What would you do:
A very close cousin of the missus has a daughter (18yrs) whose about to have her first child with a total **** of a boyfriend. The cousin agreed a while back to buy a load of baby stuff off us (basically the first 6 months worth of kit/equipment/toys/clothes etc) but has since split with her own partner and been hit with a load of bills that she now needs to spend all her savings on. So she can no longer afford to buy the baby gear.
The missus now wants to give her the stuff. We’re talking about £400+ worth (nearly £1500 RRP), and that’s money we also need. Now, said cousin is a very decent woman – just a shame her now-ex has always been a **** and won’t fund anything. Plus their daughter and boyfriend are living at home and contributing nothing.
Here’s the issue: I want the kid of have at least some kind of start, and if that means getting decent kit/clothing/food/etc then that’s a help. But the boyfriend refuses to work (his parents and siblings have never worked and currently most of them are shacked up in a 5 bed house courtesy of the state). And this is what boils my piss. He expects the system to provide for him and therefore refuses to get a job. And with the cousin on a low income and struggling as it is, there’s the risk of the child losing out.
I want to agree to give them the stuff, but I can see the daughter and boyfriend seeing this as just the beginning, i.e. they’ll mistreat it all (because they don’t treat anything with respect) and then expect us to give them more, i.e. they’ll just keep expecting it to be this easy. And it’ll spiral with the cousin getting grief too. Plus we’d also like the money because it’s £400 whichever way you look at it.
Part of me wants to do a deal with the boyfriend along the lines of “You get a job and pay me X and I’ll match it.” I.e. sell it to them for half price. But he’s a real selfish knobber and not the sort to listen to anyone but himself.
What say you?