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106 posts & 64 voices | Started 2 years ago by alpin | Latest reply from CaptainFlashheart

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fadda - Member

You kinda have 3 choices, don't you:

1. carry on as you are (probably not viable long term)

2. jack it in with the current GF/BF and give it a go (might be fabulous, but is likely to lead to a suspicious relationship because of the way you got together)

3. Stop right now and not risk what you already have. (Boring but easy, or leads to long-term happiness if you and you current GF actually have something).

Only my opinion, nothing more. Not sure what I'd do, if I'm honest, since we all tend to love the excitement of a new relationship despite knowing that it NEVER stays like that forever...

Posted 2 years ago #
BigDummy - Member

that low-life that wants to two-time his girlfriend with some American tart

Ouch! That's harsh.

Posted 2 years ago #
Shibboleth - Member

I'm with Mark... Woch a DVD, ete some pizza and put some moves on her.

Posted 2 years ago #
monotokpoint - Member

go for it, you have nothing to lose

Posted 2 years ago #
alpin - Member

oh shits.... you all think i've fallen for her. i've not. i've a great GF here. we each run on the same wavelength and have the same end goals; she's very supportive, a great cook, a good laugh (also dark sense of humour), very creative and intelligent. and it's been that way for the last (gulp, almost 7 years.

i'm not going to throw it all away for some home-sick septic.... she's also a great girl, but has got a screw or two loose somewhere.

Posted 2 years ago #
simonfbarnes - Member

Girls usuly won't talk to me

tell us something we didn't know

Posted 2 years ago #
BigDummy - Member

mebbe sum grls tlk funi lyke da Datz innit?

Posted 2 years ago #
action dan - Member

On the up side she might make a fantastic f*ck buddy!

Posted 2 years ago #
timdrayton - Member

or do what my mate did, organise a meal/drinks night out with the both partners along as well, wait till you get home, then jump on the bed like a love panther, tap both sides of the bed invitingly and purr "come on guys what about it?" wink.....

sadly his missus punched him full in the face bringing the proceedings to an abrupt halt.

Posted 2 years ago #
deadlydarcy - Member

On the up side she might make a fantastic f*ck buddy!

My thoughts exactly, and on BD's original post, not his lazt wun!

Posted 2 years ago #
monkey_boy - Member

how would you feel if your mrs did it?

Posted 2 years ago #
brakes - Member

that tingly guilt is probably the most sustainable enjoyment you will get out of this situation
.
as with many things in life, acting on your impulses often leads to pain, misery and regret, the only upside being good material for your mémoires
.
as the great Homer J once said "the first step towards failure is trying"

Posted 2 years ago #
steve-g - Member

When you're single you tend to chase the quick burning easy targets out of necessity and move in for the kill ASAP. Now you are in a relationship you have to treat this one as a slow burner and keep it warm until you find yourself single again (which it sounds like you almost certainly will).

Posted 2 years ago #
alpin - Member

thanks steve!

Posted 2 years ago #
rkk01 - Member

it's just odd... we've got a lot in common.

both met our other-half in australia whilst backpacking.

both moved to germany because of our other-half (her's couldn't get a green card).

both used to take lots of drugs before moving to germany where such things aren't so readily available.

er.... that might in fact be all we have in common.

oh, and we were on this course together....

Stalker?

Posted 2 years ago #
satsoma - Member

It's always cool to find people that you get on really well with...but I think you should ask yourself how you would feel if your girlfriend did the same with a guy she had a connection with.

Personally, I'd meet up as 2 couples or take my other half with me. Then the message is loud and clear and everyone can be friends

Posted 2 years ago #
Mark Datz - Member

Y don't u c if they will sheer u mayb 1 can hav u mon we'd fri & other 1 on other days then swop 4 the next week it will be fun 4 u all coz the girls can get bond by other dudes on ur day of

Posted 2 years ago #
satsoma - Member

Y don't u c if they will sheer u mayb 1 can hav u mon we'd fri & other 1 on other days then swop 4 the next week it will be fun 4 u all coz the girls can get bond by other dudes on ur day of

Eh?

Posted 2 years ago #
Mark Datz - Member

No I'm not from bunff I dony lik germins there not bad peepel but I don't yndarstnd them

Posted 2 years ago #
action dan - Member

Mark Datz - Fantastic! The Dizzy Rascal of STW

Posted 2 years ago #
DrP - Member

Y don't u c if they will sheer u mayb 1 can hav u mon we'd fri & other 1 on other days then swop 4 the next week it will be fun 4 u all coz the girls can get bond by other dudes on ur day of

Surely it's more effort to type like that, than it would be to use the correct letters in the correct order?
Just a thought...

DrP

Posted 2 years ago #
alpin - Member

the GF has a few mates who are male and with whom she gets on really well. nice enough blokes, but not my cup of tea..... a bit too effeminate. any bloke who can talk on the phone for over 30 minutes before deciding to come round or go for coffee isn't worth worrying about. or maybe that's their ploy....

i've not got a prob with the GF meeting her mates. same as she hasn't got a problem with me meeting mine. some of her mates are male, some of my mates are female.

though i did make the mistake of describing this septic as "a pretty girl". her face changed after that to one of curiousity to jealousy....

Posted 2 years ago #
action dan - Member

Alpin - Sounds like you've got the 7 yr itch and only you will know whether it needs a scratch! Your certainly not going to get the answer from faceless middle aged jealous forum bloggers pontificating about the rights/wrongs on whether you should or shouldn't go and see your friend alone. After all just because youv'e got the maybe I would/maybe I woudn't thoughts, those feelings would have to be mutual by both parties surely.

Posted 2 years ago #
jon1973 - Member

Surely it's more effort to type like that, than it would be to use the correct letters in the correct order?
Just a thought...

DrP

Grandad

Posted 2 years ago #
soma_rich - Member

Y don't u c if they will sheer u mayb 1 can hav u mon we'd fri & other 1 on other days then swop 4 the next week it will be fun 4 u all coz the girls can get bond by other dudes on ur day of

Stunned by this guy; truly; SUNNED

Posted 2 years ago #
MrNutt - Member

hey Alpin, you sure her and her BF are hoping for an Alpin sandwich?

Posted 2 years ago #
naokfreek - Member

Mark Datz ....amazing stuff, he needs to join the crown race..

oh and Alpin....know the feeling, it'll pass.

Posted 2 years ago #
Shibboleth - Member

naokfreek - Member
oh and Alpin....know the feeling, it'll pass.

It probably will, but no reason why he shouldn't enjoy a bit of high-octane sports sex with her while the iron is hot so to speak...

Posted 2 years ago #
naokfreek - Member

True. But it'll end in tears, these things always do....so have your thoughts but don't carry them out, imagine that..go on.

Posted 2 years ago #
gavtheoldskater - Member

I think we should have a quote of the day from mr datz, the guy is a genius. Absolutely love the 'ete pizza' line.

Posted 2 years ago #
thomthumb - Member

i've got 2 birds on the go. twice the expense, 4 times the hassle.

i'm stressed just thinking bout it!!

seriously - don't bother.

Posted 2 years ago #
Practical Matt - Member

As you go through life you will met many people you have a “connection with”, as you rise in stature and age at work you will more as likely find yourself in the company of younger pretty young things who listen to you and laugh at your jokes out of a mixture of sympathy and the desire to impress the boss, you may also retain some attraction that also brings these ladies to you. The difference between a human being and a rutting beats is the fact that you can sit down and think...

Do I want to hurt my partner, screw up my life, and risk everything for the chance to bump uglies with someone who will just as likely do the same to the next guy? I get a frisson of excitement when some of the temps in the office invite me out for a drink or wander about the office in inappropriate proto office wear. But then I think of my wife and all the years of fun and happiness we have and how pathetic the thought of losing all this is for the chance to undergo the same sensation I have had many times with many other ladies when I was younger until I found it all to be a bit samey with the lights off and ultimately went looking for the something more I found in my wife.

On the other hand if she makes you realise that you and your partner just don’t have a future then do the descent thing and break up with her before you do anything else.

Posted 2 years ago #
DaRC_L - Member

Simples - picture yourself as an old man, is the current gf with you being old?
If not, then bang away and let the emotional fireworks commence - but just remember the lyrics to Bobby Brown

MrP you can't apply logic to catz lyk da Datz

Posted 2 years ago #
BigDummy - Member

I think the way Practical Matt has phrased the question tends to steer us in the direction of one particular answer.

Posted 2 years ago #
sweepy - Member

You cant help chemistry and a bit of flirting does no harm. It would be insensitive to let the GF know about it. I dont get the impression you are seriously considering acting on it.

Posted 2 years ago #