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Rant: Lack of sleep (babies)

116 posts & 63 voices | Started 5 months ago by hora | Latest reply from stilltortoise

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hora - Member

Ok, for years I've enjoyed falling asleep at 10pm and magically waking up at 6.30am with nothing in between.

For the past 18months I've not had one night where I haven't been woken up. Absolutely shattered all the time.

Last night I was awake for 4hours as the little un had a high temp.

I've stopped going away/staying with friends and I've not seen my bestmate since last year. I'm just too tired. Shattered. When I go on rides sometimes I'm worn out even before we start and sometimes I actually see little pricks of light/half fuzzy.

FFS. How do seasoned-dads cope?

Help.

Posted 5 months ago #
LoCo - Member

Sounds pretty standard, I just deal with (with coffee :D) they'll soon start sleeping through and you'll start to feel normal (ish) again. Little one is 22 months old btw, and I started trading the month after she was born as well

Alternativly, see below \/

Posted 5 months ago #
miketually - Member

MTFU

Posted 5 months ago #
terrahawk - Member

get a good old fashioned drinking habit. that'll sort it.

Posted 5 months ago #
woody2000 - Member

Repeat after me:

"It won't last forever, it won't last forever"

Says the smug Dad who's kids sleep from 7pm to 8am, almost without fail.

Posted 5 months ago #
wors - Member

MTFU

+1

Posted 5 months ago #
sharkbait - Member

Suck it up Hora. Having been through it with daughter #1 and then with twins I can safely say you don't know how easy just one baby is/can be.

Sorry.

Oh and Calpol and Neurofen (alternated) are your very very best friends when little dude has a temp.

Posted 5 months ago #
swavis - Member

No idea how to help, but I was suddenly reminded how bad it was when swavis jnr who is now a year old had a bad night the other day, he was still wide awake at 2am. I genuinely wondered how I managed when he was tiny.
He's really good normally, down at 7 up at 6:30/7. I realise we are very lucky with him though.

Posted 5 months ago #
Harry_the_Spider - Member

Mine have both slept through from about 10 weeks (sorry) but due to a combination of both of them and the wife being ill last night I am running on 90 minutes sleep.

Today Hora, I feel your pain.

However, tomorrow I won’t.

Posted 5 months ago #
hora - Member

Calpol and Neurofen

We had one episode a while ago where nothing was bringinh down his temp and he should really have been fitting. I soaked a towel in cold water, rung it and wrapped it around him - it worked. Mental as the towel was drying out even after a couple of minutes..

Posted 5 months ago #
sugdenr - Member

8yrs of permanent sleep depravation and counting.

I maintain (to my wife) that women are designed to cope with this but not men, oddly she disagrees - quite rudely usually.

I find, I can sort of cope with lack of sleep, but being woken up from asleep more than once just does me in.

Posted 5 months ago #
warton - Member

MTFU + 1

my lad sleeps from 7 till 4AM perfectly. then is pretty much wide awake. he takes after me in being an early riser i suppose, I've gone from NEEDING 8 hours sleep to happily surviving on less than 5.

Posted 5 months ago #
mastiles_fanylion - Member

With you Hora. (Mine are 2.5 yrs old)

Just as we think we have them sorted (with the occasional waking in the night) one or the other of our twins gets a bug. Izzi has been on anti biotics for two weeks now, only just improving and is up at least three times a night.

Of course, just as she recovers from it, Evie will get it and we will go through it all over again...

Posted 5 months ago #
hora - Member

I maintain (to my wife) that women are designed to cope with this but not men, oddly she disagrees - quite rudely usually.

my missus has always loved sleeping in at the weekend and I've always been the one bolting upright, bright-eyed etc early. So when I suggested its a Mothers duty to suffer a lack of sleep I almost lost an ear

Posted 5 months ago #
sadmadalan - Member

I reckon that from the first one being born till the second one was about 2 (just under 4 years duration) a good nights sleep was just something I could wish for. We stopped going out in the evenings, trying to recover in the weekends put paid to going out and holidays were not on.

Was not helped with son number one getting up very early every day - 4.30 am was a lie in!!

It does get better

Posted 5 months ago #
Harry_the_Spider - Member

Once the kid grows out of it "old man's bladder" will set in and you will be up for a piss 2 or 3 times.

Posted 5 months ago #
druidh - Member

5hrs sleep a night has always been fine for me, so it's never been an issue.*

* other than teh colic. Oh my that was bad.....

Posted 5 months ago #
hora - Member

Once the kid grows out of it "old man's bladder" will set in and you will be up for a piss 2 or 3 times.

and I'll become even grumpier..

Posted 5 months ago #
Gunz - Member

Our kids didn't give us a proper nights sleep for months at first but then I started a job that involves being away from home during the week and I find I'm quite well rested now (the wife's f~~~~ed mind!).

Posted 5 months ago #
sofatester - Member

MTFU

You should have read the small print

Posted 5 months ago #
OrmanCheep - Member

We've got 3 of them, aged 5, 3 and nearly 1.

the first two slept 12 hours after about 7 weeks old.

The third one has manged only 1 night of uninterupted sleep since he was born. Usually get around 4 hours sleep a night.

Last night:
1am, baby wakes, back to sleep around 2am.
2.30am, eldest is sick in top bunk. Strip bed, give her a bath, scrub matress and carpet. Back to sleep about 3.30am.
4am, middle child crying and complaining of being wet. Insists she hasn't wet the bed. Turns out eldest was sick against the wall, deluged down onto bottom bunk and soaked into duvet. Strip bed, scrub matress, pull out beds, scrub carpet / skirting board etc etc.
Been up since, and now at work!

And my mother insists these are the best times!

Posted 5 months ago #
hora - Member

"OrmanCheep" Your name..

Eeeeeeeeee memories

Posted 5 months ago #
jam bo - Member

Day 53 in NICU, and currently recovering from major surgery.

Right now I'd love no sleep to be my biggest concern....

Posted 5 months ago #
FB-ATB - Member

You need this book:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CseO1XRYs9I

ps best listened to with no kids around/not at work

Posted 5 months ago #
samuri - Member

Dear Hora.
My son is 16.
I still don't sleep good.

HTH.

Posted 5 months ago #
sugdenr - Member

he takes after me in being an early riser i suppose

Wierdo

Posted 5 months ago #
passtherizla - Member

My good lady does all the night stuff since she recovered from her c section, as she thinks its only fair as I'm going out to work all day, so she does it, although I make sure I offer to help, and do what I can at weekends. this will all change when she goes back to work in Feb.

Posted 5 months ago #
passtherizla - Member

oops double post...

Posted 5 months ago #
Ho hum - Member

All 3 of mine have been "bad" sleepers in a variety of ways.

The best one is the middle one, my son, but he sometimes sleepwalks.

Our eldest hasn't slept on her own for 4 years.

Our youngest, who will be 4 on Saturday, needs very little sleep and she goes to bed after I do and wakes up a virtually the same time as me. She doesn't seem to suffer for it though, unlike me, grrr!

My mother-in-law told me when my wife was carrying our first child that I would never sleep the same again. I laughed at the time....

Posted 5 months ago #
FB-ATB - Member

jam bo
keep in there. FB jnr was a week in NICU & 4 weeks SCBU. Didn't hear a peep from him as he was initially heavily sedated then fed every 3-4 hrs so had no reason to cry.

He made up for it when he got home - 3 months of not sleeping at night.

If you have "Wires" by Athlete on itunes, delete it. I still can't listen to it.

Posted 5 months ago #
hora - Member

Sounds terrible to say this but before hora junior I use to hear about men walking out on a wife/small child and just think '****' - now I can see in some circumstances why it splits couples, the tiredness, the bickering, lack of sleep etc. Awful isn't it?

Posted 5 months ago #
sugdenr - Member

she thinks its only fair as I'm going out to work all day

Of course your missus just sits around all day doing fook all. Work is where dad get a rest, and to mess about on STW

Posted 5 months ago #
hora - Member

and to mess about on STW

Posted 5 months ago #
Zaskar93 - Member

The training (aka near neglect) starts from day one. You put them in their own room the first night you get them home from hospital, you make sure they are the right temp and fed and leave them there. Just use a baby monitor for good measure. OK there is the obligatory feeding and changing in the early days but the principle is the same; if they cry leave them a while, then leave them some more and they'll go back to sleep unless they really do need something. Sounds a bit like tough love but it works. Our 2 (now almost 8 and 6) both slept through from being about 6 or 8 weeks and they have always slept in their own beds. True, our oldest sometimes has some difficulty getting to sleep initially but then she reads for a bit and then tucking her back in (her own) bed with the promise of popping back to see her in half an hour is usually enough for her to be fast asleep until 7 the following morning.

Posted 5 months ago #
carbon337 - Member

11 month old here - sometimes sleeps through sometimes wakes at 5 or 4 ish - she is left to BTFU. Self soothing according to the wife.

Posted 5 months ago #