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  • Neighbour Won't Stop Feeding Our Cat
  • bgd
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    This is really starting to pi$$ me off so would appreciate any (sensible) advice.

    For the last few months one of our cats has been spending a lot of time at a neighbouring house. We spoke to the owner who seemed happy to have him visit as he was good company for her cat. She then told us that she has been feeding him as she felt sorry for him and giving him treats such as roast chicken! We asked her to stop feeding him as we were seeing less and less of him but she ignored our requests. We have also asked her to shoo him away and even bought her a water pistol but she refuses to do it.

    More recently the woman has been bringing our cat back, saying she's sick of feeding him (though she won't stop)and that it was costing her a fortune. She also insisted that we keep him in – this is not possible as he is truly an outdoors cat and we have others that need to come and go. Whenever we have tried to talk to her she ignores us, and the last few times she has brought the cat back she has seemed drunk (coincidentally after each of the England football games) and can be quite abusive. We have tried to discuss the problem with her but she ends up just walking away. She has even threatened to call the RSPCA.

    It came to a head last night when I asked her if she was going to stop feeding him and her reply was "I can't be doing with this" and walked off.
    I apologise for the long thread but am truly at my whits end and don't know what else to do as however much we try and be civil with the woman we are being ignored.

    Any ideas?

    samuri
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    More recently the woman has been bringing our cat back, saying she's sick of feeding him (though she won't stop)and that it was costing her a fortune

    lol!

    Sounds like a loon to me. Why on earth would she call the RSPCA? Of course, if she wants to do that then let her, if they actually do turn up they'll see the cat is perfectly healthy and have a go at her for wasting their time.

    From your perspective I'd record yourself asking her not to feed the cat any more, it's her own fault for starting in the first place. After that there's not much more you can do. Try and ignore her.

    TijuanaTaxi
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    You could say for medical reasons your cat will now need a specific diet and she could potentially harm him by feeding the wrong foods
    Then the RSPCA threat could be turned towards her

    Or just mention how your cat is having a terrible flea problem and would hate for her cat and house to get them

    davidtaylforth
    Free Member

    shoot it

    rootes1
    Full Member

    keep a log of meetings, when you noticed she was feeding etc etc etc

    might help if you have such a record if things get tricky..

    i notice the other day one of our neighbours has started leaving a bowl of cat food outside their front door – might be for hedgehogs… but

    bgd
    Free Member

    The problem is that he's almost always at her house, we see him once or twice a day max. She only seems to kick off about it when (we think) she's drunk. She even brought him back one time moaning that he had a tick!

    I've contacted the RSPCA and am waiting for a response. My main concern is that we had a cat disappear a year or so ago under mysterious circumstances and can't face anything happening to this one, she does seem to be a nutter after all.

    wwaswas
    Full Member

    get one of those electric shock training collars they use on dogs and everytime you think it's going to go in her house/is already there then trigger it.

    Aversion therapy works best!

    GW
    Free Member

    there must be a singlecatworld somewhere online for all you losers!

    bgd
    Free Member

    Cheers, very useful

    samuri
    Free Member

    get one of those electric shock training collars they use on dogs and everytime you think it's going to go in her house/is already there then trigger it.

    on the cat or the woman?

    wwaswas
    Full Member

    if you're in Wales the woman as they're illegal to use on animals there…

    iain1775
    Free Member

    move house
    simples

    Jamie
    Free Member

    davidtaylforth – Member
    shoot it

    The cat or the neighbour?

    oldgit
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    You won't sort it. My elderly neighbors kept feeding my Springer, buscuits over the fence. My dog started to go out and up to the fence if they were there and bark for more buscuits.
    One neighbor has stopped, but the other continues.
    She now has the front to complain about the dog barking for her attention, it's not a long mental bark more a deep woof, but still she continues to throw buscuits over our fence.
    I've been asking her not to for over ten years now and planted shrubs to make it harder but still the old biddy carries on.

    epicyclo
    Full Member

    Your cat won't be pleased.

    It's gone to a lot of trouble to train that human to feed it…

    boblo
    Free Member

    What's a buscuit? Is it a special doggy treat?

    BigJohn
    Full Member

    It sounds like she feels that if she doesn't feed the cat, it will go hungry, and I suppose the cat isn't exactly going out of it's way to disabuse her on this point.

    Whether she got herself into the situation or not doesn't affect it.

    You could try telling her that the cat knows it's got food available at your house, and it won't be hungry, and she won't be harming it, and like her, with alcohol, it's just taking the easy way out.

    tiger_roach
    Free Member

    As a dog owner the options I see are:

    Tie a length of string to the cat and a central post that is just long enough so it can walk around the garden.

    Muzzle the cat.

    bgd
    Free Member

    We've tried to explain to her that he's got a good home and plenty of food. She actually accused us of neglecting him at one point saying he was skinny when he's a slim athletic type. Her cat on the other hand is built like a barrel. He was a very affectionate cat before she enticed him away and as much as we've tried to talk sensibly to her she won't listen and storms off.

    MrSmith
    Free Member

    put the cat on a long chain in the garden.

    joe@brookscycles
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    You clearly have a nutter on your hands. I had a similar problem with a neighbour letting my old dog out of our garden and taking him into her house to play with her kids whilst we were out. The dog BTW, was quite content with his own company, and wasn't so keen on having his tail pulled and eyes poked.
    I solved the problem, after several polite requests to cease and desist were ignored, by going mental.

    Shouting, swearing, waggling fingers, swinging arms wildly. Garbled nonsense about respecting boundaries, overstepping marks, and theft of livestock. A good analogy about coming into your house uninvited to help the kids with their homework helped too.

    She never even looked at the dog again. Cross fence relations were extremily frosty for the rest of our time in that house though.

    davidtaylforth
    Free Member

    The cat or the neighbour?

    The cat or the neighbour

    hels
    Free Member

    I think this is what you call a Cat Knap ! (sorry)

    Lifer
    Free Member

    I'd say something about special diet and if she continues feeding you'll be billing her for part of the vet bills.

    bgd
    Free Member

    I might give that idea a go, though at the moment going mental with a pair of Bombers seems quite appealing 🙂

    joe@brookscycles
    Free Member

    at the moment going mental with a pair of Bombers seems quite appealing

    Do it. It's both satisfying, and effective.

    samuri
    Free Member

    She actually accused us of neglecting him at one point saying he was skinny when he's a slim athletic type.

    Well I know this one. One of our cats just eats all the time. Her food (and we put out plenty for her), the other cats food, any other cats food she can find. But she's still built like a rake. She's horrible to stroke, dead boney. Luckily she'd rather eat her own poo than let anyone stroke her, the only time I do it is when I'm being mean.

    bgd
    Free Member

    she'd rather eat her own poo than let anyone stroke her

    That's one of the things that's really bugging me, he used to be a real family cat and now we can't get near him.

    pitduck
    Free Member

    have you tried a moustache 😯

    hora
    Free Member

    Keep the cat drunk and have endless cat porn on the DVD player 24/7?

    bgd
    Free Member

    Keep the cat drunk and have endless cat porn on the DVD player 24/7?

    I could see that working

    neilforrow
    Full Member

    bgd's cat:

    Zedsdead
    Free Member

    Punch her in the ear.

    hora
    Free Member

    With a knitting needle concealed in your hand

    AdamW
    Free Member

    Wee in her shoes, obviously.

    Olly
    Free Member

    give him whiskers?

    they put something in it (possibly crack), once a cats had it, they wont eat anything else.
    it might cost you a fortune though

    chakaping
    Free Member

    Wee in her shoes, obviously.

    No no no, train the cat to wee in her shoes.

    She won't let it in her house again then.

    ajf
    Free Member

    You need to chat wioth this person

    http://www.singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/advice-please-whats-a-reasonable-response-to-the-owner-of-this-cat

    As it seems you both live next to each other.

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