First things first: I’m a daily visitor/lurker and frequent/occasional poster here, but I’m using an anonymous account for the purpose of this sensitive post/thread. I am NOT a big-hitter so there’s no point trying to guess who I am.
Here’s the thing, things have reached an all time low in the family household and rather than getting up and walking out on my wife and two teenage daughters I’m thinking that we need to ‘start again’ as it were – air our feelings and grievances in a civilised manner and then come to an agreement on the way forward so that we can ‘feel the love’ again.
It all came to a head yesterday evening when my youngest treated me like something on the bottom of her shoe again and then I went off on one and called her some nasty names (which I regret doing), she then went super-mental (like never before seen) and then her big sister weighed in on me too…my wife when she got home was a bit stuck in the middle but as per usual sided with the kids. My wife and I make little effort with each other, but deep down I believe we still love each other. I said to my wife last night “I love all three of you, but I’m finding it harder and harder to live with the three of you”. A fair few tears were shed by all throughout the night.
I’m wondering about suggesting we go for family counselling with Relate, has anyone been in, or had a friend who’s been in a similar situation and found this helpful? Or will this drag things out over weeks and possibly months, not allowing wounds to heal?