Thanks people, a day in the woods with the pump is inevitable but it’s good to hear what other riders do to set up their forks.
I’ve gone for 80-, 90+ to give more cush, but keep the bob out (maybe) and will tweak and add from there. They seem more lively than my 100-, 105+ ratio but only riding will tell.
I tried 100-, 85+ and they seemed less responsive than the 100/105. Reading about progressive vs linear makes me think I can run softer and still have some jump absorbency in reserve.
Just to clear it up, what happens when you bottom out? I imagine some kind of damage occurs internally, or does the force just transfer through the bars?