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Who's man enough to admit it? Viagra......
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I've used a herbal tablet called 'Herbal Blue' when tired and stressed, I got it from the local sex shop but you can get it on Ebay
It last for about 3 days.
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We've both talked, stroked, all sorts but we can't relax.
Perhaps if that's the case then you aren't quite ready to be jumping into bed together? Just take your time, someone else suggested just having nights out together, have a laugh, have non bedroom fun. Sex isn't everything and people put so much pressure on themselves to think that they should be doing it at every possible free second.
We've never used Viagra so this post isn't particularly helpful to you but if you've been offered a prescription by your doctor then go for that, and any counseling he offered. Don't go for some herbal remedy or something you can find cheaper off t'internet, it's not worth taking the risk.
Edit: Missed your last post - go you!!!!
Edit Edit: 2 hrs in a bath - did you not both look like prunes when you got out. Try shower next time, shower sex is amazing
Especially with.... oh never mind Posted 4 months ago # -
This isn't about pills, it's all in your head, clearly. I had exactly the same thing after my first marriage ended in a flurry of multiple women then found one really a bit too young for me and I had a few issues exactly as you describe.
So, some things to get straight in your head, it can and does happen to all of us, it's just a matter of when and how, sometimes it can be drink, sometimes stress, whatever, it does.
The other ramification you must consider (this might make it worse for you) but she must be thinking it's her fault, not attractive enough for you, something she's doing wrong etc etc, so the problem is shared, only she hasn't got anything structural to fix so to speak.
Edit Oh and try not to use any kind of drug ever if I can avoid it, so no to the blue pill.
Edit Oh and never use drugs of any kind if I can avoid them, so no I wouldn't bother, fix the mind first.I'd give it a rest, try and diffuse the situation then sooner or later it'll just come back on its own, try not to think about it, use natures natural moments (piss proud in the morning) once you've done it once or twice it'll go away, it's all just nerves.
This is going to sound a boast, but since I'm in a totally anonymous environment I can speak about it, I never have until now, but my problem was exacerbated by personal physical issues in that I'm a bit bigger in the endowment area than I would like and have had 'fit' issues as well and it takes more to 'get it up and keep it that way' so I know exactly where you are.
All I can say is try not to let it get to you, make a joke about it, take the blame entirely on yourself don't make her feel bad and get your 'timing' right, women are more susceptible at different time cycles and the ferramones work in both your interests, (bit like dogs and heat, we don't like to talk that way, but it is true).
So good luck and my respect for bringing it up, I've been fine for twenty years now, but still worry every now and again and as soon as i do, I then have to worry even more, it's a nightmare trying to forget so you can 'get on with it'.
Edit Oh and try not to use any drug if I can avoid it so no to the blue pill
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Great stuff! Im bookmarking this- funnier than some of the joke threads we've had!
Hora- youre mad!!
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A mate of mine went through a similar situation as the OP after loosing his job and started to fail to rise to the occasion. His marriage then failed (she made his problem public knowledge)he met another women but same situation. He was started to use Viagra but after a while was back to rising to the occasion without the help of the blue pill. He put it down to the stress he was under at the time and the vicious circle of anxiety when it was time to perform that exaggerated the problem. Once he was happier in life and knowing with Viagra he could get an erection he'd relaxed enough to for it to happen naturally.
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:oops:Sorry, missed the fact you've sorted it, good well done, but in my case, it was there now in my head, the fear, and who that biatch was in someone else's post who took the piss and told everyone, probably the worse thing you could do to a bloke. Still it put paid to my philandering which was going nowhere and I've been happily with the same partner ever since, it helped that eventually she got an orgasm pretty much every time which didn't happen that often with previous women and made me feel a bit better about myself.
Lots of psychology in this wham bam and thank you mam stuff innit?
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LSD and sex can be extremely funny, especially when you get distracted by the curtains halfway through!!
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emma82 - Member
Sex isn't everything
Perfect illustration of the difference between men and women.
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Why?
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I agree sex isn't everything, if it was I wouldn't have spent £300 on a night out for her birthday, would have done the deed at home. (as an example) I prefer sex to be a bonus to a good loving relationship....
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geordiemick00
Much respect posting this mate.. and a great result too. Brilliant. Chuffed to bits for you.
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mrs tts is a pharmacist and she can sell you the stuff over the counter ( as in quite a few pharmacies, she works for tesco)
be prepared to have a 'consultation' in a room with the pharmacist and be prepared to discuss yor medical history and your sexual history in a LOT of detail be prepared to discuss how you masturbate etc..
so i d suggest checking out who the pharmacist is first before embarking on your journey make sure its someone you ll be comfortable with discussing these issues..
mrs tts says i should point out that the questioning for emergency hormonal contraception is less rigourous,should your partner need it the morning after..
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I had to buy the MAP once, I'm not sure who was more embarrassed, me having to answer bell end questions or the seemingly inexperienced and slightly judgypants pharmacist having to answer them, all over the counter public and in earshot of everyone. On reflection it was definately her. 'when did you have sex' ..... 'bout an hr ago, keep it quick I really need to get home for a shower'. Lol.
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One of the most interesting and warming threads on here for a long time, chapeau for starting it and glad it all worked out for you both
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Viagra is great stuff. I take it every so often and can go for hours even when totally smashed. Brilliant.
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very cool.
loling at Em82, I went to see sara once on the spur of the moment and came home on the early train, still smelling a bit, erm...ripe. Got some funny looks
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would have done the deed at home. (as an example) I prefer sex to be a bonus to a good loving relationship....
Only a man could describe a thread that is about a bloke asking about needing a boner to get laid, then reporting on his boner and getting laid as 'warming'. I love STW
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Mostly Balanced - Member
emma82 - Member
Sex isn't everythingPerfect illustration of the difference between men and women.
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emma82 - Member
Why?emma82 - Member
would have done the deed at home. (as an example) I prefer sex to be a bonus to a good loving relationship....Only a man could describe a thread that is about a bloke asking about needing a boner to get laid, then reporting on his boner and getting laid as 'warming'. I love STW
I think you may have just answered your own question. Sort of?
In the naughty edition of Trivial Pursuit there's the question 'What can a man do that could provoke any of these emotions: anger, humour, sympathy?'.
How many of those could a bloke get away with when his lady's got a 'headache'?Posted 4 months ago # -
Hope it all works out ok mate!
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My fiancee and i had this exact experience an the begining of our relationship (he said he was going to post on here earlier but i assume he got distracted). Once this happens, it becomes a vicious circle, can't get it up through stress, stressed cos' you can't get it up. Like you, he went to the doctors and was prescribed cialis (less side effects than viagra). He ended up using a herbal alternative called niterider which was very effective! It lasts 3 days and sometimes a little longer. All well and good to use for a dirty weekend but make sure you look at a long term plan. Mr LP ended up taking these pill religiously every 3 days and wouldn't let me near him if it gone over this time through fear of failure (he could always become errected but struggled to maintain it). Fortunatel he started loosing count of how long it had been and would sometimes loose momentum, giving me the opportunity to show him that it didn't matter and instead use the time to cuddle up enjoy ourselves without penetration. Within a few months things started to improve, and we are closer than we probably would have been by going through this together. The main advice i can offer is toTRY not to worry about it and just enjoy getting closer to each other, and it might be an idea to reassure from time to time that it's not a lack of attraction. I would sugest using the above mentioned pills (we order of ebay from america, takes about a week to arrive) and if she makes a move towards intercourse, don't push her away through fear of failure. In my experience it feels worse than if it fails half way through. Sorry if some of this seems a bit jumbled but it's 4:30am and i'm posting from my phone. Hopefully you'll get male perspective and advice tomorrow from mr LP.
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I've used hundreds.. I don't need them, but I like to use them now and then.
A half tablet or a bite out of a tablet will be enough for most first time users, but it depends on the person's health etc.
Side effects for the first few tablets include rolling eyes, blurred vision, and a stuffed up nose (it seems there are PDE5 recepters in the penis, nose and elsewhere). Orgasm may also be blunted. These side effects dissipate with use. De-sensitization to the drug builds up very quickly.
I personally think nothing beats the rigidity of Yohimbe, and that can be obtained easily on ebay etc. Side effects with yohimbe though include not being able to sleep for 24 hours or so...
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