My son's 18 months old and living (with me and his Mum) in Thailand.
My wife's a teacher and he attends the school from 8am - 12 noon and seems to love it. Some mornings he waves goodbye and goes off to play. Others there's a minute or so of tears but nothing much and he's always happily engrossed in playing when I arrive to collect him. I assume everything's going okay at school. He's always been sociable and confident.
We lived in The Philippines until a couple of months ago and his nanny there was wonderful. Patrick was born with congenital heart disease and she was more like a 3rd granny than an employee. She looked after him from 8 - 4:00 / 5:00 five days a week, doing everything a regular baby needs plus all the extra heart related stuff. He was as happy spending as day with her as he was with us!
His new nanny in Thailand is lovely but, for some reason, Patrick doesn't seem particularly fond of her and she, however nice she is, doesn't seem like such a natural with him; she certainly tries though...
We've employed his new nanny for about 3 weeks. He often cries when he sees her either after a nap or when she arrives in the morning. He's often just generally grumpy with her. Usually saying "park" is enough to get him clapping and getting his shoes but if she says it, he cries. He usually warms up to her. He usually takes less time to warm up to people though (he waves and shouts 'hi' at strangers)! People comment on what a friendly and good-natured boy he is. Always in a good mood and having fun. The crying could be because of all of the upheaval - since July he's had 2 weeks in Ireland, 2 weeks in Devon, 2 weeks in the School Boarding House and now 3 weeks in our new house. He got used to having his grandparents and Mammy around all the time and now had 1/2 a day at school and 1/2 a day with his nanny. I work from home but am often out with clients. I usually get to take him to school and collect him and see his interaction with his nanny though.
So, do we have unrealistic expectations of the bond that can develop and the time it takes? We were incredibly lucky last time so should we accept that finding two amazing nannies is less likely? If someone isn't a natural, can it come? The longer this lady works for us, the harder it'll be (morally etc, not legally) to let her go. How long should we give it? I fired a maid a few years ago for stealing and it was easy. I'd hate to fire someone as "my son doesn't seem to like you very much"!
Jesus STW do?
bit of a long winded post I know.