This is horrible, it's like watching a car accident happen, and not being able to do anything about it
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I need help. Woman help.
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Posted 2 years ago #
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I see, so a clothes maiden is a clothes drier. I would be annoyed if someone knocked over my drying too, no going back from that kinda shit.
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I guess that's probably an age thing - she can't understand how I can have a 100% platonic friendship with a woman, and she feels threatened.
If only it was as simple as that
.........your girlfriend is concerned about the older/wiser/mature woman who, presumably, is nearer your own age. My ex is double your girlfriends age and guess what, she was worried about competition from a younger version. Insecurity can be there regardless of age and when combined with jealousy you have highly destructive bedfellows(no pun intended).Looking back over the thread there may have been some overreactive comments but I think when you balance them out there is some very good advice and I don't think you are ander any illusion that whatever way you choose to go will be easy.
My advice would be to use your head rather than your heart (or any other part of your anatomy
). Hearts mend a lot quicker than f@cked up heads.
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GET OUT. NOW.
The Crown Persecution Service appears to have a target to meet for prosecuting domestic violence cases, regardless of the situation.
The courts are full of posters about 'domestic violence': not one mentions violence perpetrated against a man in a heterosexual realtionship, and a call to a support line can elicit a response along the lines of 'you're a man, why are you calling?' Domestic violence against a man appears to be far more prevalent than is commonly realised.
Not going to go into specifics, but I have seen it get very messy when a woman calls 999 - the bloke doesn't get a fair shout. And the police have some very nasty tactics.
Thank God this wasn't me, but I did spend some time trying to help to pick up the pieces and in court as a shoulder to cry on. Happily, justice was served in the case I'm talking about.
DO NOT RISK GETTING YOURSELF INTO A SIMILAR SITUATION.
There is happiness out there with someone stable - as my mate would testify. We're going to his wedding soon.
Good luck and GET OUT!
Sorry - but it ain't worth it.
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I thought that was called a clothes horse. You learn something new every day on here. I have a tumble dryer so it's a bit large to get knocked around but I expect if someone was really cross they could slam it's door and that would make me very upset as I do like a bit of peace and quiet. Its in the conservatory too and the dog sleeps out there so if they had a proper hissy fit I expect I'd have to clean everything again as it might get dog hair on it.
I expect I'd put up with it though especially if a nubile lady's underthings who was ten years my junior had her delicates in there. I might be a little blinded by that see. I'd just be thinking about getting conkers deep if you'll forgive the expression - My washing schedule would go right up the swanny. I expect it would piss the dog right off though, she was dreadful on bonfire night what with all the bangs.
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I once got drawn into a rather racy game of email truth or dare with a little brunette that worked for a client of mine. After she'd emailed naked pics, and dared me to make a vibrating rubber cast of my Old Fellow for her, I dared her to tell me her ultimate fantasy. She told me it was to come round to my studio, enter without saying a word, perform what the papers might call a sex act, and then leave, without saying a word.
I was about to leave on an overseas business trip, but thinking about this helped fill a few private moments in my hotel room, especially a she kept texting me telling me she was going to act out her fantasy on my return. I joked that to make it perfect, she could flick the kettle on on her way out!
So, the following week, I'm relaxing in the loft apartment on the top floor of my offices, dozing and recovering from my jetlag, when I'm roused from my slumber by the unmistakable feeling of my button fly being unbuttoned.
True to her word, she performed said act - with considerable aplomb, I might add - and having succeeded (pardon the pun), she stood up, turned on her heals and left. I dressed and descended the stairs just in time to hear the sound of the kettle clicking off and found a cup with a teabag in it ready to be poured.
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What a girl!I just can't help wondering if this was while you were in another relationship.
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LOL @ Angela Poirot
Looking at the timings of the posts, you didn't by any chance leave that one on screen for your girlfriend to see did you
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Hmmm! Odd as 15 years ago he was in a relationship with his ex-wife and 15 years ago email was hardly a common thing.
Not to mention txting that's a very recent form of communication, some things amiss.
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Looking at the timings of the posts, you didn't by any chance leave that one on screen for your girlfriend to see did you
My ex wife cancelled our wedding 6.5 years ago. We split up for around 6 months. I took full advantage of my single status and that liaison was during that time.
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You don't own a "graphic design and print management company" by any chance do you?
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Are you some sort of stalker Angela?
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Are you some sort of stalker Angela?
....................................and a little brunette??????...............
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It could have been much worse - imagine if she'd have knocked over your washing once it had been sorted into piles of silkens, man-made and cottons ready for ironing.
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Oh man, I'm not even going to go into the laundry backet incident when she mixed up my darks, whites and brights!
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Give it time and stay in contact. If it's meant to be you'll both make it work ..
Feel the love
Posted 2 years ago # -
If trashing your stuff and making false allegations are options in her list of ways to deal with relationship conflict, then I would walk away. There is no better indicator of future behaviour, than past behaviour. These problems can be compounded if you also have a tendancy to jump into a row. If you are going to give it a go, I'd get some third party help and try to work some of this out, I'm sure this process in itself could be quite challenging but if you reckon she's worth it.
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We've all got a few plate-chuckers in our history but that's the best place for them.
I do like the idea of sitting down to write her a stern letter after she knocked over your clothes maiden.
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Judge her by her actions rather than her sister's words. She didn't go to the police and she attacked your stuff but not you.
If she didn't go to the police this time there's no reason to think she will in the future. I suggest you let her get on with trashing the place next time rather than getting physical unless you can think of something she'd like. Ask her what her fantasies are and have a look through the pics on Red Charls' site and see if there's anything she be into.
Plate chuckers, I had a knife thrower but she was a lousy shot.
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A friend of mine had a mental boyfriend (so mental he hit her then HE called the police and made out it was self defence, earning her a lecture from the uniforms that turned up). Took a couple more smacks before she realised he was as much of a nutter as we'd told her and she walked out.
Given this and other experiences I've got a feeling you're going to let her get away with things until she does something you can't easily justify. Hopefully it's not something you can't easily undo.
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Errr, so far the only one getting physical is the OP and you lot are worrying about her! And what she might do?
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So she got jealous and insecure?
She rented anger and attention on breaking stuff-some women do that.
You need to coach her it's not ok. Patience? you'll need it.
Tell it's not ok and not ok to lie or she is out.Take her back as you both mean alot to each other andif she does it again-she's out. Otherwise you could end up in repeated behaviour and made to pay for it by the cops if she lies.
Just be careful but give it another try mate.
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Courtesy of CharlieThebikeMonger I have an answer to this...............
Henry Weston's Vintage Cider.
Two pints cures most problems.
My lady blew up on me two weekes ago.... nothing extreme but it came out of the blue........ and I kinda like her more now. I can't explain it either!
All nuts.... degrees of nuttyness!
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I just skimmed some posts, so, my thoughts after reading this
When I say 'trashed the place', she broke a glass, smashed a picture frame and tried to smash my mobile by throwing it against a wall. And she knocked over a clothes maiden, tore some papers up, stuff like that. Nothing too bad,
I reckon you were making out like she is a nutter & you are the good guy at the start & not telling the complete truth, there are two sides to every story & it take two to tango. You are now changing your story, so sorry but I reckon you must have done something to set her off.BTW. I for one would not be asking this type of question on a forum, I think you are the one that's nuts.
You have one failed marriage already so your record in relationships is not good, she would be better off without you.Posted 2 years ago # -
Well, inbetween her insecurities and not getting his platonic friendships;
She got an email from an ex who had been pestering her, and although she told him in no uncertain terms to clear off, I got the wrong end of the stick and didn't give her chance to explain.
So they sound pretty compatable to me, well for a rather dramatic relationship.
I'm pretty sure I'd let MrsB trash most things before I layed hands upon her.
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forkingoursouls, snigletrack, AdamG...says it all really.
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