It is the anniversary of my father in law’s death tomorrow and my wife’s family are gathering (during work hours so I am exempt) to be together etc.
Sister in Law coming over tonight and I’ll probably see her before I go out for the Thursday night ride. There may be tears….I don’t know.
Of the two, my wife in the ‘strong’ one and has a fairly good control of her emotions and this is where the problem lies. She’ll probably bimble through the day seeming cool, calm, collected and in control but having been married a good few years now, I know something is going on in there, you know, the odd silence, downcast look etc. There have been one or two in the last day or so and photos etc have been coming out etc.
If I ask, she’ll say ‘don’t worry about it, I’m ok’ but I don’t want to make some huge gaffe and just act like an ar$e. As I am quite prone to the odd ‘foot in mouth’ episode this is a real possibility.
So, be ‘normal’ but reserved or just be normal and risk doing totally the wrong thing?
Never having been in this position before, I’d welcome some thoughts from people who have.