There's a load more to suspension performance than spring weight and damper settings, the bike's angles have a massive affect on how some forks feel.
For example, I have some Revelation Team with blackbox dual flow damping. They were on my Commencal meta 55 (68 degree head angle) and I set sag to 25% in the attack position, which gave me about 5-10% sag when seated and little small bump sensitivity. I like it like this because if you get into some steep, slow, all your weight over the front stuff, you get the support you need.
I've just changed them over to my new Yeti asr5 with a 67 degree head angle and I get no sag at all when seated. After sitting and scratching a bit and pondering over this I've realised that the biggest difference between the frames is actually the stack height. The Commie has a much lower stack than the Yeti meaning more of my weight is over the front whilst seated. As a result the same forks feel really different between each frame without actually touching any of the settings.
I would recommend that when you set sag, always do it in the 'attack' position, and accept that whilst seated you won't get a loads of small bump sensitivity. It takes a very special frame and fork combo to have support and small bump sensitivity. The only fork I've had that come close is my old Bos Devilles.