Be polite if they have not treated you like a slave or violated, as in probing, you in anyway.

If they have been cocks in the past then let loose Benneli M4. No need to be polite. Life is too short to say “thank you” after being stepped on. Set the example for all employers. Including yourself.

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Life is too short to say “thank you” after being stepped on. Set the example for all employers. Including yourself.

Unless of course you come across your ex-employer in another job (which is often the case), then you’ll find you’ve cut off your nose to spite your face etc….

footflaps – Member

Unless of course you come across your ex-employer in another job (which is often the case), then you’ll find you’ve cut off your nose to spite your face etc….

There is such possibility but rather remote. You cannot live in fear. But then in the unfortunate case you got the ex-boss as your boss and if s/he is trying it again, then you get proper medieval on him/her because s/he has not learned the lesson. The cycle goes on … 🙄

I tried not to burn my bridges with a previous employer, so nice letter delivered in person, full explanation of leaving, college course, exams etc (which they knew about) and a change in career after college, even gave them 6 weeks rather than 2 weeks notice.
Then my line manager ignored me for the next 6 weeks and on the final day I was escorted from the building earlier so I couldn’t even say goodbye to friends etc.

Do not resign until bonus is banked. They will obviously reduce if not eliminate. Don’t fall for that.

Use very short, written letter. Polite and to the point.

Do not raise any grievance verbally or in written form. It REALLY is the worst thing to do however tempting.

Take the bonus, give the letter in, depart of cordial terms.

luke – Member

Then my line manager ignored me for the next 6 weeks and on the final day I was escorted from the building earlier so I couldn’t even say goodbye to friends etc.

“Nice”! 😯

You clearly did not see that coming. 😆

Do you need a reference?
If not perhaps you’re feeling a little unwell 3 days every week. Paid time to mountain biking!

jekkyl – Member

Do you need a reference?

That is a pain if you need reference because that is their come back to you. 😯

When recruiting people, when I was the evil HR long time ago, I only read reference as it is. I may ask some questions about them but nothing to affect my judgement. However, bureaucrats do love good references because they tick the boxes.

The boss telling us that there is no money for pay rises when they book holidays to St Lucia, pay for son and daughters new cars, driving lessons and insurance and university fees ,private regs on all of the company vehicles.

This is like the counterpart to the optometrist thread!

(Vanity plates on company vehicles – esp signwritten ones – are a massive **** tho)

Never burn bridges – best career move I ever got was from a former boss who had stuffed me stupid when I worked for him but gave me a glowing reference when I needed it.

Never burn bridges – best career move I ever got was from a former boss who had stuffed me stupid when I worked for him but gave me a glowing reference when I needed it.

This. Just had a sod of an ex-boss put me forward for a great, unadvertised job.

Long time ago now – I let my HoD know privately that I was contemplating leaving and would he like me to bring someone else up-to-speed on new stuff I was doing. So he mentioned it at the HoDs’ meeting and it was all around the office by lunchtime.

It’s always hard letting an employer go. I try to break it to them simply and honestly. Thank them for all that they have done, offer assistance with the transition etc. It just feels better.

ourmaninthenorth – Member

Never burn bridges – best career move I ever got was from a former boss who had stuffed me stupid when I worked for him but gave me a glowing reference when I needed it.

This. Just had a sod of an ex-boss put me forward for a great, unadvertised job.

The reason for this is to pass on trouble to potential competitors. i.e. usually when the boss considers that you are still the same pain in the backside (the ex-boss’ assumption) they want to ensure the competitors get the same treatment.

In a way they not exactly thinking of you but rather wish their competitors get all the troubles from you.

😆

That’s it done and dusted…. 😀

Quite painless really and not too awkward or uncomfortable.

A face to face chat with the bosses and colleagues individually and now it’s the count down to emptying the desk and offski. Thanks for the suggestions and replies.

You did better than me: I got outstandingly drunk and rang my boss at 3am, telling him to shove his job up his arris.

cardo – Member
That’s it done and dusted….

Quite painless really and not too awkward or uncomfortable.

A face to face chat with the bosses and colleagues individually and now it’s the count down to emptying the desk and offski. Thanks for the suggestions and replies.

Doh, it’s too late for me to help here then, how much notice did you give? Have you elsewhere to go?

It’s always better to have the next job lined up before ditching the old one, personally I’d have given a sob story about not being able to manage due to <insert any number of reasons from lame to fantastic, lay a guilt trip on them> in an attempt to have them try to keep me, which would a)Boost your confidence for the next job and maybe b)Leave the door open should things go pear shape and you need to return for a meal of humble pie.

+1 on never burn bridges unless total arseholishness has been dispensed in your direction.

I’ve never understood the urge to leave in a storm of “setting people straight”. They’ll think you’re a dick and will put whatever point you may have had into the bin. If you leave in a constructive way or at the very least a quiet way, the worst they can say is that you left. Life’s too short to make enemies for no reason.

No matter how pissed off you are (if you indeed are!) I fully support the don’t burn any bridges option. Be polite and professional and steer clear of any discussion of why or where you’re going. Avoid exit interviews if at all possible.

While you need to be formal with a letter it’s definitely better to hand it over if you can.

and now it’s the count down to emptying the desk and offski.

Don’t forget to visit the stationery cupboard on the way out. 😉

Good luck in your new venture whatever it may be….