The best ever of the DT Swiss forks to my mind – simple, just keep working and you can take everything apart at home – had mine for 3years with zero issues. Anyway for the lowers – FLOAT fluid is fine in the spring side and the most readily available. For the damper (cartridge+lowers as the oil does both) I found the best to be Motorex 7.5wt – again, readily available.
Another tip-if you take apart the airspring assy. then use grease such as SlickHoney – over time oil blocks the ABS ports up, leading to harsh top-out. When you remove the airspring (which you can do from the bottom of the stanchion), take the air-spring assy. and squeeze the ABS spring to expel the oil from the foam washers.