasn't so long ago a lot of people on this forum were advocating not voting in the election like Russell Brand. His advice seems a little silly now like his politics
oldmanmtb - MemberMy kids 25,23,19,18
Four kids?
How horribly selfish.
Selfish you say? Somebody's got to fund those triple-locked State [s]Benefits[/s] Pensions.
@the-muffin I find the young who don't / won't very dissapointing. People died for their right to vote. I feel quite strongly that youth culture people like Russel Brand have a lot to answer for. I know my own 3 daughters are pretty gutted, they all voted and everyone they knew was Remain but its an eye opener for them that they live in a bubble and other parts of the country or population feel very differently.
@Pawsey - I don't agree, voting should require people to put at least a token amount of effort in. Register them at home for a postal vote or do a proxy.
So how many people reading this the thread think the poor (working and not) will benefit from Brexit.
Certainly me, in the medium and longer term they will be much better off. Of course it will depend upon the exact exit terms but we need to be as far away from ties with the EU as possible when Greece/eurozone sovereign debt crises hits
@the-muffin I find the young who don't / won't very dissapointing. People died for their right to vote. I feel quite strongly that youth culture people like Russel Brand have a lot to answer for. I know my own 3 daughters are pretty gutted, they all voted and everyone they knew was Remain but its an eye opener for them that they live in a bubble and other parts of the country or population feel very differently.
No they didn't., lots of 18 year olds died during WW1. Parliament felt bad so 21 year old men and 30 year old women were able to vote after the war, for 10 years that went on until women were given the vote aged 21. It still wasn't anything close to the universal sufferage we have now.
People died due to naievety about war and misplaced nationalism. World War 2 doesn't strike me as a war over voting rights either, and if you argue that it was - you're simply full of jingoistic crap.
Certainly me, in the medium and longer term they will be much better off. Of course it will depend upon the exact exit terms but we need to be as far away from ties with the EU as possible when Greece/eurozone sovereign debt crises hits
I'm assuming that the tories are going to be bringing in a guaranteed wage then, for all the thickies that will be superfluous to modern economies in the long term?
Selfish you say? Somebody's got to fund those triple-locked State Benefits Pensions.
[url= https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ponzi_scheme ]Ponzi scheme.[/url]
New politics - what's that? So far we have
Labour and Tories both in disarray due to irrevocable splits that have and will continue to haunt them
The apathetic can't be arsed to participate in the democratic process and then complain about the result
The recent economic performance including trends in employment, wages and inequality continue to be mispresented by those who can't be bothered to check easily available data/facts
All sounds pretty familiar to me!!
Jambalaya how will they be better off in the medium term? What will we doing then that we are not now? No one's going to opening shipyards steelworks mines or any other skilled industry? We could become a global call centre? For the life of me every thing I have seen over the past 50 years and particularly post the miners strike has done anything to help the poor
There is no getting away from the fact that this vote has handed enormous political power to the right - Maggie is back to haunt us once more
..from 36% to 70% turnout in the space of a few days. Someones massively cocked-up, or the young who didn't vote are now claiming they did when surveyed. And no one can prove otherwise.
Well the article that you link to does conclude, after pointing out that the figures are unreliable :
[i]"Nobody can quibble with the assertion that young people in the UK are bad at voting."[/i]
and now we get to the crux of it. Well done you.Certainly me, in the medium and longer term they will be much better off
Pawsey - I don't agree, voting should require people to put at least a token amount of effort in.
Huh, registering by paper or electronically, what's the difference?
Mine are registered at home. First thing the council did was to send a letter insisting my council tax went up as I had not declared them as living with me. Two weeks to reply. I found the letter on return from holiday with deadline already expired. Its time to improve the system and treat people as voters in their right and not connected to a property. You not noticed how many people live in rented accommodation?
Your children not think there's an easier way to register and vote electronically? It would be a real step forward given the number of times a year I'm required to vote. Police commissioner, mayor,local council, referendums, elections.
@Pawsey - I kind of agree with you but worry about the security and privacy issues associated with e-voting.
I guess if the maligned identity card scheme had been introduced it would be easier 😐
Also if e-voting became universal then I guess there could be even more votes per year. If the Brexit referendum has shown anything it is that many of the electorate vote on bias rather than careful judgement so I do not think this would be a good thing.
You are right that things could be improved though and it is crap that the council used that information in the way they did.
the above articles aren't (in any way) contradictory:
They say voter turnout in the 18-24 age range was 36% or, as put earlier, 64% didn't bother to vote. The link above states that of the 36% turnout, over 70% voted to remain.
I've moved around and lived in rented accommodation for over 10 years but was always registered to vote, so I'm sorry but it can be done and people need to get off their arse. Radio1 ran repeated stories on how to register, probably other similar networks did also. End of the day even if it was electronic you'd still need to be registered and I suspect have to go to a polling station. For me the present system works and if it can work for an old person suffering from a thousand ailments then what excise have the young got?
Oldmanmtb - your kids, in disrespecting (rightly or wrongly) the beliefs\attitudes of other segments of society to which they currently have little attachment, is bigotry.
Harsh? Maybe, but from your own OP, they are intolerant toward pensioners, non-graduates and those on benefits...
We shouldn't deride these groups, but attempt to encourage and engage them. Challenge their beliefs with logic and reason. Some of those you meet, you'll never change their minds, but there are plenty who are willing to listen.
I went door to door in Bristol and Bath during the referendum and received everything from threats to hugs. Many in the middle were willing to listen. We voted 62% remain 🙂
#killemwithkindness
Daffy I aplaud your sentiment (not taking the piss) I have raised my kids to be considerate socialists and to understand that we need to take care of the less well off - they understand this but they really don't understand why this section of society would vote against their (mine and my kids support) as I have said before what happens next? There is no plan, they (the poor Brexiteers) will become even more persecuted and no one on this forum has proffered any sort of plan or way forward for the disadvantaged elements of our society - to be frank it's a *ing disgrace that no one on this forum (pro bexit) has given any indication of how these poor *ers will actually improve their lives.. socialism my arse
I went door to door in Bristol and Bath during the referendum and received everything from threats to hugs. Many in the middle were willing to listen. We voted 62% remain
You are the first person I "know" who actually campaigned for Remain, congrats to getting involved.
@oldman I am pretty sure ernie and Corbyn didn't support Leave as they felt it was a way to give power to the right. We are taking back power to give to whoever we elect.
As for medium term we can now focus globally without one had tied behind our back and we can distance ourselves for the economic corpse the EU is becoming. Both are hugely positive.
EDiT: thats how the less well of will be best served - see below. As for a plan I would have liekd for the Referendum to be binding and that way the government would have had to make a plan. Leave was a campaign not a government, the plan was made atbthe BoE / HMRC and the plan is to negotiate terms with the EU then activate Article 50.
As for persecution that will be in very short supply when the EU / eurozone blows up and they realise we are much better off out.
There is no plan, they (the poor Brexiteers) will become even more persecuted and no one on this forum has proffered any sort of plan or way forward for the disadvantaged elements of our society - to be frank it's a *ing disgrace that no one on this forum (pro bexit) has given any indication of how these poor *ers will actually improve their lives.. socialism my arse
Of course, there never was.
But if people want to ignore the evidence of experts, they have to live with the consequences of their actions. They only have themselves to blame.
considerate [s]socialists[/s] citizes and to understand that we need to take care of the less well off
The less well off are best served by a strong economy. The 25% youth and 10% general unemployed in France aren't helped by relatively generous welfare of €500 a month, being at the heart of the EU and members of Schengen and the euro
There is no plan, they (the poor Brexiteers) will become even more persecuted and no one on this forum has proffered any sort of plan or way forward for the disadvantaged elements of our society - to be frank it's a *ing disgrace that no one on this forum (pro bexit) has given any indication of how these poor *ers will actually improve their lives..
But they shouldn't be persecuted. They voted for change. Not necessarily against the EU in many circumstances, they were just fed up with the perceived decline in their way of life, much of which (again rightly or wrongly) they ascribe to immigration. In the deprived areas of Bristol such as Southmeade, or Filton, immigrant populations were increasing as housing was cheap. It was cheap because more affluent (read mortgaged to the hilt) people didn't want to live there. This left the deprived (finically incapable of improving their surroundings) with migrant renters who (like students in Clifton) have little or no interest in making the place nicer and integrating with locals. Locals believe the migrants are the cause of the problems, but they're really a symptom of a need for cheap labour in cities which are increasing in size and are generally making a positive contribution (by paying tax, buying food, using local services and schools) to the area which would otherwise decline further.
Local councils have yet to really step in and deal with this schism like they have in the past. Carnivals, local events, etc,they all help cultural integration and understanding. This worked in Bristol, Bradford and London in the 80s and 90s.
You have to fully understand another's point of view before you can comment on whether its fact or fiction in light of events in context. Regardless, they should never be dismissed.
The Referendum is over, Brexit will continue. BUT. Those who feel aggrieved can change the FUTURE. Join the LIb Dems, fight for, campaign for, speak for the benefits of Europe at the next general election. That's where my efforts are going. I hope your kids will do the same.
Like Jambalya - I too feel that Europe is heading for a fall, but unlike Jambalya. I think that we can fix it. With Britain, France and Germany working together, as friends, allies and partners. Europe can be reformed. David Cameron did his best (and in my opinion did quite well under the circumstances) but fundamental changes need to be made. Free movement should continue, but significant extra EU funding should be provisioned for when migration to a place is high. This funding should be given to local councils for the building of facilities and methods for integration of new populations.
Daffy I agree with all you have said I the above post and Jambalaya I understand the taking power concept - but how long is it before there is a viable opposition to the right wing of the Tory party? As it stands the Labour Party may will spilt into "Blairite v corybanite" the lib dems are history and we have no SNP equivalent unless you count UKIP
The origional point of this thread was to point out that there is a substantial new political class (not protest voters) and they are more likely to vote right wing, today he Chancellor announced corporation Tax cuts to 15% which in theory will attract investment but the reality is it will attract wealth managment not industry and keep UK based business more profitable but less likely to invest that surplus.
They voted for change. Not necessarily against the EU in many circumstances, they were just fed up with the perceived decline in their way of life, much of which (again rightly or wrongly) they ascribe to immigration.
Therein lies the problem. The ballot paper made not reference to the wooly notion of change. It was a specific question re our membership of the European Union. Nothing more, nothing less.
There are other votes where a general dissatisfaction with life can be registered but this was not one of them. And if people,think that the decline in their way of life is due to immigration, well.....
The origional point of this thread was to point out that there is a substantial new political class (not protest voters) and they are more likely to vote right wing,
Where is the evidence for this substantial change? If that were the case you would imagine that he Tories would have done better than to achieve a small majority and UKIP would have more than one MP.
today he Chancellor announced corporation Tax cuts to 15% which in theory will attract investment but the reality is it will attract wealth managment not industry and keep UK based business more profitable but less likely to invest that surplus.
Not sure how that works...why is wealth management more sensitive to tax rates than industry? Why is making business more profitable bad? Why does more profit lead to reduction in investment?
Therein lies the problem. The ballot paper made not reference to the wooly notion of change.
But the campaign to leave DID.
The leave campaign said lots of things that were Bllx, but that's another story
People had a chance to exercise their democratic right. If they chose to exercise the right poorly or incorrectly then that is their problem. The ballot paper was very clear.
teamhurtmore - Member
The leave campaign said lots of things that were Bllx, but that's another story
And so did the remain campaign..get over it fella.
.....then that is their problem.
No, I think you'll find it affects the rest of us too.
That attitude is exactly why we're in this position.
On the contrary, the fact that people wont/cant take responsibility for themselves is part of the problem.
Yes, it effects us - but deal with it and accept responsibility for you own decisions and the basis on which they were made.
Re: Non-Graduates
Wahooh, I am a minority group now, where do I sign for my prize ?
P.S. please explain in simple words, why ****ting around "Uni" for a couple of years, makes you a super brain - in simple words please !!
You learn to spend student loan (posh people benefits) on drugs, fags and booze and maybe get a useless certificate.
Re: Non-GraduatesWahooh, I am a minority group now, where do I sign for my prize ?
P.S. please explain in simple words, why ****ting around "Uni" for a couple of years, makes you a super brain - in simple words please !!
JackHammer - Member
You learn to spend student loan (posh people benefits) on drugs, fags and booze and maybe get a useless certificate.
Neither of these attitudes are any better than branding people as
It just creates stereotypes and divisions.Non-Graduates
It was the OP who implied his graduate kids (the 19 year old must be a genius to graduate at such a tender age) think that they are superior to non-graduates and, as such, believe that their opinions have more worth.
As a graduate myself I have learned that this is not the case and many of the people that I admire most did not attend university. The list of college drop-outs below is US focused but illustrates that completing a degree is not a pre-requisite for achievement.
Bill Gates
Steve Jobs
Frank Lloyd Wright
Buckminster Fuller
James Cameron
Mark Zuckerberg
Tom Hanks
Harrison Ford
Lady Gaga
Tiger Woods
As for the future no one has a crystal ball but consider this scenario, the 2020 election takes place in an environment where we have exited the EU and are starting to see the benfots of new global relationships. Against this backdrop Europe is in a deep eurozone crises, Greece has left the euro and the other members are nursing €200bn is losses with Portugal, Spain and Italy on the brink with unemployment running at 15%.
And you called me thick.
[I]Daffy I aplaud your sentiment (not taking the piss) I have raised my kids to be considerate socialists and to understand that we need to take care of the less well off - they understand this but they really don't understand why this section of society would vote against their (mine and my kids support) as I have said before what happens next? There is no plan, they (the poor Brexiteers) will become even more persecuted and no one on this forum has proffered any sort of plan or way forward for the disadvantaged elements of our society - to be frank it's a *ing disgrace that no one on this forum (pro bexit) has given any indication of how these poor *ers will actually improve their lives.. socialism my arse [/I]
+1
Previously I've always cast my vote for who/what I think is best for the country, not what is best for me (and immediate family).
I/We have always done well, whoever is in power and whatever policies they've adopted - having always been in decent jobs/work/contracts both here and abroad plus always owned our own houses, kids educated privately etc.
I'm now wondering whether I should just vote for me, and f*** the rest of the country?
I'm now wondering whether I should just vote for me, and f*** the rest of the country?
The same had occurred to me, but then the thought of voting Conservative and having to live the the shame would be too much 😉
socialism my arse
Never a truer word spoken 😆
Well I never thought I would see the day that enfht expressed her/his support for genuine socialism.
Although I suspect it might be a case of enfht being a tad confused by what oldmanmtb was saying. Sharpest tool in the box and enfht aren't two things which I tend to associate together.
"for the perceived mass voters (pensioners, benefits class, non graduates"
You know the Government's of the last 20yrs have conspired to saddle generations of graduates with huge debt with many who will still paying it off well into their 40's.
I find it offensive when I Hear older voters are somehow not to be trusted to vote. They after all lived through alot more than you or I.
Do you really think someone on 'benefits decided to pop down to vote after he/she collected their social? Alot of rubbish has been spoken on both sides of the debate. Classing those that voted out in demonisable, easy to visualise sections of the population says much about the media and those that read what the media choses to report.
Let's not forget 25% of the population wanted to remain. The majority voted for change.
There was a woman in a cafe in Scotland at the weekend banging on loudly about how think leave voters are and all they cared about was immigrants.
I gritted my teeth and kept quiet.
We should respect others political opinions whatever they feel. It's a democracy and everyone should be allowed free thought and will without being insulted.
Maybe some people should stop reading the newspapers with skewered reporting and the top three hits on Google.
I don't think you can raise your kids to be anything unless you indulge in brainwashing. If you encourage independent thought they are unlikely to end up with the same values as you as you are only a part of their world with a decreasing influence as they grow up.