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3 year old stuttering
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glasgowdanFree Member
Anyone had their kids stuttering quite significantly and have any advice?
Wee boy has been mildly stuttering for a couple of months, but the past 2 weeks or so it has ramped up and he often repeats the first syllable of a sentence up to 10-15 times before the sentence comes out. We both feel quite upset about it! It seems to be worse when he’s not got our full attention and he’s just talking at us. When we stop and ask him questions and engage his mind more fully he doesn’t seem to do it.
I don’t think there have been any significant changes in his life or home, and I (as someone who had a stutter right through school years) just hope it stems from a lack of confidence. He IS very reluctant to muck in and play with other kids when there are group activities going on.
tailsFree MemberCan you find helpful exercises online or failing that go to a speech theatapist. Maybe YouTube will help with exercises to repeat.
I think it’s best to try and correct it for his own confidence.
eskayFull MemberI am no expert, but when one of my boys started stammering (at a a similar age) we were told to ignore it. He is now 14 and speaks normally (for a 14 year old!).
I can remember that it was very frustrating as a parent to listen to him struggling to get his words out.
1-shedFree MemberRing speech therapy and you should be able to self refer. Let them know that you had dysfluency as a child. In the meantime don’t draw attention to it and when he says something repeat it back and then comment. Reduce any background noise eg TV radio etc. When talking try to be face to face and at his level. Reduce the questions you ask him and comment on what he is doing instead. Try to do 4 comments to 1 question, that way he will have heard the language needed to answer you. When you ask a question give him up to 20 seconds to answer you, this will seem forever but it will give him time to process what is being said. Keep your sentences short ie if he is joining up to 4 words your sentence shouldn’t be more than 5 words. Get down to the floor play with him and let him take the lead. All the best 1 shed.
DezBFree Member+1 what Eskay says
One of my nephews developed a weird “echo” type stammer when he was a toddler.
It went away within the year.I considered getting speech therapy for my boy when he was around 3/4 – had a lisp. Never did and by the time he was at school, his speech was perfectly normal.
hols2Free MemberMy daughter stuttered a bit at that age. It went away naturally. Apparently it’s quite common. Drawing attention to it generally just causes stress, so just do the best you can to not cause any stress about it.
However, discussing it with an expert is sensible.
ScienceofficerFree MemberLook up developmental stuttering.
It fell on my lad at 4. He struggled to get sentences out. At his worst, he stammered the same word more than 27 times (I lost count) and was giving up actually trying to talk because he was so frustrated.
We took advice immediately and he was assessed by a speech therapist. Take their advice and he should ride it out.
My boy is 11 now, and no sign of a stutter.
cpFull MemberMy nephew did exactly that when he was 3, including the not playing with other kids. He’s 4 now and naturally grew out of the stuttering… And he’s working on his socialising and sharing skills 🙂
timbaFree MemberI considered getting speech therapy for my boy when he was around 3/4 – had a lisp. Never did and by the time he was at school, his speech was perfectly normal.
Exactly this with our boy, very obvious on videos from before he started at school
wobbliscottFree Member+1 for Eskay. I was a child stutterer. Quite bad too util I was about 7 or 8, then started to calm down and by 11 or so was fine. My younger had a very mild stammer but she’s 7 now and it’s gone.
Way way too early to start panicking and seeking professional help. It is quite common for young kids to stammer.
1-shedFree MemberNo their isn’t reason to panic but seeking professional help is not a bad thing to do. You will get professional advice and any therapy will be play based and non invasive. Early intervention is the best way forward. Cheers 1 shed.
johndohFree MemberAs someone who grew up with a younger brother that had a stammer – never interrupt the child or finish words/sentences off for them. My brother outgrew his stammer and never hints at having one at all as an adult although he *IS* a serial repeater – he will say something then say it again (and again) in different structures of the same sentence 🙂
trailwaggerFree MemberOur three yr old does it quite badly. We are not bothered and ignore it (dont draw attention to it). Chances are it will go as they develop.
prezetFree MemberMy eldest daughter did it, it got quite bad, we thought about taking her to a specialist – but were told by the GP to wait and see. She grew out of it. Now she won’t shut up. We were told it was something to do with their brain rushing to communicate … lots of things going on.
hughjayteensFree MemberMy son had a lisp and stammer at 3 – we spoke to our GP and they said that he’d almost certainly grow out of it and he did within a year. It wasn’t a bad one, repeating the start of a sentence maybe 4 or 5 times, and when it went I actually missed it as it was so sweet!
We were also told that it was mainly caused by his brain wanting to speak at a faster rate than his mouth could keep up with. He’s a bright button so it seems plausible.
molgripsFree Memberhope it stems from a lack of confidence
Are you doing all you can to give him confidence? You say you are ‘both’ upset about this – you may be putting pressure on him without realising it.
What is positive encouragement to parents can be overwhelming pressure to some kids and permanent disappointment when they can’t do something. This is really bad for confidence.
glasgowdanFree Membermolgrips that was a mistype – I meant hope it doesn’t stem from a lack of confidence.
We don’t draw attention to it at all as I know how that felt when I used to do it, and always give him time to speak and finish what he says. We’re getting him into classes, sports clubs and so on so he has lots of interaction. His baby sister (6 months) is a great wee toy for him and he interacts with her constantly too.
Just the severity of it sometimes strikes us, things like “where you going daddy”, the “wher-” can be repeated for a good 5-8 seconds.
Absolutely agree with ensuring confidence. Any time he says he can’t do something I sit down, look at him and gently tell him he can, and I’ll give him another chance to do it himself then I’ll help as little as I can in order for him to achieve whatever he’s trying to achieve. Little pep talks during the day too, we both tell him how good/clever/capable he is, how his little sister looks up to him and wants to be like him, how he can make friends with anyone if he is nice to them and so on.
I wonder if any of the telling offs that he gets for bad behaviour have an affect on the stutter? I’ve no idea.
molgripsFree MemberAny time he says he can’t do something I sit down, look at him and gently tell him he can, and I’ll give him another chance to do it himself
But also make sure he knows he doesn’t really have to do it, and you’re ok either way.
My daughter creates enough of her own motivation that anything from me just creates too much pressure which makes her go to pieces. She knows well enough that she wants to do it and I want her to without me having to labour the point. She’s one of these people that has to get there on her own.
perchypantherFree MemberMy middle one had exactly what you describe.
We were told, like couple of others on here, that it was probably the thinking-of things-to-say bit of his brain being more developed than the converting-those-thoughts-to-speech bit and causing a temporary overload.
He grew out of it before he started school.
eemyFree MemberSimilar to a number of the responses above – our youngest, now 4 and 1/2 was exactly the same at around the same age as yours. Really struggled to get started with his sentences – constantly repeating the first syllable or word. Very frustrating for him and quite upsetting for us, but as his language has improved he does it less and less. Can’t say that I have noticed him doing it for ages now.
submarinedFree MemberIt’s did exactly the same for a good while when he was 3ish. Got more pronounced when he was tired.
We just waited until he’d finished, never drew attention to it (and I went ballistic at his granddad when he mocked it…) And he grew out of it. We figured it’s all just part of speech development. He’s 4 and a bit now and I haven’t noticed him doing it for a good while.M6TTFFree Memberhad this with my youngest, at around the same age. he was very aware of it, and said “daddy, i can’t talk anymore” which was awful. we were referred to a speech therapist. by the time we had an appt through, (couple of months) it had almost completely disappeared. the specialist said his brain was working faster than he could vocalise, hence the stammer.
he’s 5 now, and no problems
glasgowdanFree MemberI managed to sneak a video of it today.
Appreciate hearing others have been through it and always cleared. We just can’t help feeling awful for him!
funkmasterpFull MemberWe too have a three year old who stutters. He’s also seeing a speech therapist as his speech is delayed due to issues from earlier in life. We just give him time, never try and talk over or rush him and try encourage him to talk more by asking simple questions. We aren’t worried, he’s only three and if we worry he may pick up on it.
The only downside is for him when he’s gets frustrated trying to get something across. That and the fact that he’ll try and describe things through actions and noises if words fail. He’s a super confident, happy little tyke though.
glasgowdanFree MemberHe’s been at the childminder all day and she says he’s not stuttered once! Yet everything he’s saying at home this evening has been affected.
We’re both more comfortable in the knowledge it’s likely to pass, thanks.
mosschopsFree MemberDon’t ignore
Some stutters get better on their own- some don’t
Really good evidence that early intervention with pre -school kids works.
Speech therapist will assess and recommend any therapy
MC
glasgowdanFree MemberThe wee man’s stutter has gone of it’s own accord thankfully. I can’t say exactly when this happened, but we’ve noticed that it just doesn’t happen any more which is great!
He is still a shy thing, especially in groups of new kids. But the next thing we have to think about is his hearing! We’ve had it checked and he has glue ear… may require gromets in a couple of months time. I just want him to be able to communicate with his peers in a natural way so he doesn’t get a mental block or think he’s different somehow.
martinhutchFull MemberLanguage develops at a different rate in some children. My lad had speech issues at 3, but they cleared up pretty quickly about a year or so later with a bit of help from speech therapy.
cinnamon_girlFull MemberMy experience, although many years ago, was that there was a shortage of speech therapists and rather than having individual attention therapy was done in a group of similar aged children.
At the start of every school year I informed the teacher that my son had grommets which regularly dislodged themselves and that he had to sit at the front otherwise he wouldn’t hear. Unfortunately this didn’t happen in practice.
I think you need to trust your instincts with this and can certainly empathise with the worry of a child feeling that they’re different. You must be so pleased that your little lad no longer has a stutter so reason to be positive.
wartonFree Membera couple of things from me, someone who has stuttered all my life, and has a son who stuttered at 3 and 4…
firstly DON’T IGNORE IT. go and see a speech therapist, on the NHS.
speech therapy for kids has changed a lot in the last ten years, it’ll be totally un-intrusive for your son (if the speech therapist thinks he needs it), and it works. my son went from a bad stammer, to totally stutter free in 6 / 8 months.
Do it, catch it early, don’t let it become a habit, because if it does, he’ll be stuck with it..
shakers97Free MemberBoth mine did it when they first started talking because their brains were working faster than their mouth could form the words. Went by the time they were 4. Don’t assume it’s legit stammering. We ignored it and it went on its own. Thought it was better not to make it into a thing.
scotroutesFull MemberBoth mine did it when they first started talking because their brains were working faster than their mouth could form the words.
I didn’t stutter as a child nor do I normally as an adult but it’s one of the symptoms if my migraines. I either stutter or take long pauses between words.
DezBFree Memberglasgowdan –
The wee man’s stutter has gone of it’s own accord thankfully.PEOPLE! This is a bumped thread from
5 MONTHS AGO.The OP followed my advice 😉
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