Enjoyed a great day at a certain South West trail centre with the lads yesterday but it was soured by an awkward moment on the way home. I fell asleep in the passanger seat of my mates car, and was awoken when I felt someone's hand on my lap. Startled I slapped his hand away, but he went on to confess how he really felt about me. I've known him since Uni (10 years ago) and was a bit worried back then about his habit of seemingly following me everywhere I went. What should I do? He was a good mate, if a little 'quirky' but now!!? He does also use this forum, so your advice may also reach him.

I suspect it was just wishful thinking on your behlaf & you should stop trying to put it on him

Ha ha… well you can either go with the flow, or get upsett… if you still want him as a mate you have to say so, if you want something more, then its your choice.

Tell him your not interested and let that be the end of it? Or are you interested?

Probably took your mate a lot of (dutch) courage to tell – you – be respectful of him

Wot TJ said. If he's a good mate, and a decent person, he'll respect your wishes and one day you'll laugh about it. 🙂

If he is a mate then he will obviously know if you are likely to swing both ways or NOT!

So I would tell him to **** off and if he still wants to be mates he should keep his hands to himself! 😀

PeterPoddy – Member
Wot TJ said. If he's a good mate, and a decent person, he'll respect your wishes and one day you'll laugh about it.

Agreed

Do you have feelings for him? If so- go out for a drink and a talk. If you definitely don't – also tell him that you are flattered but dont want to earn your male brown wings.

This might be the ultimate of wind ups, you have been warned 😉

Input from a pinkstiffie, just what you need!!! 🙂

Yeah, I'm definitely not interested (sorry mate if you read this). Wish I could've kept it a bit more secret, but couldn't help tell the mrs when I got home, or some other mates down the pub last night. There's a bit of widespread shock at the moment as he's been with his GF for 4-5 years and seems(ed) really happy.

And now you have told the whole internet, and he is a forum user… Well thats well and truly aired then!

Talk to him in person. Jesus, give him some bloody respect. I've known about one of my great mates being gay since 1994. I even shared a student house with him (although he locked his bedroom door and I never did). He never hit on me and if he had I would have said not my thing. Its not the end of the world- take it as a compliment.

Has to be a troll… lets face it when was the last time that a red blooded male was seated next to an old female friend & grabbed her boobs etc as a come on ….

He just placed his hand on my knee, much like you would to your own partner on a long motorway journey, I think it was how startled I was that prompted him to come out with it all. THe advice on here has been a lot more constructive than my (less metro-sexual) mates advice, so thanks.
Just one question though, if he wasn;t just winding me up, what should I do about his Mrs? Surely she has a right to know what her BF really wants?

Try it you might like it.

Regardless of how you feel about the approach 'outing' him to your friends and the the whole bloody internet is despicable behaviour.

If you were any sort of friend you would have sat down and discussed this like adults before you said ANYTHING to anyone else.

someone watched rocknrolla then decided to troll the STW massive..

Haha, go round & see the GF, if nothing else the back door must be open if hes been with her for a few years

Nice trolling – however I will answer – about his missus – none of your business.

LMFAO

Sorry new to all this – 'Trolling'?

go round & see the GF, if nothing else the back door must be open if hes been with her for a few years

😯

lets face it when was the last time that a red blooded male was seated next to an old female friend & grabbed her boobs etc as a come on ….

Your right of course, however getting them smashed first is usually the tactic.

So it would seem your pal is also cheap.

I actually do have feelings for him- after all he is pretty handsome.
what shall i do?

Knob him. giver or taker?

Start out with some petting and work you way up to the bitey thing..

Must be a taker.
Hes from Chesham Bois…..all in the name

Remember to reach around 😯

In your dreams Guido the Pae**. Thanks for going on my PC whilst I get the coffees in! Your comments are less helpful than thy were at the started. Just out of interest….. what line would you guys choose for max chances with his bird, bearing in mind what I've got to tell her?

it happens to all friends eventually

the bad thing

How did you know im a paedo?
Oh yes, the court case thing..

go for the suprise reach around. true friends will appreciate it.

Nice windup… made me laugh.. 🙂

Wind up? i hope not. ive pulled.

It didn't work yesterday Guido. It won't work today.

Why the back track? it was so romantic yesterday….

😆 Make sure you give him a reacharound at least.

I'm amazed that anyone would think a hand to the groin was an appropriate first approach (regardless of sexual orientation)