Ok male officers have kids too but as someone who lost my mum early in life I can only comment on that aspect.
Lodrick – Having spent a childhood watching a father go off to work, sometimes knowingly to very dangerous situations, then hearing about dead or injured officers on the news, knowing that the media usually reported before the families were told; I can tell you that it’s shit and it’s nothing to do with gender.
There is no “right” parent to lose. I can assure you that had my mother been hospitalised on several occasions in the line of her work, I’d have felt no worse that when my father was.
I appreciate you lost a parent in early life but can you honestly say you feel you’d have been happier/better off if your father had passed away?
These were courageous women engaged in what is frequently thankless and difficult job. They paid the ultimate price, like many in public service do, so that the rest of us can be kept from harms way. My gratitude always goes to these people and my sympathies to their families and friends.