Daughter is 16 now, went through a rough time of it between 12 and 13, partly wrong crowd and kids being asshats, partly Aspergers as we discovered.
First proper BF at 13, lasted a year and a bit, not a great experience for all involved, despite attempts to keep a close eye and also provide the best and most supportive advice possible. Daughter now realise exactly what was going on and although has a few hangups is kinda OK.
next BF at 15, he’s 17, but year above at school. nice guy, bit clueless, but would do anything for her. They’ve been together for just over a year now.
It’s a bit of a shock to the system realising that your daughter is now eying up the condoms in poundland whilst being silly with a toy bear. But we were all that age and most actied similarly.
for me it’s about burying that feeling of ‘no you shouldn’t’ as it’s just not appropriate, let her explore what she wants in a supportive environment, able to ask questions if she feels she needs to and not feel like she’s up to something dirty or wrong.
I did however tell her not to shag while her mum and I are in, otehrwise we’d start in the next room and she doesn’t want to hear that.
seems to be a deterrant.