I’m looking for advice on getting diviorced, we are looking to do so without involving a solicitor. It’s all pretty amicable, still just as devestating.

Thanks

You can get binding arbitration

http://www.sfla.co.uk/shouldiarbitrate.htm

If you can agree waht you are going to do perhaps this is the route?

You could get a legal pack from WHSmith and do the process yourselves, it has the forms in and everything you need – but it maybe harder if there are kids involved.

It’ll cost around £300ish in total including court fees. Easy to do if, as you say, it’s amicable.

Depends on whether you live in Scotland or elsewhere.

I don’t live in Scotland and there are no kids involved. Just need to transfer my share of the company.

IIRC, if you can’t demonstrate exceptional circumstances to the judge you’ll have to demonstrate 2 years of separation before it becomes absolute.

Having been there, do what you can to keep it amicable and stoichally jump through the legal hoops until it’s over. Oh, and there is no more depressing place in the land than the family law courts (not helped by all the c**ts ‘manning’ the Bath office – and breath….). Best of luck.

Sorry to hear this mate and good luck. I hope you can both get through it all ok.

Having been through it, i’d just warn you to be prepared for it not to be amicable in the end. Having started going through it all still on talking terms, we ended up just talking through solicitors.

As for the DIY divorce, I’d look at getting a pre-settlement agreement written up by a solicitor. That way you know what your both getting/not getting prior to it going any further. It only takes one drunken call late at night and it all goes down the pan.

Good luck

‘kin ‘ell I wish mine had been so straightforward.

Best of luck.

Bad times. I hope you can both keep it on the right side of the line and avoid any more hurt than there needs to be.

My ex and I wrote a letter outlining how we were going to progress our lives and how we were going to divide up our possessions. We printed and signed 4 copies and each kept one and gave the other two to our respective parents by way of a ‘just in case’. We then went our separate ways, sold up and after the required time (2 years?) she went to the local courts to pick up the paperwork, citing irreconcilable differences and period of separation and a few months later the decree absolute was issued. It can be as easy as that.

Mtbfix I did prtty much the same

yes it was easy with the divorce bit (but mentally hard)

I do hope it can be ammicable for you

Pffft! This is all too civilised! Where are all the “She took me for everything I had. House. Kids. Car. Money.” merchants?

Seriously, no experience but best wishes and well done for being grown up about it.

*in a non arsehole way and no offence being intended so please dont take any!!!*

do you reckon people ask what rear mech to buy on divorce forums?

Divorce is the wrong name it is medically known as a

“wifectomy”

Have a look at quickiedivorce.com
There’s quite a few like it and they have all the guides and works out cheap, but to be honest it’s almost as easy to go to the office where you hand in the paperwork and they’ve got all the forms and guides for you. Relatively easy to do but there are only 4(?) ways of doing it – 2 years separation and both sign, 5 years separation and only 1 signs, adultery or irreconcilable differences. The people at the council offices are usually very helpful.

Good luck. I did it with my ex-wife all very amicably as she’d changed her mind on wanting kids. I’m now super happy with a 6 month old boy and a fantastic partner (I hate that phrase but girlfriend sounds too glib).

rickos is an uber dad. i just know this.

he will be awesome next week too in the alps.

woot

I used Divorceonline and was very happy with their service 🙂

Good luck fella, even a straight-forward Divorce is still stressful

MMMmmm! Amicable you say? I guess this has only just happened?

If that’s the case then wait for the fireworks……there aint no such thing as an ‘amicable’ divorce.

My advice – don’t be a numb-nutts like me – give her f all; she’ll hate you no matter what.

Read this thread in 18 months – 2years time and tell me it aint so.

My divorce 2 months start to finish – £300ish from memory which she paid 🙂

Best thing I ever did. But then I am a selfish funker

Plum

man, sorry to hear that. Been through it myself. It was amicable but in my experience it’s hard to keep it that way. We both worked very hard and bit our tounges and took some stuff on the chin and managed to keep it totally amicable. My only advice, especially if you’re doing it without a solicitor, is to keep it amicable no matter how hard you have to work to do that. I can only imagine how hard it must be if you’re both fighting at the same time.

There’s a book called ‘divorce for dummies’ which a friend passed onto me after her divorce and was quite good.

Good luck.

We just fell out of love, we both care very much for each other but the spark and desire to keep us together isn’t there and we’ve agreed that neither should remain in a marriage without love. It was the hardest thing for us to discuss and agree but we both know that it’s for the best. We’ll remain best friends and will always be there to help just not as husband and wife. I don’t see things getting ugly but if I could see into the future I would be in this position.

tankslapper – Member
MMMmmm! Amicable you say? I guess this has only just happened?

If that’s the case then wait for the fireworks……there aint no such thing as an ‘amicable’ divorce.

My advice – don’t be a numb-nutts like me – give her f all; she’ll hate you no matter what.

Read this thread in 18 months – 2years time and tell me it aint so.

Sorry hate to say but he is right still to this day I do not slag off my ex but she was real difficult after she left

Just in case its any help, you don’t have to live in separate buildings for 2 years to prove separation, just that you have lived ‘separate lives’ – ie not socialising together, having your own rooms in the house, not having communal food. My parents separated, divorced and continued both living in the same house for some while after the divorce was finalised.

Oh, and a friend of mine and her husband did their own divorce, no problems or issues and it was very cheap. Sadly for him it was his second DIY divorce, so he knew the procedure already. It can work out OK and saves a lot of pain as it would have been a much longer and more formal procedure with solicitors deeply involved. It cost my parents a lot of money, even though there were no real complications involved as all children were adult and the house was the only financial issue.