[Closed] What would you do, serious advice needed

why do they think you hit her.
why did she tell them that you hit her.

What does your girlfriend say is she telling them you do or you do not beat her?

Can we have the rest of the story before you ask us to give you advice?

As they say - where is this idea coming from?

Serious advice ?

Run, run fast, keep running. I mean, do you really want these people as in-laws ? Safer to move on now.

basically they feel worried and scared for her. We have been having problems recently and having arguements but no more than usual and certainly nothing nearing offensive let alone violent. Shes on my side saying shes not but they dont believe her

There must be some reason for them to think this! Sounds like an odd story otherwise.

Hit the bricks, bro.

Wee, shoes, bombers. Its the only way

If they are aggresive types maybe they have assumed you are too.

if it is as you describe you need to meet them with your girlfriend and discuss this. You need to discuss this with her. how have they been with previous boyfriends?
If they really are violent nutters and saying this they are firing a warning shot across your bow IMHO. F off or we will do you.
Perhaps they dont like you I have no idea why.
If a parent thought this was happening and they were violent would they not just come and see you personally?
Ah sod it I dont know but good luck

naturally im shaking with anger at the accusuations. Naturally I want to do something about it,

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If they are the type of oiks who think the answer to every problem in life is violence, just move on, no girl is worth that amount of grief hanging over you constantly. Ask me how I know...

3 sides to every story just like a triangle,
YOUR SIDE,
HER SIDE,
AND THE TRUTH.
but this seems to be a reoccuring thing at the moment.

Best to run.

there is no rational reason for it tho, its completley out of the blue

Now her parents hate me but they also happen to be 6 foot skinhead bouncers with previous for GBH....

You're dating Biffa Bacon, and I claim my £5.

[i]there is no rational reason for it tho, its completley out of the blue[/i]

Any irrational reasons?

If they are aggresive types and their daughter has been in abusive relationships before, maybe they have assumed you are too.

Can we honestly be expected to make an informed decision without a picture of the girlfriend?

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only this man can save you now

naturally im shaking with anger at the accusuations. Naturally I want to do something about it,

could be something to do with it? what you see as normal arguments with your girlfriend might look very different from the other side. sounds like an OTT anger reaction from you

what you see as normal arguments with your girlfriend might look very different from the other side. sounds like an OTT anger reaction from you

I beat my wife at domino's the other night

She has to learn I CHOOSE THE TOPPINGS!!! 😀

Maybe she is desperate for their attention and this is what she needs to do to get it! either way, if her story is true or not, it seems that it is time to move on. Unless of course you enjoy a good row?

they also happen to be 6 foot skinhead bouncers

The mum is a 6 foot skinhead?

What if she turns out like her mum? Get out now..

Have you ever been aggressive to her? I had to deal with a situation the other day where a guy did pretty much everything but hit his gf. Complete dick, and whilst she was fine with him the next day, it's not something I (or the parents, if they knew) will forget about.

Can we have the rest of the story before you ask us to give you advice?

First ask where the hell did they get the info from
and second get your girlfriend to tell the truth
then have a meeting with the brothers and the girl friend.

*cracks open crate of Stella*

Pork scratching anyone?

TandemJeremy
sounds like an OTT anger reaction from you

don simon
I concur.

I don't. If someone accused me of hitting my wife I'd be seething. It seems I don't live in a zen bubble though.

My advice, if you absolutely want to stick with this girl is go and confront them. I assume the mother isn't a 6ft skin head, so really it's just her dad you have to worry about. Talk to him man to man. Worst case scenario, you come to blows and you get beaten up* which will probably help you to gain his respect anyway. Bruises heal, chicks dig scars, and you'll have a good story for your wedding day speech.

*[i]He may murder you, and in this instance I accept no responsibility. It's just internets. Not to be taken seriously[/i]

I cant have accusations that im a women beater flying about.

If they're known nutters, then no-one will believe the accusations anyway.

If she's a keeper, ignore 'em. You're going out with her, not them. If she's not, get out now.

WTF, is this for real or is going to be another allegory?

Your GF aint doing a convincing job in defending you to her parents. I would be asking why, maybe time to walk away

there's no smoke without fire...

If you are [i]truly[/i] innocent of any physical or emotional abuse then just man up and confront them even if it may mean that you have to take a good shoe-ing..
what could be more heroic and romantic..?

maybe they'll respect you more after that.. if not you can elope with your head held high.. (depending of course on whether you suffer any spinal cord injuries)

Just put the mother in a sleeper hold, suplex the dad and Boston crab your girlfriend. Then and only then, will they learn NOT to mess.

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HTH