My first name is conventionally shortened to something I hate. What particularly grates is when someone does it without asking "can I call you?" and continues to use it even when I say I prefer my normal name. Am I being touchy?
Clearly I'm referring to my given name not my forum name
Think yourself lucky to have a choice. Not much you can do with Neil!
Just another call me Dave here. Not the world's greatest name but what can you do?
You could move down under Neilo?
Try having in-laws that have got the diminutive form of your name wrong for nearly 30 years and when corrected say "Oh, he doesn't mind..."
Yes. Yes I ****ing do!
Yeah, 'Pist' would annoy me too 😁
Mine can't be shortened so no issue there. Just tell em 'I prefer to be called 'Amorous' or whatever it is. It's your choice but of course, 'they' don't need to comply. Specially if 'they' know it winds you up... 😉
Buddy pal bud mate are all worse than having your name shortened.
I was only called Nicholas by my mum, and she's died so Nick it is.
The thought of 'banter' at work if I was called Richard is something I am very grateful to have avoided.
Yes. Yes I **** do!
So say that.
I had my name shortened for years, to something that’s not even a shortened version of my name!
I told everyone I hate it and after a while people stopped calling it me.
I had a lecturer called Cecil Pitt, he told us he didn’t like his name being shortened......
So say that.
I have. Repeatedly. As has my wife. Seems to make no difference. I suspect it's stupidity rather than malice.
I very rarely get called by my full name. If someone uses it I normally don’t respond straight away as, for a couple of seconds, I genuinely assume they’re not addressing me. I don’t care either way though. Not bothered by being called buddy or mate or anything like that either.
Mine cant be shortened so all the in laws add JY on the end. Really peas me off.
I have a friend called David. He doesn’t mind Davey (WTAF) but dislikes Dave. Do Disco it is 😀
Me.
I hate all diminutives of my name and tell everyone not to use them. People respect this apart from when joking
Some people do use my surname which I don't mind
Think yourself lucky to have a choice. Not much you can do with Neil!
You've never had someone call you Knee? 😆
Much prefer the shorter version of my name, but it took me a while to get my family to use it as we had one male in every generation with the same name but a different diminutive, so for a long time as a kid I was left with the horrible Bobby as all the other variants were taken.
My wife and her sister were told by parents that they both were given their names because they couldn't be shortened. Those same parents are now the only people that call them Ams and Zo...
Apparently I'm Stephen with a "ph" as my mum said it couldn't be shortened. I've been Steve to everyone but her and her side of the family for 50 years now. Apart from a Canadian aerobics instructor I knew many years ago who liked to call me "Stevie", in a voice like Janice from Friends.
Both our kids have 1 syllable names to try and prevent the shortening. Both went through a stage of friends adding "y" in the end 🤦♂️
Mine has no diminutive but most people use the alternative pronunciation (even after asking or being corrected). Some even tell me I've spelt it wrong (multiple spellings which can both be pronounced either way). Doesn't help my surname is also a first name so get called that at times instead.
"The thought of ‘banter’ at work if I was called Richard is something I am very grateful to have avoided."
After many years you get used to it. However the IT chap at a place I used to work shared the same Christian name but his surname was Head.
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Double whammy for my real first name, can be shortened or elongated to different names! Used to bother me when I was a kid, couldn't care less these days and like it when people decide which version they like and go with it.
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Full name is Jonathan. I go by Jon. I ****ing hate being called Jonny
Not me. I'm good with Chris and deeply suspicious of anyone who would prefer to be called Christopher.
Tjagain, what's wrong with Tan?
I don’t like the commonly shortened ‘Andy' and tend to say so.
BUT don't mind mate, pal, bud whatever. And bizarrely, when living in South Wales, didn't mind the super-diminutive, and mono-syllabic ‘And’ which seems to prevail with most names: Gav, Stace, Nes, Dave. Have to say though that ‘Neil’ even stumps the South Walians.
Not me. I’m good with Chris and deeply suspicious of anyone who would prefer to be called Christopher.
I’m kind of with you on this. People that insist on being called by their full name are usually suspicious (looks up at TJ with suspicion). The only friend I have that doesn’t have their name shortened is an Adam.
Given name of Robert: brother and cousins all use that, everyone else uses Bob. Other than one person who'd use Robbie or Bobby to wind me up in a friendly way, usually said in a false American teen accent for extra effect.
The only friend I have that doesn’t have their name shortened is an Adam.
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"Language Timothy" put an end to the long names, so Tim it is.
"There are some who call me, Tim"
Michael here. I don't really mind Mike but if I'm asked which I prefer I say Michael coz I dunno I don't really feel like a 'Mike' but I still respond to it and most people I know call me Mike. What I do hate is not being asked.. like with work we had a new log in thing I logged in the first time and my name comes up as Mike and I'm like well no one asked guess I'm stuck with Mike on the log in for ****ing forever now eh, thanks for asking.
I feel like I’m getting told off by my parents if some uses my full name. With regards to others, I go with text or email sign off, or just ask.
I’m definitely a Phil and not a Philip. I hate the name Philip.
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He tried that and everyone just said no. He normally gets referred to by his surname tbh.
Can’t believe somebody prefers being called Andrew to Andy. I’m Phill, never Phillip to anybody that knows me and always introduce myself as such. Just seems a bit old fashioned to me. Each to their own though.
“Language Timothy” put an end to the long names, so Tim it is.
Same here. Couldn’t stand that programme as a kid.
My name's Adam, as you can probably tell from my user name I don't mind being called by its diminutive. Ads, Ad, Adam-o, Adamski, I'm not bothered. Mate, braw, bud, geez are all fine, can't ****ing stand chap though for some reason....
I know two Peter's, one prefers Pete, the other is either Peter or his last name-y.
I've been called Tony my whole life. Mrs Spekkie calls me Tone when she's in a particularly good mood and I had an old boss (he's Welsh, if that makes any difference) who also used to call me Tone. We have a friend in SA who always calls me Tones (she puts an "s" on the end of everyones name) which I like too.
Tony is derived from my middle name - Anthony. I am never refered to by my first name. In fact very few people even know it.....
Apparently my parents wanted to put Anthony first but my initials would have been ARS, so they decided to put Anthony in the middle "to make life easier for me".
I and my wife both choose to use the diminutive.
I've named my children in a way that can't be shortened. Youngest is often correcting people who use an extended version of his name, not his real name.
My first name is James. But family have always called me Jamie. I detest it. At work and to girlfriends im always James which causes confusion when they meet the parents.
I had a boss who we would wind up with his surname as it drove him insane. His surname was Pitt and at work we send something called a stop message. Combining “From watch manager Pitt stop” fast enough would irritate him enough to cause much merriment. Simple things.
It’s Andrew, not Andy!
The people that shorten it tend to be less familiar, trying to sell me something and generally use it from the off.
Grrrrrrr!
It’s Andrew, not Andy!
The people that shorten it tend to be less familiar, trying to sell me something and generally use it from the off.
I find that it’s normally older folk that use my full name. Never had somebody use the shortened version to try and sell me something. It’s normally sir or Mr Funk. Both of which can **** off and will earn scorn from me.
Mrs F sometimes calls me Pip which makes me smile. Sounds like I’m a cheeky pickpocket or a chimney sweep.
My first name is James. But family have always called me Jamie.
I get the opposite! Jamie is my given name, when introduced to people and they immediately call me James right boils my piss!!
Full name is Jonathan. I go by Jon. I **** hate being called Jonny
Same name here, except I like being called Jonny by family and mates. Doesn't really work for a 50 year old professional at work though. And being called John on emails boils my piss, I passively aggressively reply to them inserting a random H in their name.
Dear Helehn
Dear Sueh
Dear Mhark
etc.
When people ask me if it's David or Dave I just say up to you, your the one using it not me
Not being a German I wouldn't like to be called 'Willy' but I guess it rather depends on the context.
