Years of debaucherous living lead to addiction which I quit only to replace it with something very similar. When I finally quit that on 01/08/07 I had a bipolar incident that turned my life upside down. I lost my wife, someone who was my best friend for 8 years and now wouldn't piss on me if I was on fire. I have a great "new" life with another girl who is also great and I'm very happy, but I seriously regret the way I behaved. Wish I'd had some control over it.
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do you have any regrets?
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Why? Boring to live there? It seems a nice place to be but not a lot to do maybe?
Yep...nice place to visit but not to necessarily to live particularly after moving from the hustle and bustle of London/Surrey. Personally I think we were to young, the weather for the first year was awful, access rights seem bad in France (No bridleways without driving to places like Nantes-Brest canal, Huelgoat)...I could go on. Not Brittany's fault necessarily...just didn't work for us.
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I should have pursued a career in what I wanted to do rather than what I thought I should do.
Although I have been all over the world, I should have travelled more when I jad no responsibilities eg. A long overland journey by car/bike/moto, but due to work/career issues didn't feel that I could leave it all for 6 months or a year and pick up where I left off.
With hindsight these were excuses and I should have travelled, come back and started again at something different.
All in all, I have had a good life so far though.
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I regret giving up my dream job of radio presenter just because everything got 'too much'. If I wasn't such a coward I would have stuck with it and could be doing a much better job than Chris Moyles by now...
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Frederique Paone
Although even that not really, it's still a good story when I meet up with the mates and in any case, +1 to Gavskater
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"There's the crime of passion and the crime of revenge but the worst crime of all is the crime of regret"......Wayne Hussey
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I regret some of the choices I made in my mid 20s over relationships. taking the 'safe' route when deep down I knew it was the wrong route. However, it's all part of who I am now, and I think I'm ok.
Wish I'd travelled more before I had the kids, but I'll rectify that in.....*mental arithmetic* 8 years, give or take... Anyone want to come with me?
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smoking too much dope over the years;
drinking too much booze over the years;
wearing stretch denims in those all-important adolescent years, thereby restricting the wee chap's 'room to roam';
not being brave enough with the ladies who were so obviously interested in me (or the wee chap);
not finding my raison d'etre - now 42 and wondering why I'm here and what I'm supposed to be doing to make the most of it;
spending money on bad fashion choices and music tapes/CDs which are just rubbish;
not getting away from home earlier, or making efforts to stay away when I actually did make the break;****. I could continue, but it's Friday, and I'd like a pint this evening - not a depression brought on by reflecting on the negatives.
Didn't mean to bring anyone down.Posted 2 years ago # -
Sorry Jo I will on my way back by then
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One or two regrets about things I did or didn't do, said or didn't say. But being older and wiser is a good thing. I have a feeling that unless I bite the bullet and set out to achieve the goals I want to this year rather than settling for the secure option, I'll have deep regrets.
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I reveresed over my sisters Horse with the tractor, wasn't my finest hour
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Man, there's just so much to regret.
The biggest one must be buying a house with someone without talking about/sorting out the real stuff first. Stupid, stupid man. Sometimes what you fear the most meets you halfway...
But there's not really much point in it all though now is there?
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listening to my folks about the likelihood of my career aspirations.
Still, that's on the mend now, and as a result I have had a cracking past 20 years, just a bit behind on the career thing now (not that I'm bothered actually)
otherwise, few ladies, few opportunities, but I would only have taken them in hindsight if they led to where I am now. which is unlikely.
oh, and the twins.
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Yes.
I'd have started racing motorbikes at a younger age.
I'd have loved to have raced in the IOM TT.My choice of career at 18 - I'd change and maybe gone to study Geography and geology. Maybe.
Not messed an old GF about many moons ago - who knows?Things are still ongoing with another family matter, so I'm not sure yet on that score.
It might work out or it might yet sink the boat!Finally - I do think I might have made more of an effort to get along with my father, now he's got dementia it's all too late to un-pick that particular tapestry, although one up-side is he laughs at my jokes now and seems to have forgotten that he and I don't really get along!
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And you have the added bonus of telling him the same joke over and over??
Make the most of what's left.
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Hitting the top of the descent slightly quicker than my ability could match, then spending the best part of last year with a cast on my arm.
Pressing "Send" on an e-mail to a Boss (now former).
Why doesn't Outlook have a "Are your really sure" and a "Are you really, really sure" button?Posted 2 years ago # -
Shamed again! How did you now?
Just 2.5% of the government's medical research budget is spent on dementia research, while a quarter is spent on cancer research.
1 in 3 over 65s will die with some form of dementia.The future is not that rosy near to the end.
However, I do think that being physically active and dynamic makes a massive difference from your mid 40's onwards, into the 50's and 60's. Don't fancy the 70's - all that brown corduroy and tank-tops! Posted 2 years ago # -
chooseing Rachael over Deb
Not getting Jim-the-greyhounds kennelmate from the rescue place when we got him (as well as not instead of)
selling my Colnago Dream with Mapei paint! (just ordered new 'nago tho!)Posted 2 years ago # -
I have always believed it is far better to regret something you have done than to regret something you have not...
I now know this is very true as I did not do something last year and its a VERY BIG regret in life...
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Just the one thing. Wish I'd gone out on my bike that day...
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Not so much regrets as 'I wish I'd done this or that instead'. Like if I'd stayed on the Cooncil as a fitter I'd probly be retired now (wouldv'e been 38 years next month) but I went into business with Ma & Pa, & if we'd sold the business in the mid 80's for the valuation price of 175K instead of 65K in 1997.... well who knows. Instead I'm not exactly well off & will need to crack on till I'm 65, (like lots of others I suppose)
Should NEVER have married the one I did though, thank **** it was all over by 91'Posted 2 years ago # -
It would be dodgy changing even the tiniest thing in my past give the set of coicidences that got me to where I'm happily sitting now.
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I wish I'd figured out something I liked doing when I was about 15, instead of having to wait til my mid 20s after doing a degree with no relevance to it.
Also kind of wish I hadn't broken my hip, that was about 5 years down the drain.
And, women, obviously.
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loads, most of late teenage years were pretty bad with a collection of hurting people that cared for me and f**king over a lot of decent people. Drugs and the arrogance of youth do not make happy bed fellows
biggest regret was not being there for someone when they needed me who's now sadly no longer with us.It does mean that I'm now a much more tolerant caring person than my persona sometimes shows and although painful, at least I've always taken full accounability for my actions rather than blaming it on society, the sate, my childhood etc..
My life motto is now "that which does not kill you, makes you stranger"
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Yup if I was going to regret anything, it would be a relationship one. But like an earlier poster said, it made me part of what I am today and I don't regret that particular journey.
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Only one and that is I shouldn't of hit that drop to quick, 6 months later and my shoulder still **** and looks like i'll be seeing the consultant again
Onion had that thought 7 months ago as Tails said he already knew
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Regret?
Yes, one I guess as I have not learned another language, which I should.
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There's a great film on choices you make in life and the consequences Run Lola Run
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I regret not telling my father how much I loved him, that he was the most influential person in my life. Saying a few words at the funeral next week won't make up for this omission.
i been thinking what you said all day onion, and i have come to the conclusion that he knew, i just know he knew - 6th sense i figure.
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Regrets? Well, I've had a few, but then again, too few to mention
Steady on, think I may a copyright on those words!
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I have two that still cross my mind every day
1. I was accepted for my dream job in the RAF, but 2 days before i was due to start training i called them up to say i wanted to withdraw from my place. All because of a girl. I could have been working for the 'security services' now
2. A girl called Katie, she was the 'one', still think about her everyday, i just wish i worked harder at the relationship and had known why i was feeling how i was (which i do now)
Ah well, maybe I'll come back and get to do it all again
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I regret every minute I didn't spend with a GF before she passed away. You just don't expect these things to happen when you're only 23.
Still - several years later and I'm happily married. Not many of my friends are allowed to keep up pictures of previous GFs in their house.
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ohhh im actually feeling pretty happy about this now...
im a mere 19 years old, have already been travelling for a year, have been with a reasonable amount of ladies, all of which are reasonably attractive, am sort of learning French and plan to spend a year in Belgium after ive finished My Geography Degree...
i bet when im the average age of the STW forum Users (37 was it?) there will be some sort of regrets....
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That I spent most of my 20s building up enormous debt, getting fat and drinking far, far too much alcohol. By the time my wife and I calmed down and started a family, I was 4 stone heavier, £75 grand poorer and 10 years older. Got to love those secured loans, takaways and 8-for-a-fiver booze deals.
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after ive finished My Geography Degree...
Funny you say that, choosing to study Geography just to be against my parent's will has probably been my biggest regret yet. I should have done Economics or Finance. When you realise you want to be at the very top, you also realise that a 'geography degree' stuggles to be recognized in a world already filled to the brim with businese and econ graduates.
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