As others have said just stop worrying about it. Our son ate very little for the first few years, some days he would eat virtually nothing. He's 11 now, very healthy and eats will.
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Advice on getting my 17 month old daughter to eat. (FRUSTRATION CONTENT!)
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whenever someone starts talking about 'toxins' you know to start ignoring them completely.
moutaincarrot can i make a wild guess that you have absolutely no scientific background or understanding of human physiology and are willing to base all your opinions on random internet junk and personal observations.
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Read some of this but at work so can't read it all.
My tips would be
1. Relax - they will sense your frustration and either play on it to get what they want or get stressed over eating which leads to all sorts of other problems.
2. Have a structured meal times. We have Breakie at around 8am, snack about 10am (Strips of vegs or biscuit or pitta and houmous or banana), lunch at 12.30 then snack mid afternoon and dinner at 6pm. Routine is key as it will get their metabolism in order and they will know what to expect when.
3. No snacks outside of their mealtimes - it'll turn everything to crap if you do.
4. Put dinner down and if they don't eat it, don't make a fuss (very important) just leave it with them for about 10mins (or until they throw it around) then if they don't start / finish eating it then move it away - you can try to feed them if you like but don't make a big issue of it. If they ask for what they prefer (sausages) then say "no, eat your dinner" and give them their dinner back. If they don't want it and refuse dinner then get them down from the table - bit of tough love and they'll soon work it out that they have to eat what is put infront of them. If you give into them then while you will be feeding them up for that one meal you'll also be creating a rod for your own back without resolving the problem.
Mainly I'd say relax, lay down a routine and take control.
Oh, and buy Annabel Karmel's book - she is awesome!
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My 6yr old was always a picky eater. He had his favourites which thankfully turned out to be full roast dinner type things. I dont think he has ever eaten a sandwich and only recently did he start eating finger food like sausage rolls etc. He refuses to even enter macdonalds
It got a little worrying but we decided that as long as he ate a full meal, we didnt push it. His sister is another kettle of fish. If its edable, she will try it, to the detriment of having a full meal and just picking at food. Is she any worse for it? Not at all. Is meal times any harder? Not at all. Its just that we are much more relaxed with her and mealtimes are fun.
We only have 1 rule with regards to eating (Aside from good manners)
If a plate of food is put in front of you, if you dont finish it you dont get pudding. I dont care what the excuse is i hate to see food thrown away. Same rule for myself.
With regards to your little un. Isnt she a little old for bottles of milk? Some kids find it easier to just insist on the milk rather than make the effort with food.
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My son's the same went from eating loads of different things to just eating bananas and yoghurt as well as his formula for a week!
We found that the more we fretted about it the worse his eating fads got, so now we take the attitude of 'if he's hungry he'll eat' and it works he will now come and sit at the table and eat his luch/dinner. The staff at the nursery he goes to say he has the best table manners and eating habits of all the children in his age group, even my mum has made comments that he's really good when they take him out.
Smoothies seem to work really well if you are concenred about fruit intake and even a juicer too, Jnr. really likes carrot and orange juce and loves the colour of beetroot juice!Just gently persist and try lots of different food, patience really is a virtue!
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Fairly sure I remember my parents saying that when I didn't eat I was just left to it, eventually I'd get hungry enough to go looking for food myself. I suspect this was when I was >17 months though,so surely all you can do (and I'm no parent so feel free to ignore!) is leave her to it and when she's hungry she'll cry, just check she isnt losing weight?
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Hi meikle_partans
"you have absolutely no scientific background " . Wild guess indeed.
In fact an MEng in engineering. I don't accept claptrap. The answers are never all in one place as I pointed out. My job is all about seeing what works, understanding what's behind it, improving what does, reading lots and throwing out the crap. This website indeed contains much of the latter, but I was asked to enlighten. One thing I don't do is accept marketing at face value, especially if there is a lot of money behind it.
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well i did say it was a wild guess! when it comes to this kind of stuff i am firmly in the http://www.badscience.net camp.
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That all sounds completely normal! Just keep putting small pieces of different food on her plate to try to widen her tastes. Try not to fuss, otherwise they learn to refuse to eat for attention. It helps to look at food consumed over a week rather than at each meal, both our kids have eating days and non-eating days but it all averages out. Regular mealtimes and eating at the same time as the child are also good.
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dont feed them on their own.
dont feed them too much crap.
some kids just eat less than others.
(my personal bugbear) table manners are for kids are really important. its pretty disgusting watching some kids eat and it shouldnt be.
its really not that hard to get them eating properly.
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Hi meikle_partans,
Well we are not so different. I have a lot of time for Ben Goldacre (Bad Science). I believe he occasionally jumps on the big industry bandwaggon without always researching as thoroughly as he should.
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Our two (currently aged 3.5 and 2). Have eaten what we eat since they were weaned - our diet is fairly normal. I.e. meat/fish/vegetables and very little processed food (meat from butchers & organic veg box). It saved all sorts of faffing about. When they were really little, we'd cook the meal and blend it to feed them; as they got older, we gave them more lumps. If they didn't eat it, there wasn't anything else available.
We're really lucky in that they've taken to this really well - this also means that when they have the odd chocolate/crisp/cheese frenzy, we're not too worried.
Another thing that I think also helped is that we've always sat at the table and eaten together - they see what's on our plate and see us eating it.
Plus the kids have never eaten in front of the telly - it's too much of a distraction (weekend breakfasts are an occasional exception as I sometimes put the telly on in the kitchen).
We still get occasional refusals of food but, after initial anxieties, we just leave them alone. If they're hungry they'll eat. If not, then it could be any number of things - tired, hot, teething etc.
Good luck, you'll all be fine!
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We've done the same as freddyg with ours. We always made the effort to sit down and eat together, and they ate what we ate, but blended down or chopped up.
Our eldest (almost 6) will eat (huge quantities) of almost anything, though she is almost vegetarian and just doesn't like the texture of most meat.
Our youngest (almost 4) is much pickier than her big sister. She also eats a lot less. She'd happily subsist on nothing but sausages. She's not keen on 'vebbles', but will eat fruit till it comes out of her ears.
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I don't have kids, but i can speak as fussy eater. I would be on the verge of throwing up when trying something new, it was before it was even in my mouth. Both my mam and myslef ending up it tears on various occasions and it hurt both of us. I ended up going through various things with the doctor, psychologist and even a hypnotist(a very cool/relaxing experience). Apparently my subconscious is trying to protect me!!! Never found out what from though...
I've got better at trying things, but my diet is very very limited and not healthy at that.
It might be worth trying to find out what it is that daughter doesn't like. For me its textures, i can eat a wide range of flavours, but if the texture is wrong i don't like it. I now just laugh it off as a mental disorder thing
Given your daughters age, its likely she'll grow out of it. Not sure if the above helps, but it may help ease the frustration.Posted 2 years ago # -
From what you are saying, sounds like she has a healthy appetite. I would live and let live to be honest.
Is your missus a freaky eater, or does she have any issues with food? (she must have, she's a woman
)Be careful she doesn't transpose this onto the child.If you put pressure on her to eat, you'll encourage her to use eating, or not eating as a bargaining tool.
My wife has successfully done this with my son, who now eats nothing very healthy at all. He's now 14 and she still panders to him based on her own negative childhood experiences. He's very sporting so isn't overweight, but i'm certain he will have major health issues if he doesn't start eating stuff like vegetables and fruit etc.
I would get concerned if the baby reaches 4-5 years and still has extreme eating issues. By the sounds of it, she has none anyway. For now, just keep meal times as calm and stress free as possible, or I guarantee you'll regret it later on.
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Never in a million years expected to get so much good advice from you lot.
I doth my cap!
Mrs AB says a BIG thank you too.
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Dunno if anyone else has mentioned it, but have you checked if she is lactose tolerant?
Dosn't have to be an all out vomiting and screaming rejection for it to make her unwell enough not to feel like eating.
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