Some kids are naughty and some kids are wired up wrong and naughty its easy to spot the difference but hard to do much about it in a class of 30.
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ADHD - Does anyone have any experience
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Posted 3 months ago #
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anagallis_arvensis - Member
Some kids are naughty and some kids are wired up wrong and naughty its easy to spot the difference but hard to do much about it in a class of 30.Posted 1 hour ago #
Doing the same job as A-A. I would agree. Of course as Konabunny says, nobody would ever view their childs behaviour as an excuse to try and get a disability allowance/excuse for crap parenting.
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Ooh, I say, no need for the rolly eyes! My post wasn't at all saying that there aren't some pushy parents who try to pressure a diagnosis one way or the other (there are plenty that don't want their kids with The Label).
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Also some folk like a label and some want to get special needs status.
Some people find a label helpful because it lets others know what to expect and how to avoid difficult situations, and "special needs status" gives legal protection under the disability act.FTFY
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and some kids are wired up wrong
the trouble with that statement is its dismissive, we can't do anything with them," there wired up wrong" As a foster carer I see a lot of children with behavour problems, but I've never met one thats wired up wrong...Posted 3 months ago # -
It's just not that simple: you'll not get DLA just by being a pushy parent that harasses a doctor into diagnosing a child with ADHD or ADD. It's not like hassling a GP to give you antibiotics for a runny nose.
Of course not, but it does happen. Sometimes for more benefit, sometime for "ease of management"
mrs rkk01 has had a number of kids whom she has been able to manage effectively and positively - with the supporting professionals (educational pscyhologists, doctors etc)agreeing that diagnosis / treatment not necessary, but once they had moved on from her class / environment they ended up diagnosed and drugged up on ritalin.
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can we add "and married to a SEN teacher" to the "STWers are secondhand Audi-driving, Aldi-shopping middle-aged architects" stereotype now?
Don't like Audis
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In some ways, I am looking for a label (as well as some genuine help and treatment) because a label makes it easier for me to go to my employers and say "Look - I have this. It's manageable, and I can be a good employee, but it takes some working around".
I'm certainly not interested in benefits. The one thing I really, really want at the moment is to be a productive, creative, successful person, and a responsible friend and family member. That would be way better than any cheque (not that I'd be eligible for one).
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As part of my job i assess for ADHD in children. We dont get "hassled" into diagnosis. We dont dish out meds for the fun of it. Equally ADHD medication is quite a clean drug, with little side affects and works almost instantly so you know whether it works within a day or two.
Most times we prescribe and families say thank you , what a difference in my childs presentation.
There are a lot of misconceptions around ADHD, its not just bad parenting.Posted 3 months ago # -
16sp, now you need to quit your job and become self employed - probably an artist or something.. don't forget to blog about it.
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Speaking in my capacity as a parent of a kid diagnosed with ADHD (& Aspergers & OCD), and therefore familiar with off-the-cuff comments on 'excuses for bad parenting', 'drugged up kids', etc, I'd just like to straighten up a couple of points.
Firstly, Ritalin is not given to kids to dope them into a stupor and shut them up. It's prescribed to iron out the hyperactivity and allow the kids to concentrate on tasks and function mentally like most other kids. Probably a poor analogy, but it's like taking a decongestant when you've got a cold so you can get on with your work without the distraction of bunged up sinuses. If a kid prescribed Ritalin for ADHD is in 'a torpor' then it's probably down to insomnia or exhaustion caused by the kid's condition rather then the effects of the drug itself.
Secondly, whenever I've challenged people who've made comments on 'excuses for bad parenting' and 'drugging up kids', etc, they've never turned out to have any close experience with a child with ADHD, they're just repeating what they've heard other people say or 'their sister's a teacher and reckons that 99% of cases are made up', etc.
I'm looking forward to the day when someone I challenge ends up making me look stupid and not the other way round
As for the 'label' aspect, before my son got his diagnosis for Aspergers (his ADHD diagnosis came later) we didn't know what the hell was going on. The diagnosis, and, therefore, label, brought with it understanding, third party help and something we could begin to work from to make his, and our lives easier.
At the moment my son (aged 13) has had a reoccurance of severe OCD. He is tormented by the possibility of contamination from other peoples' body fluids and imagines irrational scenarios in which members of the public have coughed or spat at him and he has contracted HIV. He's walking around with his hood up looking like Kenny from South Park with thick wollen gloves on and exhaling loudly to blow anyone elses germs away from him. And I don't think that's down to bad parenting.
Right, apologies for any bad grammer and typos but I've got a bit of a head cold at present. I'm off to take some Lemsip and if it works within the next 15 minutes then I'll log back in and edit out any spelling errors.
Cheers,
Rich (Parent of two well behaved kids and one with ADHD and other troubles
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Just had to resurrect this thread. I recently got yet another "self-help" texts on the subject. One of the self-assessment questions was "Do you love bicycles?"
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