Every baby is different so what will work for one will not always work for another.
But.. you don't say what your are feeding her the rest of the day or how much sleep she is getting in the day time, both can influence what could be causing it.
In my none expert opinion can be one of three things:
1. Not eating enough in the daytime
2. Not sleeping enough in the day time/sleeping too much
3. Likes the attention she is getting when she wakes up in the night.
Personally I think you have got #3. Does she shut up as soon as she gets attention/milk in the night?
Jnr FD is now 11 months old and had an illness about 5 weeks ago. He slept in our bed for a couple of nights and was very unsettled for about 2-3 more while he was sick. He has then however kept waking up in the middle of the night since crying his eyes out. As soon as he gets in to bed with Mrs FD he shuts up.
We have started the controled crying thing... at first we literally would let him ball his eyes out for 20 mins or so, which didnt work as he just worked himself in to a major tiz.
What we have found is working is a staged approach. If we hear crying, dummy in. If that didnt work (which it wouldnt) lift him out of the cot and cuddle and sing to him untill he settled back down, back in the cot. Some nights we have repeated this 4 or 5 times and been up for 2 hours at a time. Some times it would also require physically holding him down in bed as he would always try and sit up (sounds cruel but it isnt and has worked!)
Last night he woke up once. I didnt have to lift him out of the cot, just sing to him and stroke his head. I had to go in twice but I was only up for 30 mins or so.
I can see that what we are doing is working and he is slowly learning how to get back to sleep by himself if he wakes up in the night. In fact last night I'm sure he realised he was wasting his time creating a fuss when I went in the room.
Of course you have the added problem that she is expecting milk. Cut down the amount of milk you give her in the night a small amount at a time and combine with the above.
It will take time...lots of time and you will end up being awake for longer than if you just give in and feed/cuddle etc, but it doesnt work longterm.
As to all these baby powders etc that promise extended sleep etc etc. Apparently its all b@llocks and the milks are all essentially the same. Our 11 month old gets the same Aptamil 1st stage milk he always had, just follow the guidelines of how much to mix.
IMHO of course.
