I know you’ve read all of the guides and from what I recall, you have the compression halfway and the threshold fully off, yes?
I have my Reba set up as per the afore mentioned guide and it’s a little lacking in the small bump sensitivity area. I have the compression fully clockwise and the threshold about two to two and half turns clockwise. It’s definitely the set up if you want very little brake dive and pedal bob when standing but it isn’t really that comfy for smaller stuff. I prefer this set up to anything even remotely softer unless I’m scragging some rough stuff where I want a little more traction – and I think that’s the key – switch when you really feel you need it. I honestly don’t believe there’s a middle ground with those particular internals. Having written that, if you have the Ti compression tube thingy (Black Box) then that’s probably not helping – from what I understand it isn’t as good as the plastic tube for the above set up, a lack of movement being the issue, I believe.
If you want me to have a look at the internals, you know where I am, though I suspect it’d be cheaper to pay your LBS to do so rather than travel to the back woods…