I’m 37, and I’m beginning to wonder if I’m getting a bit too happy in my own company. I’m currently splitting time between two cities, and I’m finding time in the second city slightly more appealing as it’s more solitary. The pizza toppings thread, made me think one night last week I could have returned home and caught up with friends/ family etc, but chose to spend my evening walking an hour across town to pick up a pizza and stopped at a couple of lovely boozer’s on route. Returned home listened to some music, had a night cap and an early night.

I do spend a good chunk of time with friends and family which I really enjoy. But don’t have any wish for kid’s or a long term partner. Work and the internet supplies me with enough female company to meet my needs, but as soon as a relationship becomes intrusive I knock it on the head. There are odd days/ nights when I find myself at a loose end, but generally square this off as a life style hazard and find something to do on my own and feel pretty content. I’ve been living like this through my 30’s, and don’t see it changing. So two questions;

– am I weird?
– how good are you in your own company?

People find being happy and content disturbing as they’re not used to it.

The modern mantra of continuous growth is fundamentally flawed

I’m pretty good with it… Although i’d miss not having Mrs Weeksy. But a decent chunk of the time i’m alone, i’m happy with it.

I don’t know.

I’ve shared a bedroom my entire life.

As a result I treasure every rare moment I get to be by myself

I am not alone very often but I do like it. And tonight is one of those nights – my wife and girls are going for a meal with friends then on to see Little Mix so I am finishing work early, taking the dog for a long walk via a pub then home to cook myself some tea and listen to music at unreasonably loud levels.

Balance.

Life needs a bit of sharing and a bit of solitude. Lots of my friends can’t understand why I’d head off alone into the hills, especially overnight and longer trips.

perchypanther – Member

I don’t know.

I’ve shared a bedroom my entire life.

I am pretty much the same as OP. I don’t find it weird but others seem to do. I enjoy my own company more than the company of others, although I do spend time with family and friends. No desire to be in any serious relationship or ‘share’ my life with a special someone either.

🙂

Reminds me of the time I spent in jail with Lester Piggot.

I’m the only 15 stone man to ever ride a Derby winner.

An old classic that joke Perchyboy!

Gotta keep the classics alive. 😉

I am very happy in my own company. My wife finds it difficult to understand that I would much rather do an activity I like (e.g. ride a bike) on my own than either ride with other people or swap it for a more social drink down the pub with friends. The activity overrides company. Now that being said I have been married / in a relationship for most of the last 30 years and whilst toying with the idea of remaining single I was in a serious relationship and later married within 2 years. So a mix really.

I must admit, the idea of growing old alone is not appealing at all.

we are given reproductive organs for a reason. enough said.

Love it. In short supply with young children so I love to get out in the wilds on my bike as much as possible.

Same, I enjoy having me time. But I wonder if that’s because it’s so rare and life is otherwise so manic and filled with the sounds of other people’s voices, that the novelty would quickly wear off if it was the norm rather than the exception.

we are given reproductive organs for a reason. enough said.

To play with when we are by ourselves?

– am I weird?
Probably, but then aren’t we all.

– how good are you in your own company?
Lived with someone for nearly 25 years.. now live alone. Prefer the latter (and she was pretty easy to live with.) Never again. My kid is the only person I’d contemplate living with now.

ton – Member
we are given reproductive organs for a reason. enough said.

so have 7.6 billion others, it’s not particularly necessary for the species survival.

to the OP, do what makes you happy.

Sounds like me in my 30’s. I’m now almost 46, married with 3 kids 6 and under 😀

I was quite happy without a partner until the right one turned up (without me making a huge effort or being “on the lookout” – it just happened). Happy now too. No kids though, that’s never been on the agenda.

Love my own company and crave solitude, which is why I go to bed so late, it’s the only alone time I get

Yep – more than happy.

The older I get, the more people frustrate me.

Go away, all of you.

Mostly yeah, but sometimes he just won’t shut the flip up.

The problem with it is that even if or when I want to, I Can’t Escape Myself… 😉

(I’ll leave the Youtube link to someone else).

so have 7.6 billion others, it’s not particularly necessary for the species survival.

regardless of your thoughts. we were born to reproduce. FACT

No soldier you were born to die !

I think quiet time away from a busy life (which might be walking the dog, watching TV or doing whatever activity floats your boat) is different to just preferring to be on your own

I’m not judging either way. Personally I’m in the former camp. I think I’d prefer to do some activities with other people, like going for a bike ride, as it’s more motivating and I generally find it more fun. I’m also fine doing it on my own and happy to do that, but I like riding with company

I was married for 18 years two kids a few relationships in my 40s but my partner now lives 55 miles away so its just weekends and holidays together and it works great as we get space through the week, chat for an hour most days
5 years now never argue or fall out

ton – Member
regardless of your thoughts. we were born to reproduce. FACT

we were also born to consume. There’s a reproduction/consumption balance that needs to be achieved.

The concept of overpopulation new to you?

We were also born to do a lot more things that just these basic components of existence.

We aren’t a simple organism.

and don’t see it changing

With your crystal ball, you could make a fortune

We aren’t a simple organism.

Some are simpler than others. Fact.

An hour or so of piece and quite is nice, but I’d rather be with people generally. I always prefer riding with mates. I just get more out of a ride if others are there to share the experience. Even if that is just looking at a view…

I live alone and I am currently single,
I can get quite lonely sometimes but don’t think I could live with anyone As my ocd would not allow it.
Just the thought of someone rearranging my cupboards is enough to put me off. 😀

OP is a bit tied up today…

Completely happy in solitude, never ever found the need to interact with others if I don’t want to.

I’ve always been at the centre of a group in work, ever since I first started working I seemed to be included from day one.. then that built to what I do now. Always on the go and being in contact with colleagues and the wider network means I’ve no real need to crave human interaction.
The Mrs has her life, I have mine, we mix and mingle and share and care like everyone I know.

I don’t agree Humans are here to reproduce. I think thats just a fallacy and we should have from early times just continued to die of disease and petulance, thing is Humans are a caring type deep down and our craving for medical help and assistance means we’re lasting longer and reproducing easier.. I’m not too sure thats the right way for humans to exist. We should have the right to an Off Button and decide when it’s our time to go, not someone elses decision (medical reasoning here) and rightly or wrongly depending on your view cap reproduction at some level (I don’t mind being flamed here, it’s just my view long held and I’m happy with it)

And, I’ve no kids… so my life is my own and I so made the right life choice there. Buuuuttt… I do love kids, couldn’t eat a whole one though..

With your crystal ball, you could make a fortune

Lol, I don’t doubt I could meet the ‘one’ etc etc, I guess I just meant I don’t feel any unease at not having a long term partner or kids etc

For the record I don’t feel anti social, I spend plenty of time with family and friends. I spend quite a bit of time courting female company. I ride in a club, I’m one of the organisers and I’ll go do sportives etc just as a social thing, but I guess I also ride alone a lot! I just find choosing to be on my todd is equally rewarding as an activity choice.

The question wasn’t desperately serious, I think I was just more interested to hear the view’s of others.

Edit – also lol’s @ unfitgeezer 😀

Spend a lot of time with my own company as I live alone and mainly ride solo. Love it!

Happy to spend a day with friends and (certain members of…) my family but any more than a day or two and I crave a bit of solitude. I meet a lot of people every day I work so I think I just get person burnout a lot of the time. Even living in a city is doing my but in these days, can’t wait to move back to the countryside.

ton – Member
regardless of your thoughts. we were born to reproduce. FACT

Now I’ve done my bit for the species can I be solitary?

I’ve been married once, had a long term partner from which my daughter was born she is now 27..have been with my current partner for 19 years and have a 14 year old son ..in between times I have lived on my own .
I have never been happier than I am with my current missus ..but I have realised that I can be difficult to live with …
As for being happy in my own company ..yes completely ..most of my waking hours are spent on my own ..but I really do enjoy the company of others.
I do find it hard though to forgive and forget if someone ‘does me wrong ‘ ..so patience isn’t my strongest trait ..