good friend of mine…friends with my ex wife and im friends with her ex husband.if it was on the cards should i avoid it? it would probaly be a "one off" but i also dont want to loose her as a friend. i dont see her that often, but what do people recon?

go out for a bike ride, its the romantic way.

dont want to loose her as a friend.

You missed the 'n' off

We can all afford to lose 1 friend 🙂

Yes, f**king your friend will fundamentally alter the relationship. It's not a difficult one to fathom out is it?

It will ruin the friendship (the question is would it be worth it)

Trust me, it will change everything!

😆 at Dez.

And your relationships with both your ex's may be a factor…

philconsequence – Member
go out for a bike ride, its the romantic way.

😀

If she's a looker get stuck in. If she's not too hot, probably better keep her as a friend.

Depends how good or rubbish you are! 😆

Very difficult to make a judgement on this quandary without a pic

In the words of Mrs Doyle…….

Go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on,go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on,go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on……

"it would probaly be a "one off""

Sounds like she doesn't know about this difficult quandry you find yourself in. Rape is illegal you know…

Better to regret the stuff you have done than the stuff you haven't.

Get stuck in and enjoy!

why not settle for a bit of fingering?

If you're that good friends just ask her, she might be thinking the same too. Just do it, could become a regular event, nsa sex, what more do you want??

Depends, if you are predatory about it, then most likely!

If you value the friendship then don't risk it.

go balls out and take her to an orgy
plenty of swingers clubs about!

Why should it ruin the relationship? If you are truly good friends then there won't be a problem and yes I've been there.
Female friend of some 20+ years, more or less 15 years ago we spent some intimate time together, our lives moved on, and I consider her to be my closest friend.
I don't think we judge each other and are happy when the other is happy.

No problem at all.

go balls deep

fixed that for you

Don't worry, I'll still be your friend 😉

Don't worry, I'll still be your friend

Even after having your back doors kicked in? 😉

Been there done it. Very similar type situation.
We are still good friends tho she is married to a friend of mine now 😉

It really shouldn't change things if you are both consenting and realise its a one off type event.

If she's a looker get stuck in. If she's not too hot, probably better keep her as a friend.

If she's not too hot, is she even worth having as a friend?

She must realise you are attracted to her, and she may be to you. Perhaps your un-realised relationship was a cause in both your divorces?

Perhaps it could be discussed objectively together. What will you regret more, knowing (and choosing either way) or never knowing?

Back in my single days, I've had a couple of friends who went from "friend" to "friend with extras" and back to "friend" again. I'd say it depends entirely on the friend, it's very difficult to predict what will happen.

One thing I would say though, is to be very clear up front as to whether you're proposing "hey, let's have a spot of horizontal jogging" or "you know, I've always loved you, shall we take our relationship to the next level." If she's expecting one and getting the other, it could be messy.

(Though if it's not messy, you're not doing it right)

As everyone has said, it may be fine, it may not. Only you know how you, she, your ex and her ex might react, and therefore if it's something that would be wise or not.

But, most importantly

THIS THREAD IS USELESS WITHOUT PICS![/B]

If the opportunity arises to spend some romantic time hanging out the back of this mate of yours why are you even asking??

Change? Yes. Ruin? Not necessarily…

Yes

Don't worry, I'll still be your friend

Even after having your back doors kicked in

my doors are always open 😉

Get drunk on a night out together, see what happens.
But not too drunk, or not much will happen if brewer's droop sets in!

Why this never happens to me? Where are my good hot female friends when I need them? 🙄

CharlieMungus – Member
why not settle for a bit of fingering?

PMSL 😆

Go for it! She might even like it up the tea towel holder.

I've 'done' a few friends (although not at the same time unfortunately) in my past and it's never affected our relationships, if you are good enough friends you'll be able to tell them its just for fun anyway.

My of my friends with extras is still one of my best mates and always will be

rOcKeTdOg – Member
my doors are always open

Hmmm – best you be careful about your back door 😉

Go for it. Just be cool about it and everything will be good.

Thought this might be about the love that dare not speak its name (except on forums on that there internet) between geetee and dave.

Get stuck in there – as someone said up there, better to regret the things you did than the things you didn't. Unless she's minging, obviously