I usually just get away from it all, by going somewhere for the day or even a couple of days with the bike and simply get away...
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When it all gets too much - What do you do?
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Posted 1 year ago #
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Treasure the little and simple things.
The smell of fresh coffee, the taste of a fresh orange, the feeling of maximum physcial exertion, a loved one's smile, etc, etc....
Either that or go on a massive drug binge.
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I often find that all the little things that start to bug me are a result of one larger issue - the kids not listening/doing as they are asked and neglect by the Mrs (even though most of the time there isn't really a problem). There are times when I feel I might as well be invisible. My problem is I just find myself doing the same back to them by keeping my distance which results in a never ending circle. It's hard to let someone close to you know how you feel (at that particular time) and that that's wrong with you, but getting it off your chest does help. Talking is a good thing even though it can be hard.
You need to ask yourself honestly if there is anything that is causing you to feel the way you do. You are certainly not alone.Posted 1 year ago # -
Granny Weatherwax once said, You need to know whats real, what aint and what's the difference.
Never a truer word spoken. When I look back at the things I've ever worried about and then noticed that 90% of it never happened I feel a bit better about the future.
Worry gets you nowhere. Kids and wives seem to be sent to test my patience, work can be a little annoying at times and for the most part we all have our obligations to meet. Overall though it's good to be alive, especially when you're riding down something tricky at speed in the pissing rain with good friends and wanton disregard for the consequences.Life is good - Remember it.
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A bike ride's nice, but personally I'd spend the whole ride with a niggling feeling of only being out to avoid my problems for a couple of hours.
For me, anyway, a better plan would be to sit down with a pencil and paper, write down the problems and make a stab at what I can do about them in the short term - and then (and only then) go for a ride with a clear conscience.
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Granny Weatherwax once said, You need to know whats real, what aint and what's the difference
+1 for anything Granny Weatherwax says..
Me personally.. if the bastards are actually starting to grind me down.. I run off to play with the hippies for a few days..
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2: Listen to the good folk on here (and only the good ones)
how does one tell which are which ?
things in life have really helped me 'Assess how bad my situation is in comparisson to others'
that has to rank as some of the worst advice on this topic I have ever read
The capabilities and suffering of others is completely irrelevant.
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For me, some problems seem unsolvable. Whatever solution I think of leads to unwanted consequences. It can do your head in mulling over possible solutions.
So, I make non-decisions, a bit like Alice in Wonderland and the cat
"Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?"
"That depends a good deal on where you want to get to," said the Cat.
"I don’t much care where--" said Alice.
"Then it doesn’t matter which way you go," said the Cat.Just chill man.........
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Perhaps you are lacking in self-belief at the moment thus not actually dealing with matters that require your attention?
The more you avoid dealing with them, the more it reinforces your current mindset?
Riding some familiar trails may help and, possibly, just getting out of your comfort zone.
But in any case, you have to confront how you are feeling and work out the best way of dealing with it.
Good luck.
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The most important thing to realise is that you aren't special...
Everyone, to a greater or lesser extent, experiences exactly the same kind of problems. We all feel like shit at times, we all struggle to get to grips with stuff, we all feel small and hopeless and useless, we all feel scared and worried.
I've no clever solutions, no 'do this and you'll be fine' suggestions, but appreciate that most of what you are feeling is just life in all its infuriating depressing shitty glory.
In addition, realise that the way you feel is not a fixed thing, not set in stone, and you can change it; you can, with some practise talk yourself out of thinking in a bad way or about bad things.
You might need a little help at first, so don't be shy about seeing your GP, but see this as a temporary thing and eminently a fixable one.
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Good words from folk there especially from Crikey
?sounds like stress to me and bike riding is my stress buster. Releases endorphins and burns up the adrenaline that stress releases but has nowhere to go as you have no tiger to run away from.
Combine a hard fast ride with a bit of navel contemplating
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Hey Mark, you could always give me a bell and we can go out for a drink. I could tell you about my problems. That would make you feel better!
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if the bastards are actually starting to grind me down.. I run off to play with the hippies for a few days..
i go to north ronaldsay. it takes days to get there and there's fkall to do once you're there. it's magic
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Could be that you are suffering from Seasonal Affective Disorder, as it kicks in about this time of year for us Northern hemisphere dwellers. Can leave you unable to handle things as well as you normally would, extra fatigue etc.
Lots of good advice and feedback on here, but I suggest you take up naked hula hooping.Posted 1 year ago # -
Pizza. Doesn't solve every problem, but it fixes a fair few.
Failing that, a week up in the north of Scotland in the winter, away from it all (seriously).
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*****UPDATE*****
So often these threads never get any sort of closure so here goes
A month on and I have heeded some of the advice given. I have made the conscience decision to make more ME Time I have ridden a lot more started hitting the gym again and am starting to have more belief in myself again.
So thank you to all that posted up stuff.
Love the Alice in Wonderland example
I think to completely stop me feeling like I did in my original post again will take time but hopefully heading in the right direction.
So thank you.
Mark
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