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Doesn’t bother me, but when I started my current job my work email address was set up with my name shortened - that bothered me enough that I made them change it, but I don’t really know why it bothered me - just looked wrong!


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 5:10 pm
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Chap at a place I used to work at was a Stephen and because I never asked for his permission I always called him Stephen, found out after a little while he hated it being shortened so I'm glad I never did.

I like mine being shortened to Ali because mum n dad always did so makes me think of them, however, a lot of people insist on shortening it to Al which I absolutely detest. Thankfully not many people shorten it at all but I always tell people who go with the Al option that I don't like it, I only let one person get away with it and that's because I know there's no malice there and she's just nice and forgets I don't like it.


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 5:30 pm
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I **** hate being called Jonny

We're sorry.

Love from The Fine Young Cannibals xx


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 5:36 pm
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^ genius.

Not worth leaving home over though.


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 5:43 pm
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Mine can't be, although Dazza# might grate a little in professional circles. My sister was always Joanne to me, but Joe to everyone else. My son is Thomas to me, but Tom to most others. It's probably the two syllables not the diminution that I prefer.

Americans, always shorten names, they don't ask first. That always annoys me.

#spelled as in Karen - so everyone spells it wrongly anyway. A useful mental note when the CSO sends you emails. You know you've made it when your name begins to be spelled correctly. So thank you mother, it paid off in the end!


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 5:47 pm
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I'm James, I call myself Jamie as do most others.

One guy called / calls me Jimmy which Isn't me, don't know why, I just don't feel like a Jimmy.

A flatmate from uni used to call me Séamus. No idea why as I'm not Irish.


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 5:54 pm
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Fairly relaxed about it, another boring Dave here. Only my wife and mum normally call me David, to everyone else I'm Dave. One mate insists on Ravey Davey, which grates a bit!


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 6:07 pm
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I don't mind any of the two proper versions of mine, Andrew is most common, Andy is fine. And I tell people that, oh, whatever you prefer, it's cool, it's all the same name. And then once a decade or so, someone says oh OK, and calls me Drew, and I have to kill them.


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 6:28 pm
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Used to work with a guy from Gloucester called Wes took years to find his name was actually Lee but he was always late. So where’s Lee? Ended up W’es Lee..

A friend's mum once recounted tale of a guy she worked with called Warren. She'd worked there for months before she had to look him up for some reason (the would have been pre-email so maybe HR records or something). She asked him why he wasn't there and he told her his name wasn't Warren, it was something wholly different like Dave or something.

"So why do they call you Warren then?" she asked.

"It's short for 'warran ugly bastard'."


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 6:32 pm
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I worked for years with a guy called diesel or deez. Never found out his real name. There is a bloke in one of the warehouses at my place who’s been calling me Bill for about six years. It’s not my name and I just find it amusing.


 
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I lived in a complex of barn conversions for a couple of years, a neighbour insisted on calling me Malcolm which isn't even close to my actual name. First few times I corrected him then I even got friends to use my name frequently when he was present, all to no avail. It's not as though he was a deaf, doddery old codger, he was younger than me and rode a Yamaha R1 like there was no tomorrow.


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 6:44 pm
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My friend sometimes calls me Maisie - can't remember why now, but I love it. It's not my name!

I love my real name too, and the shortened version. 🙂


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 6:45 pm
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James is my name. Jim, Jimbo, Jimmy - fine.

Just don't call me J... No, I'd better not say it.


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 7:50 pm
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If you call me Tom, you don't know me that well...


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 8:11 pm
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Posted : 07/11/2020 8:19 pm
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I work in a car factory,my last name is Brown, my first gets shortened to Dick.


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 8:28 pm
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My parents name me one thing and all my life call me a shortened version, the full version being a bit of a joke nerdy name of late! Obviously prefer the shortened version as I almost see it as my name… but then at work, I use my actual name, dunno why, always have done!

What's nerdy about Deborah?


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 8:34 pm
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What’s nerdy about Deborah?

It never suited him.


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 9:02 pm
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Christopher, but my parents called me Kit, which I hated. We moved to a new area when I was 15 and I swapped to Chris.

A colleague was always Andrew at work, but Andy anywhere else; he had worked in Hong Kong, and Chinese names being family name first, was sometimes addressed as Mr Andy, which he felt lacked gravitas, so used Andrew.

So you either call me Jeremy ( which I hate but the least bad option) or simply just by my surname – Not “Mr Again” but just “Again”

If I meet you, I'm afraid I'm likely to call you TJ.


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 9:05 pm
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If I meet you, I’m afraid I’m likely to call you TJ.

As many do already. TJ or just Teej.


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 9:09 pm
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Always hated my name - and the shortened form is even worse.
I still have no idea why I did revert to either of my middle names which are much better ...


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 9:13 pm
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I work with a mark.....

We have our names on our coveralls

Everyone called him Barry

So I asked why he was called Barry.

Said that the apprentice in the year above him was called mark so he became Barry and it stuck ever since.


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 9:14 pm
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My name is considered cool almost everywhere except the country I was born in. Junior finds our surname cool enough to use as his stage name and is very happy with Sean even if 98% of the people he meets pronounce it wrong. He too pronounces it wrong if the situation demands as it's easier that way.

I realised I was happy with my name when I had to fill a form way back. I could have written any name I'd wanted in the box and that would have become my legal name, after a few minutes thought I just wrote my name.


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 9:23 pm
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when I started my current job my work email address was set up with my name shortened

My brother is called Ray. Just Ray - I believe the parents thought if they called him Raymond it'd get shortened to Ray anyway. He was a naughty kid and I remember the headmaster shouting "RRrrrrraymond!" in school assembly ... bro just ignored him. "Not my name!" and this was a scary 70s headmaster who had a cane in a glass cabinet in his office. I was impressed.
His recent work set him up as raymond.b@blah.com which amused me.


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 9:28 pm
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Be glad you dont have the holy trinity of shit names like I do!
Taking the names I don't have

Farage
Cummings
Matt


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 9:35 pm
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Robert on my birth certificate , happy to be
Rob
Robo
Robbie

Ok with Bertie ( Alberto Contador ref)

1 chap calls me Bobby-Jo , no idea why but I'm ok as its him , if that makes sense

Bob, nope , not OK with that at all


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 9:49 pm
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Nicholas here, but literally no one calls me that, not my parents, no one. Never have. Don’t mind having it for ‘formal’ use, but don’t really identify with as my name, I’m always Nick, to everyone. Or Richard, as someone once addressed me, multiple times, in an email. Despite my email address being Nick.surname@company.com


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 9:51 pm
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Another David, everyone one calls me Dave apart from about 3 people in my life. My mum always calls me David, my dad always used Dave. A bloke I used to work with insisted on David as well even though he was was called Morris I always called him Moe and also a lady at work does unless I do or say something wrong which she then refers to me with my first and last name and then I know I'm in the shit.


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 10:17 pm
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It never suited him.

Oh, well done! Let’s have a round of applause! 👏🏻🎩

My supervisor at work is Charlie, or sometimes Charles, and I was somewhat confused by the fact that his hi-viz had Lawrence on it, but as people leave their hi-viz gets inherited by newcomers until they get new personalised stuff issued. His name is actually Lawrence, it’s just his family, and by default everyone else calls him Charlie; he can’t even remember why, now.
For most of my life, the only time my full name got used was when I was in trouble, the rest of the time it’s Ade or Ady, but for some reason it’s only now, after nearly three years, that my work colleagues are starting to use the short version, for some reason - I still get the unnerving feeling that I’m in for a roasting when I get a call to go to Charlie’s office, or to see the boss and my full name gets used...
If I’m ever asked what I prefer to be called, I usually say use anything you like just don’t call me late for lunch...


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 11:20 pm
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My boss isn’t a fan of us when we shorten his name to ‘Dick’

The long version is ‘Samuel’.


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 11:38 pm
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The think is, most of the time, it's just obvious if you're a Dave or a David. Sometimes, you can cross the streams- my brother's David at work when he's being serious, and Dave everywhere else where he's being a big ginger lunatic.

But every so often, you find a David that wants to be a Dave and just never will be. Sometimes the other way round, but mostly it's this way. This one David I know even looks a lot like David Schwimmer, works in an office, is a lovely responsible caring guy- it'll take some sort of serious head injury for him to ever be a Dave, but he never gives up.

Generally I think people have the right to be called what they want, but sometimes sorry folks, it's just not your name.


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 11:44 pm
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I’m an Andrew. Most of my family call me And. Only my father ever called me Andy so if anyone calls me that now I just ignore them. Not being rude but it just doesn’t register in my mind.


 
Posted : 07/11/2020 11:59 pm
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I used to work with a girl called Dave. No one could remember her name the first night she worked there so someone called her Dave and it stuck.

Never did find out her real name.


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 12:09 am
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Be glad you dont have the holy trinity of shit names like I do!

Judas Adolf Bin Laden is that you?

Another one from me is my BiL. His name is Ryan or Ry, but to me he is Bob. My wife calls him Bob so I do too. Even his Dad calls him it occasionally. He even uses it for a username on email, Forums, PSN etc.


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 12:47 am
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I must say I like some of the scots nicknames if a bit bemusing

George is Doddie or Dod - why?

Agnes is Senga


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 12:55 am
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Scenario- My first name is Andrew but there were a whole bunch of us with the same name once and it got too confusing. I took on my middle name 'Ambrose', and have used it ever since. Very few people now call me Andrew, even my immediate family, to the extent that I don't recognise that when a person is addressing 'Andrew' they are addressing me.


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 1:54 am
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Always hated my name – and the shortened form is even worse.

I actually hate my name full stop! Most likely due to decades of bullying but I can't remember ever liking it tbh.

Too late to change it now, plus no idea what I'd change it to anyway.


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 2:41 am
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Most customers, my mum and wife insist on calling me Matthew as that’s my name but most other trades/friends call me Matt or Matty, being honest, i answer to most things.

Not sure about anyone else but at high school most people were called by their surname which to be fair, kept things simple.

I think my boy might struggle when he starts school as his name might be too long and kids like to shorten names/have nicknames, well they did when i was at school.

His name is Endeavour, his sister calls him Dev, much to my wife’s disgust, that reminds her of the bloke who owns the shop on Coronation Street.

We often get asked what we call him and 99% of the time it’s his full name, we sometimes call him Endo for short but not that regularly.

I think once he starts school the kids will have their own name/nickname for him and that will probably stay with him.


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 3:00 am
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I think my boy might struggle when he starts school as his name might be too long and kids like to shorten names/have nicknames, well they did when i was at school.

His name is Endeavour, his sister calls him Dev, much to my wife’s disgust, that reminds her of the bloke who owns the shop on Coronation Street.

That's the greatest middle name I've ever seen. But as a first name it's terrible, doubly so if you're objecting to 'Dev'. Dev is perfect, it's a fantastic name.

What's he want to be called?


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 3:19 am
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Never quite understood shortening Andrew to Andy. Its the same length, when spoken.

I'm pretty much always Nick. Much prefer it. Only get Nicholas at the doctors or similar when they are reading an official form. Occasionally get Nicky from family members which used to bother me a bit when younger but now I quite like it as its meant affectionately.


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 8:01 am
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If I meet you, I’m afraid I’m likely to call you TJ.

Folk I have met thru here do tend to do that. I don't mind


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 8:03 am
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TJ senga is simply Agnes backwards.

Don't forget George is also Shug.


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 10:06 am
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Never quite understood shortening Andrew to Andy. Its the same length, when spoken.

It's not though, is it. It's the same length as Andr.


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 2:05 pm
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Don’t forget George is also Shug.

Err, Shug/Shuggie is used in place of Hugh, not George.


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 2:09 pm
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Generally I think people have the right to be called what they want, but sometimes sorry folks, it’s just not your name

Vice versa as well - I seem to be a Colin, as several people have called me Colin, at work and in different groups of friend, so it's not as if they're confusing me with somebody else.


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 2:35 pm
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David

I am David. I am sure Dave is a nice chap...but he is not me.


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 4:40 pm
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I have an unusual (apparently) way of spelling my name and most people drop the last letter off when writing it. Work messed up my email address so I made them change it

For some reason it annoys me (I guess that people can’t be bothered to check, or maybe just my neurodiversity kicking in). But not that much I guess.

Every now and then I drop the last letter off of their name when replying, just for the hell of it... see how they like it 🤣😜🤪


 
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Real first world problems but it drives me mad when people spell my name JO I am a male so its JOE. I also hate being called Joseph its so formal.


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 8:04 pm
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Who wants to go around being called Nickelodeon?


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 8:04 pm
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Tony is derived from my middle name – Anthony. I am never refered to by my first name. In fact very few people even know it…..

Apparently my parents wanted to put Anthony first but my initials would have been ARS, so they decided to put Anthony in the middle “to make life easier for me”.

Different names but this exact scenario ... glad it's not just me then .....!! My name can't be shortened but people I don't even know think it's fine to put a 'y' on the end ... ahem.


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 8:10 pm
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I find WorldClassAccident makes it easier to find threads that I have started as it is longer than the usual poster.

I find WCA a bit generic

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WCA World Cube Association (Rubik's Cube)
WCA Women's Caucus for Art
WCA World Cargo Alliance (est. 1998)
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WCA World Chiropractic Alliance
WCA Water Conservation Area
WCA Wireless Communications Association
WCA World Cheese Awards (consumer food show)
WCA Wireless Communications Alliance (non-profit; Northern California)
WCA Wildlife Conservation Area (various locations)
WCA Whalley Computer Associates
WCA Workmen's Compensation Act (various nations)
WCA Worst Case Analysis
WCA Workers' Compensation Administration
WCA World Championships in Athletics (International Association of Athletics Federations)
WCA World Clown Association
WCA Waste Collection Authority (UK)
WCA Wind Correction Angle (aviation)
WCA Wollongong College Australia (University of Wollongong)
WCA Western and Central Africa
WCA World Cheerleading Association
WCA Wisconsin Cycling Association
WCA Woodlands Community Association (various locations)
WCA Wildlife & Countryside Act 1981
WCA West Coast Angler (fishing resource)
WCA Women in Corporate Aviation (Southhaven, Mississippi, USA)
WCA Women Contractors Association
WCA Weingart Center Association (Los Angeles, CA)
WCA Washington Council of Agencies
WCA Wireless Consumers Alliance
WCA Weighted Combined Algorithm (computing)
WCA Washtenaw Christian Academy (Saline, Michigan)
WCA Wireless Cable Association International
WCA Washington Correctional Association
WCA Washington Counseling Association
WCA Waveform Concatenation Approach (speech synthesis development tool)
WCA Wing Chun Archive (martial arts)
WCA Wool Council of Australia
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WCA Willow Creek Academy (Sausalito, CA)
WCA Warranty Claim Action
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Posted : 08/11/2020 10:41 pm
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I have the opposite issue. I have a monosyllabic name which people seem to think is a contraction of something it isn't.


 
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Vice versa as well – I seem to be a Colin, as several people have called me Colin, at work and in different groups of friend, so it’s not as if they’re confusing me with somebody else.

I used to know a chap called Brian. Except his real name was Rob. He just looked like a Brian so that’s what everyone called him.


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 11:07 pm
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I'm Alan. I don't particularly like "Al" but don't despise it as much as I used to, I just don't really feel like it's my name. I make a (Paul Simon) concession for close friends who want to call me that but I properly hate it when people introduce me to new folk, "this is my mate Al..." No, no it really isn't.

Who wants to go around being called Nickelodeon?

I always assumed your full name was Nickerlessgirlsshouldntclimbtrees.


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 11:17 pm
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Quite used to being called Mik, simply because most people over here can't pronounce my name.
I have also gotten used to people taking my name down as Michael even when I spell it to them.

Half deaf people regular call me Mickey, confuses me as my ears are not that big.


 
Posted : 08/11/2020 11:42 pm
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In most parts of Scotland, if you EVER admitted to not liking being called something to your pals, this would automatically become your name until you die.

I find it very odd people getting touchy about being called by some form of their name they deem as being unacceptable. The people who are saying it are not actually saying your name. They are just making a noise that refers to you. Get over yourself as they say.


 
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Can’t make ‘John’ any shorter. But it’s my middle name, my first name is Andrew. Hate people saying ‘can I call you Andrew?’
Well yes you can but I might not answer


 
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When I was at school there was a pompous kid who insisted he was to be called “Robert” and this was not be shortened in any way. He made the mistake of saying this to our somewhat hippy-ish English Teacher who from then on insisted on calling him “Bobbykins”


 
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Another Steven. Don't mind most shortened forms, but for some reason Steve really grates. I think it's partly a Scottish thing. Steven in Scotland gets shortened to Stevie, not Steve, so Steve just sounds off. In Scotland, with family or playing rugby (back in the day) it was always Stevie, which I like but these days it's mostly just my wife who calls me that! At Uni and in Snowboard/MTB world I somehow ended up with Stevo and I usually go with that most of the time.


 
Posted : 09/11/2020 12:40 am
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The only friend I have that doesn’t have their name shortened is an Adam.

Ads.

My mum said she christened me Adam as she hated names being shortened and this couldn’t be. She clearly hadn’t thought this through. My wife calls me Ads. Some of my mates call me Ads, or occasionally use Adamski.

Since I was at school though (I’m now 50) pretty much everyone calls me Binners, so it’s sort of academic


 
Posted : 09/11/2020 3:07 am
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I hate Murray being shortened to Muz or Muzzer. Mugs is what I answer to.

I don't mind being Mr Murray in muslim countries but it annoys me when people in the UK mistake my first name for a surname.

It also annoys me when people try and spell my middle name as Gary - it's Garry although my primary school teacher marked it wrong in spelling all the time.


 
Posted : 09/11/2020 3:18 am
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Can’t make ‘John’ any shorter.

Jon.

J ('Jay').


 
Posted : 09/11/2020 4:28 am
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It also annoys me when people try and spell my middle name as Gary

Is that a common occurrence? I can count the people who know my middle name on the fingers of one hand let alone those who have cause to spell it. Official bodies like the passport office probably account for the other hand.


 
Posted : 09/11/2020 4:32 am
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It also annoys me when people try and spell my middle name as Gary

No, I'm still mad at my primary school teacher. It's only been 50 years.


 
Posted : 09/11/2020 6:34 am
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I used to work with a girl called Dave. No one could remember her name the first night she worked there so someone called her Dave and it stuck

I worked with a Dave too, her name was Helen...

I’m Stephen, but literally no-one calls me by my full name.
I was always Ste, my Mom and a few older friends still call me that, but I “reinvented” myself at uni as Steve and that’s what the vast majority of people now refer to me as. The occasion Stevo as well, which I quite like.


 
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At uni there were two girls called.lucy in our group. One became Bob but to remove confusion they both then were called Bob. Problem solved by changing one to Lucy Bob.
Robert was always dubbers.


 
Posted : 09/11/2020 10:34 am
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Our babysitter when we were kids was called Tass.

Her actual name was Catherine but when she was born and taken home to her older sister (who was only a toddler herself, just learning to talk), she couldn't pronounce Catherine and it became Tassin, later just Tass. She was always known as Tass from then on.

My sister, when she was at uni, shared a house with a Kathryn and rather than it being shorted to Kat / Katie / Kath / Kathy, she was known as Thryn which is the only time I've ever heard that. I know of a Ryn though.


 
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Arsene ****horpe?


 
Posted : 09/11/2020 1:32 pm
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She was always known as Tass from then on.

Funny how names stick, isn't it. A lad at work is known as "briefcase," because he brought a briefcase into work.

Once.

Over ten years ago.


 
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I’m fine with mine except when mates call out to me in busy public places.


 
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