We have a friend whose life is a mess at the moment.
Do you have suggestions as to what she should do?
Let's call her girl G. She is 30+, pretty, intelligent, employed in a job that pays peanuts but if she worked abroad she could earn lots more. She says she doesn't want children. She lives in a small city where shares a flat with her long-term man, and is in debt because of him.
Man A is he boyfriend of a dozen years. He is a lawyer, but unemployed. He is a compulsive gambler and has lost loads of cash, saddling the two of them with much debt. She doesn't care for him much now, and they argue lots but he can't afford to move out and she can't afford to buy his share of the flat. He had an affair a couple of years ago, G forgave him but it's not been the same since. He wants to stay together and is desperate to keep her.
Bloke B is someone she met on an extended business trip and had an intensive affair with. She is now infatuated / in love with the man, and he says that he loves her, too. However he lives abroad, is married, older than her, and says he doesn't want to leave his wife. He would like her to move to his country where she could earn OK money IF she could find a job. Moneywise he could probably afford to leave his wife but his job is not secure.
Chap C is a good platonic friend; G likes him but doesn't fancy him at all. However he has just confessed that he is in love with her (infatuated / besotted) and would like her to move in with him. They've not slept together, she says. Apart from the fling with B she is fairly chaste. Chap C is well-off in a secure job and could fix her financial problems. But he's shy, naive and a virgin at 32. She told him about Bloke B, and his advice was to dump the guy and move in with himself.
She doesn't have huge numbers of friends in her city, as she works too hard and was very much a couple with A for many years.
O collective wisdom of STW, what should she do ?
