I could live with someone with very different views to me but I could not and would not live with someone whose decisions in life were based on a religion or faith or belief that was not open to question.
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How much would you "change" for a prospective partner?
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Posted 4 months ago #
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gixer.john - that sounds cool
Posted 4 months ago # -
I think it depends on what sort of personality you have. Some people flow like water whilst others are made of stone, consistent and reliable. I think I've changed quite a lot since I've been with my wife and it's been for the better. She has changed as well, though it's much more of an organic thing as you grow together during a relationship. I love to make my wife happy and so certain character flaws have been smoothed a little during our time together. Equally, if she did something significant that I didn't appreciate I let her know, whilst never expecting her to change. She does eat pork though
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Yeah, I'd change the way I act and some of the things I do to make the person who makes me happy, happy. If there's something I do she doesn't like, I'd want her to tell me so I can do something about it. That's one way you make a partnership work.
There are limits though and while I'd be happy enough not to eat pork around her, there are some things I just won't do.
One of her friends forces her husband and her sons to sit down when they take a wee because occasionally, they miss the bowl.....
Sorry love, sometimes I might splash accidentally for a variety of reasons but there's no way you're turning me into a girl.
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My view - successful relationships are alla bout comprimise change and growth. Mrs TJ and I had to find a compimise on food for example - one carnivore and one herbivore does not make for a happy household - occasional fish was what we came to and I eat meant when out to eat sometimes.
If you are not prepared to compromise and change then life will be hard - but you must do it because you want to even if you want to do so to please her not because she want you to - that way lies resentment.
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Sneak Pork into a sandwich or something you prepare for her and then when she's eaten it tell her she's just eaten Pork and 'what's the big ****in' deal?'.
A life of bliss awaits you both I'm sure.
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