- What to write in a ‘With Sympathy’ card?
What do you write in one of these cards? It’s to a woman i haven’t meant (the deceased was a director at my work but has been off for about 8 months with cancer and sadly passed away last week). he was a good man and didnt deserve this to happen to him but i’ve never written one of these cards before, what should you write?Posted 9 years agohoraMember
As wwaswas says. What did you feel about him? think of your experiences with him? what little things did he do that you liked about him? I think a collection of different thoughts from different people will mean alot to the recipient. In a way it gives that persons life more colour and some solace. It must be awful for their partner but I do feel, in alittle way it will help sooth the void with positivity.Posted 9 years agowwaswasSubscriber
you may be right Gary_M but it’s also true that most of us have no idea about how people our partners work with perceive them – I thought it might be nice for the woman to hear that he was a decent bloke who someone she’s never met thought well of rather than just getting another ‘I can’t think of anything original’ type message.Posted 9 years agohelsMember
In my experience, it doesn’t really matter what you say, either in person or in a card, its the fact that you are saying something that counts. She will be in a blur anyway. If you have something nice to say about what you remember about the person that will be nice if she reads the cards later.
Again from personal experience, this kind of support helps more than you might think. Just don’t try and hug heer at the funeral…Posted 9 years agoGary_MMember
‘he was a good man and didn’t deserve this to happen to him’ The ‘he was a good man’ bit is fine but I wouldn’t write the ‘didn’t deserve this to happen to him’ bit. Few people do deserve to have cancer and reading this won’t help the recipients.
How about ‘he was a good man and will be sadly missed by all his friends and colleagues at x’Posted 9 years agoMidnighthourMember
I know lots of people like to give/recieve these cards, but personally I hate them and have made it clear to friends that I dont want any if I experience a loss. I think its because I associate greetings cards with happy events, so I find death ones a bit harrowing. Its very personal, but I can’t imagine anything worse than day after day of depressing cards arriving, each one reminding one of death and loss, both my own grief and that of other peoples – its not really a help. But as I said, I think I am in a minority. You have my sympathy about knowing what to say, its hard enough if you meet a bereved person to find caring words for the misery they are going through.Posted 9 years agoBigSteveMember
Having just lost my Dad the week before Christmas I can say that the cards have been a great comfort. To read what people have had to say about the man I only ever knew as my Dad has brought me to tears. To hear another side to my Dad has been very touching – and the number of cards as well. I thought that since he’d retired he’d lost touch with a lot of people. Obviously not.
Write your card – say something that means something of what the man meant to you personally, as well as the “sorry for your sad loss”.Posted 9 years ago
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