I know this is a mtb forum but I've been impressed by the variety of 'real life' issues being dealt with and shared on here (we're very 21st Century man, aren't we) and something has come along that I thought I might vent.
I live with my partner and her two fantastic little girls. They moved in in the last year and we're very happy. Their Dad, her ex husband is a constant source of entanglement and problems though. Only one of which is that CSA have had to be used to obtain maintenance as previously he saw this is an optional payment. Today we have found out that he has decided to not work. He's been off 'ill' for about 18 months or more and despite his employers willingness to have him back (they've been paying him sick pay AND holiday pay the whole time) he would rather survive on benefits - it's obvious he's become accustomed to the easy life. His illness is lung based so he's taken his extended leave as an opportunity to take up smoking, such is his lack of interest in working ever again. So as of today we will receive zero maintenance. He sees the girls 4 days a month max and seems to think this will continue, despite it meaning us funding the journey - 95 miles each way. I think he thinks he has us cornered. If the girls don't see him they will be gutted but he thinks that will be our fault and not his. He cannot take responsibility for the results of his actions.
To top it all off, when my partner called earlier, to find out what was going on (she only found out about the halt of payments via the csa) he thought he'd dodge the bullet by telling her that he wants me to be nicer to him as he thinks he deserves more respect from me. I'm not openly hostile but I refuse to act as though we're friends. I can't pretend to respect him. I tried to get along when the relationship began but seeing how he acts toward my partner and how he takes little or no responsibility for his children I refuse now.
So no questions here. I just needed somewhere to vent - my anger is for him so I'm not going to take it out on anyone who doesn't deserve it. Despite this shadow my partner has had a good day and I want to end the day with that as the focus, so as she's upstairs singing the girls to sleep, I'm here, boring you all to tears.