the biggest problem for you is that there is only 1 or 2 manufactures of toric varifocal lenses. The one you have tried is the most successful one.
The problem could be more than one issue, for some the compromise of varifocals does not work even for a more straight forward prescription than yours.
I agree that after 3 tries I would generally give up as you can waste a lot of time chasing the unachieveable.
Have you had sucess with just distance distance vision? if so the next option would be mono vision. The dominant eye is corrected for distance and the non dominant for near this tends to work better with your prescription type but you will loose some binocular vision.
Its always hard to know what to suggest without the full history and seeing you
Best of luck