[Closed] What kind of relationship do you have?

If your not having a good time in a relationship what's the point

these things* were sent to try us.

*women

At the molecular level. With my bikes.

5 years with mine. We both work full time. We both do what we want, rarely do I we turn friends down to do things, yet we still have plenty of time for each other. The old cliché of being best friends. But we really are.
Even when we spend months away with work. She is archaeologist, and im RAF, never really find any issues. How the hell some people I know stay with their other halves I dont know.

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We live separate lives in the same house, that's about all.

I'm not sure there's much point in being unduly smug about it either way. My relationship isn't great, it's a damn sight better than some people's, and the consequences of getting rid of it aren't terribly palatable. 🙂

We don't have a patio, wife's never nagged me to build one.

My wife once asked me which I loved more, her or my bike. I replied "which bike?"

She's happy that she wins over some of them.

I put a lot of time and effort into finding this one. I know I've got it right. 😉

one of fear on my side.... fear....., nah all good and constantly evolving, not the same as 20 years ago not the same since we had kids but your life changes and you change and what was important becomes less so and things you could never imagine being important become so...

Better than ever, now we live apart 🙂

Been with the missus for 21 years, married 2 years ago. Got 2 kids 5 & 3. My wife has been my best friend for probably 20 of those years. Love all my other mates for other stuff, but theres no one in this world I'd rather be with than Mrs 678.

I'm pretty much a nob head and she puts up with all my rubbish, bless her!

Why shouldn't i feel smug, no Audi or Beemer on the drive, got to have something to be smug about.
I'm more interested in positive posts like stu170.

We're solid - bombproof, actually - love, respect and like one another.

Loads of minor aggravations on the surface, though. Mainly based around my view of the house - I see it as a giant cave one returns to after a days hunting, to sprawl around as I see fit - occasionally visiting the bike workshop and brewing annex.
She sees it more like an actual house that needs tidying, a new bathroom and top to bottom decorating.

An open one.

I just haven't told her yet.

Like your style ads678, bit of a knob myself, don't take life too seriously, lot of folk on here can be so intense, maybe that's part of the problem.

After crashing in April I realised how much he cared and how much he loved me, spent the next few months until recently taking it out on him, there's nobody else to take the brunt of it, and generally being resentful that it happened and now I'm fighting to show him I love him that much and I'm worth putting up with.

I think most relationships have tough spots and it's whether it's workable and whether the people even want to put that amount of effort in. For me I'll do anything as can't imagine being with or going home to anyone else and he makes me very happy, just wish I wasn't a PITA some times!

What relationship?

TBH thinking about it makes me sad and lonely. She was/is still the person that I dream about. It would never work between us, we want different things, but still...

I know my place.

In the shed usually.

My wife is a top of the range ball breaker. However, after 16 years, 3 kids and the odd tough time we make a good team and plenty of love. As said above when the shit hits the fan or I'm somewhere very beautiful she's the one I want there.
From day 1 we pledged not to be everything to each other, or have unrealistic expectations. One thing we practice is a bit of self responsibility within the marriage. My grandparents are Indian and told me to learn to love, not expect it all there from the beginning. Happily still a student!

Garry, i think you will find that most decorating jobs can be sorted with a wipe over with a damp rag.

best mates for aaaages, an item for a bit less ages, married a few years, now got sprogs running around the house, life's golden TBH and no idea how I managed to snag her, safe to say I punched well above my weight there

Yeah…. can you sort the relationship thing out please emsz? Make a bit of effort, girl! You've been slacking on the Hollyoaks updates of late. Its not gone unnoticed. If not, then I'm afraid some of us will be forced into getting a new Lesbian Best Friend to fill us in on their dramas instead. They're ten a penny round some parts of the north nowadays you know? 😉

one of them forgot his wedding anniversary and he was in the dog house for weeks.

Plot twist.

His mate is a dog. So it was business as usual, as the bitch didn't mind.

She was/is still the person that I dream about. It would never work between us, we want different things, but still...

You've been reading my mind there emsz.

This is all a bit mushy you big girls bras

Binners,

There's been some action on the dating* front actually. I could go into details but you'd probably be put off your dinner, Hun

* is too strong really, it's all a bit "with benefits" but things are weird ATM

I'll update the Hollyoaks thing when it's not so "car crash"

We have a great relationship ,been together since September 1989 and married since 2002 before this we were just mates/drinking buddies for a couple of years.I'm not suggesting we never argue but it isn't often and we're always mates again by the time we get to bed. We did have one rough patch about 16 years ago (which was all my fault) but we worked through it, mrscarlos is my rock and I rely on her more than I would normally admit .I love her to bits and wouldn't ever change her (sick in a bucket smilie)

I put a lot of time and effort into finding this one. I know I've got it right

Bike or wife?

fwiw I'm best friends with a girl I nearly married, and it's better for it.

Anyway, got to go, the other half will be back from work soon and if her teas not on the table when she gets in there will be hell to pay.
If i'm good i've got another half an hour puter time later tonight. 😉

Emsz, I think it's one of those impossible things in life, to put Binners off his dinner....

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Since we got married it's like being on the witness protection program. We moved to a new house, I don't see my friends and I ride my bike at night.

A Fab one met her when I was late 30s divorced and not wanting to have another relationship . Now late 40s happily married and a son. Every day I realise how much better my life is for having her in it.

I believe we have had two big rows, one on a romantic break in Paris when I refused to accept a £1 coin would ever land on it's edge and stay there when tossed. (clue spending two hours in a hotel bathroom repeatedly tossing a £1 coin may prove your point but blows the romance)The other was my insistence that she would be able to Bunny Hop a curb .

We have been through and done a lot together and she made me less weird.

I'm hearing the tick of that infernal biological clock!

In 5 years she wants (in no particular order) - marriage, cars, mortgage, kids.

In 5 years I want - Three weeks trekking in Nepal, 2 weeks trekking in the Rockies, West Coast Trail on Vancouver Island, Fortnight's cycle touring in Norway, visit to the Alps with the road bikes.

In [I]theory[/I] these goals are not mutually exclusive, its just a shame I can't yet get excited about any of hers.

I do love her in the here and now though, when she's not talking about saving for deposits...

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try adding a nipper to the mix, then you won't even ride your bike

Love my Mr Toast to bits, even though he doesn't like death metal or Star Wars, and makes fun of my comics. He's my best friend and proper sexy as well. He's funny, kind, and incredibly sweet (apart from when he talks about my mother).

He also upgrades, maintains and fixes my bikes and PC. \o/

My missus is open to the idea of going halves on a tandem. She's a keeper.

My missus is open to the idea of being served for breakfast. She's a kipper.

Whatever happened to the stw singles rides?

And did anyone ever get [s]their hole[/s] together?

Fantastic.

That said it took the best part of 10 years with the wrong woman for me to really understand what I wanted/needed and what I was capable of giving/doing for the other half.

Now with a woman who finds my idiosyncracies, inconsistencies and downright idiocies endearing (so far anyway) as opposed to annoying and exasperating. We're best mates, lovers and companions and I wouldn't wish it any other way.

Can't be too bitter about the "lost" decade. We were just so wrong for each other it's untrue. And we have two beautiful, well adjusted, intelligent (blah blah blah) kids to show for it. See them 3-4 times a week and me and the ex have for the most part managed to deal with things in a positive way (so far...)

Sometimes I wish I'd known 10 years ago what I know now, but in truth that's a non-starter as that would rule out the kids and I would 99.9999% have never met the future Mrs Rodent 😀

Weekend away with no kids starts tomorrow approx 3.30pm. Taking the bikes just for a laugh. I've reserved 80 mins to watch the rugby so we're gonna hopefully ride to a pub and just have a real good laugh hopefully.

Sometimes I wish I'd known 10 years ago what I know now

I certainly wish this - then I would have been with the woman I love for many more years, rather than having to wait whilst she married & divorced someone else, in fact maybe go back 30 years & could have saved her two & me one failed marriages 🙁

I love mine to bits and she's genuinely my best friend. Been together 11 years in April and still to have a proper argument. I consider myself incredibly lucky!

My hubby is very laid back which is just as well as I can be a fiery cow at times. seriously though we have been together 14 years and it will be 10 years married this year. We have had our ups and downs the major one was nursing our daughter through cancer, where unfortunately she passed away but we have stuck together and we are stronger for it where most couples would split up under the pressure. We have a lovely Son who is the light of our life and he is very supportive of me trying to make it as an artist. He loves mtbing even when the bike throws him off and the sickening thing is he so good at riding up hills while I struggle up in granny ring.

Things haven't been great for a time and a couple of weeks back the conversation went along the lines of "it's my house, it won't ever be Our house and you're name won't ever be on the mortgage." We've been together 8 years, lived together for 7, but now cant shake the feeling we're living on borrowed time.

Which is a bit poo really.

I've given up, and will spend the rest of my days with my children and bicycles for company (and a few cheap and meaningless flings when I feel the need)

Bah humbug an all that

But nice to see others have met the people right for them 😀

@twin very happy for you and all the other good stories (btw re patio I think @binners is implying his mrs is under it ). @retro those must have been very tough times, yours sounds like a relationship worth keeping.

Got my Decree Absolute 2 weeks ago, pretty volatile 27 years, relationship had been unworkable for last 7 of those I'd say. Long time to unwind and bloody expensive, worst part is you cannot get that time back. Kids wonderful thankfully, smarter and better balanced than their dad ! Things going well with new GF, haven't lost hope or my romantic optimism.

Mrs S is my soulmate, who I found at university in 1982. I was single for 2 weeks at uni and that was that. We have been married 29 years this year and it's been mostly fab (except where I was an arse/ill).
Our empty nest has seen things get better as we have a bit more time for each other.

Me and my wife are like chalk and cheese, have very little in common yet get along very well, and make each other smile and laugh every day. Couldn't ask for more to be fair

I've given up, and will spend the rest of my days with my children and bicycles for company (and a few cheap and meaningless flings when I feel the need)

Bah humbug an all that

But nice to see others have met the people right for them

You say that, but if I get to be a mum then I hope I'm a mum like you 8)

I love mine to bits and she's genuinely my best friend.

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We've been together for about 17 years since we were at school. Not been all plain sailing but very happy indeed.

Been together 11 years in April and still to have a proper argument.

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Sorry to those whose life ain't worked out as planned - but congrats to this who've used this to move on to better things. More so though, special thoughts and respect to retrogirl.

For me, my relationship is great. Me and the wife have enough in common to make it work, but enough differences to make it interesting. Both love spending time together, but both give the other the space they need. That's space for socialising, working, biking, running, whatever. Works because there is mutual trust and respect. Plus she's still pretty hot 😉

Put it this way... When I came home and suggested moving to Australia, the first thing she did was get online and look at perthjobs.com.au. Love her lots.

Been together 25 years, married for 15. We have arguments sometimes, sometimes they're really big ones. Sometimes she's a complete pain in the arse, sometimes I am. Sometimes we fall out for days. So what? We make up and get on again. We have mostly different interests. All seems to work in the end.

Compromise. If you want your relationship to last, understand that sometimes you need to give a little. Expecting it to be perfect is just doomed to fail.

What a wonderful thread. So ace to see everyone's different lives. It's so sad when it doesn't work and even after so many years of trying so hard! But as some have said.... It's been the right thing to happen even if it doesn't feel like it at the time! Because things happen when you least expect it you know!...
I'm nearly 40.... I never thought it would happen to me. But it did! He is the most amazing person I've ever met! We don't argue much & when we do it's always sorted before going to sleep. I find it easy to compromise with him because it's clear he's compromising with me!.... I feel equal with him and that's real important. I love the way he has an opinion!
I've never felt so complete in all my life. I couldn't be happier! I believe it all to be down to 'brutal' honesty, genuine communication, good compromise and STRICT rule of not going to bed unhappy. Talking is always good...
Ps; he makes my bike feel brilliant, look good & stay clean THEREFORE he's a keeper !! 😉

What kind of relationship do you have?

Whatever kind my OH tells me I have! 😆

[i]he makes my bike feel brilliant, look good & stay clean THEREFORE he's a keeper !! [/i]

For sure.

Whatever kind my OH tells me I have!

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There's a nice saying about marriage.

It's a good way of finding out what your wife expected a perfect man to be like.

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I'm five years in with 2 kids. Honestly, I feel like leaving at times and we do argue quite a lot but I don't really see any good coming of me leaving, so for now I'm carrying on because I do love her but can't say I truly believe that we will always be together.