On the success of the advice on my Father and Funeral thread (happy happy joy joy).. I thought I’d ask STW for more worldly advice.
My father and mother split up around 7 years ago officially… unofficially they had done this 10 years prior whilst my sister and I were still kids.. we kinda knew this from all the arguing.
Anyway long story short – it’s knocked her confidence greatly to go into public situations, ie she won’t make friends – go to coffee mornings, art workshops or anything like that.
She literally has no friends and see’s no one. My sister and myself have been trying to change this for some years but keep failing. Mum’s well are truly locked herself away from situations that I know she’d enjoy and I find it really sad.
I want her to get her life back but I don’t want to impose any pressure on her as it usually ends up in lots of tears or an argument.
My sister lives 100 miles away and I live 1000miles away so it’d hard looking over her or keeping in touch… I send photos and an email every 2 weeks or so and give her a ring once a month… my sister does similar.
Mum also had a case or 2 of cancer about 5 years ago which I’m sure scared her more and added to this messy situation..
This threads brought on as my sister is actually going over some very serious tests at the moment with her heart and she rang me upset with mum trawling the net finding “how bad” it could be… mum’s very negative but she’s no one to share positives with so I don’t believe this is her it’s just how the cards played out.
How do I get my mum back STW?