Ok so I’ve been on 3 dates with this woman, she’s pretty average looking but we get on quite well however I’m beginning to think I’m her meal ticket.

1st date I bought all the drinks all night £40
2nd date a Thai meal and rinks £80
3rd date cinema and prezzo £80

I don’t mind paying initially but not once has she offered to buy a round of drinks on any of our 3 dates is this the sign of things to come. Am I being unreasonable? I don’t think I am as I would of at least expected her to offer at some point!

What do the STW massive think, shall I get out quick?

That would hack me off.
I think you need to walk away.

Yeah I could of bought some nice upgrades for my Soul!

Welcome to married life.

Say your next date is going to be fish and chips at your place, as you’re skint until pay day, that should test her!

I’ve alway been in relationships/a marriage where everything is more of less equal! She has no kids a resonably paid job in teaching,I have to support my little girl and fund my biking too!

Oh and tell if she wants peas or curry sauce she better bring her purse.

Say your next date is going to be fish and chips at your place, as you’re skint until pay day, that should test her!

Seems like a plan, I’m gonna leave it for a few days and see what happens

Does she work? Do you?

But judging by the tone of your post, you’re not exactly catch of the day.

I like Headfirsts plan, give her a reality slap ;D

What’s a prezzo?

I do think that if she is not making some contribution to dates by this stage then you either have massive cultural differences or you are being used .

Hunter gatherer doesn’t want to hunt or gather.
I think the whole tone of the op gives you the answer,

Does she work? Do you?

Re read post i said she’s a teacher and yes I work other wise I wouldn’t be spending £200 on 3 dates!

If she was smoking hot would you be complaining?

If she was smoking hot would you be complaining?

In theory no!

I can pretty much say after 17 years my wife has still never paid for drinks, meals at all since our first date.

have you had any pay back from the investment yet? Weigh the quality of that up against the cost so far.

have you had any pay back from the investment yet?

No I am a gent, and things haven’t progressed to the bedroom yet! I am attracted to her physically and I’m only average looking myself but she says I’m fit in appearance sense not the fitness sense haha

LOL 3 dates and you’;ve not had your wicked way…

I think you’re the one taking yourself for a ride, not her.

No action … paying for everything.. sounds like you are already married

She isn’t hot hasn’t put out and is tight!
In the spirit of STW I demand pics for you both.

3 dates is the norm I thought! Obviously some ladies are different!

I would walk. I might pay a first date, I would expect equal shares after that. I certainly wouldn’t consider taking this any further

Have you considered joining a union ?

Same as Drac, my missus has never bought a drink or a meal since our first date back in 1985

I’d be horrified if she even suggested it

Why would you be horrified if she suggested it?

Why would you be horrified if she suggested it?

Because it hasn’t happened in 27 years?

Irrelevant anyway, all our money is just in one big pot that we both use

I go 50:50 from the off. It’s 2012 FFS.

You tight git – be a gentleman!!

£200!

That’s more than I have spent on my Mrs in the last 15 years!

😉

Why not just buy her a house and cut out the next ten years? 😀

If you’re asking the question, you already know the answer. Id do date 4 purely to get some return on investment, but that’d be it.

Hmmmmm tricky. You’ve invested a fair bit of cash in this now, you could walk away and guaranteed no more losses. But in the back of your mind you’re thinking, “maybe one more date”. But what if nothing happens on that one either? Or the next? It’s throwing good money after bad.

Sounds like you tried to seal the deal with the present on date 3, but that didn’t work.

Best option – ask her round to yours for a takeaway and a DVD. A cheap night, and everyone knows what it means. Still no action after that then walk away.

This is the answer to the question you were really asking isn’t it? 😉

Man some of you guys are brutal!

Yup, time to break out the Steven Segal boxset

Date 4 should be at your house anyway (for obvious reasons) regardless of money.
So go with that.

Put away the gimp suit before she comes over tho.

If you lot are going to run you whole life based on pounds and pence and continually looking for a return on every £ you spend.

You’ll end up all bitter and twisted – just look at TJ 😉

Sweet baby Jesus and the orphans! So you’ve a little mental calculator totting up how much you’ve spent? The meter running, so to speak? Some of you lot are are as tight as a gnats chuff.

Speaking of which, what’s Hora’s take on this? He’s water-tight, that bugger!

We live in an age of austerity and financial turmoil – returns on any investments are not what they used to be. Perhaps the OP should try hedging his funds with a wide range of women to avoid disappointing returns.

Are you keeping the dinner receipts for your accountant? You may be able to write some of it off against tax.

Speaking of which, what’s Hora’s take on this? He’s water-tight, that bugger!

From the picture Hora paints of himself, women throw themselves and their money at him just to feel his faintest touch.