Recently split up with my girlfriend of 4 1/2 years, still very much in love with each other which is what made it so hard.
Got to the stage where we were starting to plan a future together, looking at getting our place etc, and the question of children came up (again).
We've always known she wants them and I don't, but have always glossed over this. I was 25 when we met, nearly 30 now and no sign of me changing my mind. A lot of friends have said they didn't want any at my age, but are happy with them now, even my own father. It's unlikely I will change but you never know.
She wants the certainty of planning things together, knowing she will have a family. I would love to carry on for 4-5years, which is when she wants to start a family, and hope one of us changes our mind. However, if the answer is neither of us have it would be getting a bit late for her (27 now) and this is what she scared of. I can't pretend to her I've changed my mind and suddenly do want children, even though it may save our relationship now, it's not fair on her at all.
I've left the ball in her court at present, she knows I still love her very much and would have her back like a shot if she decided she could take the chance of one of us changing our minds in the next few years. She sounds as distraught about he whole thing as I am, but really does want to be with someone who can give her a family and I can't promise her that.
Anyone here had totally differnet opions about children from their other half? Did you overcome this? How? Or is this really the relationship breaker I hope it isn't?
