For the people I care about to be happy.

Tend to mess myself up trying to help them though 🙁

Been questioning this a lot lately after a dreadful 2015.
Calm contentment would be more than enough. I don't want to be rich or famous. I would love to be able to take my daughter to school each morning and pick her up, work hard, both at work and in my private life. I have some amazing friends a true soul mate and best friend and a brilliant daughter, could I want anything more?

What do you want from life?

no idea

The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives
Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't

still time

Sex and bikes it would seem and plenty of both.

Love health happiness

1. Coke
2. Hookers

I wanna bash some KOMs

and be stoked

Mental calm , its been a bit busy and noisy in there for a while now.

Still not sure I know.
Have good job, no money issues.

But I see my mates Facebook pics of his new life in Oz & I want some of it.
?

A bit more time.

A binners of my own.

In this life happiness (including all positives) ... oohhh ... look at those lovely fluffy animals. 😛

In the after life I shall judge you to the hilt! 😈

edit: ... especially to those that harmed my family ... they did but failed ...

edit: ... Can't turn back the time then don't do the harm ...

Happy.

Wether rich or poor don't care just happy...

To be happy and have good friends and family around me.
Also to be challenged in my work (paid or otherwise)

Getting towards mid 40's now and I still don't know what to do

I'd like to be happy, that's the main thing, and I haven't been happy since my 20's

I'm struggling with health, anxiety, frustration. I think this has come about by health not being great for over 10 years. Losing my (admittedly very flaky) circle of friends, and being in a job that used to be not badly paid, but is now awful. I'm a Civil Engineering technician and I'm not even earning enough to pay off my student loan from 20 years ago

I'd like to completely change my surroundings, I'd love to move to another country, somewhere with much better weather, but I really don't see how I can do it. If I could save a bit of cash I'd just go somewhere and wing it, but it's not possible due to just breaking even

So, new surroundings and happiness are what I want. I'm not greedy, enough cash for bills, a roof over my head, nice food and a holiday or two would suit me fine

To be fed about less and to increase my tolerance to be being Fed about.

......... to kidnap and heiress and threaten her with a knife

Outside of my body, I have what I want enough to keep me happy, my family specifically.

Inside of my body, acceptance. Of me, by me. Not constantly judging myself in all things by what I think people do, have, think of me and instantly guarding myself against it. This is the hardest bit, but I am working on it.

jools182 - Member
Getting towards mid 40's now and I still don't know what to do

I'd like to be happy, that's the main thing, and I haven't been happy since my 20's

Young man let go of everything and be at peace with yourself.

So, new surroundings and happiness are what I want. I'm not greedy, enough cash for bills, a roof over my head, nice food and a holiday or two would suit me fine

Does not work that way coz physical environment means f-all to happiness while the lesser the burden in your mind the happier you will be.

😛

Kryton, if you can find how to do that, I'd buy your book......

MoreCashThanDash - Member
Kryton, if you can find how to do that, I'd buy your book......

Does not work if you are a positivist ... 😆

Wherever you are, whatever you are doing, acceptance is key. The grass is always greener somewhere else until you actually get there. Then you just find grass is grass.

Lose the attachment to things and people and just let it be. The mind will always try and convince you of something different though and you need something else to be happy. Contemplate what it is that can see those thoughts and be free.

Time to live see my son grow up with my wife to be a happy young man.

Health and happiness for myself, family and friends. Spending quality time with my kids while they are still kids and trying my best to guide them into their futures. Sounds easy!

Kryton, if you can find how to do that, I'd buy your book......

As much as this sounds easy for others, I've made several big decisions recently without seeking anyone else acceptance of them and left Facebook alone.

I've mentioned i here before, but this book contains several key pieces of advice which I've found very helpful http://gregmckeown.com/essentialism-the-disciplined-pursuit-of-less/

Edit: This bit is fundamental to me : [i]It’s about challenging the core assumption of ‘we can have it all’ and ‘I have to do everything’ and replacing it with the pursuit of ‘the right thing, in the right way, at the right time’. It’s about regaining control of our own choices about where to spend our time and energies instead of giving others implicit permission to choose for us.[/i]

1. Coke
2. Hookers

Had more than enough of the first and absolutely no need for the second so just a happy wife and kids for me.

Does not work that way coz physical environment means f-all to happiness while the lesser the burden in your mind the happier you will be.

I'd disagree. The weather has a massive effect on me. I find the UK culture also very depressing. I'm not saying there is a perfect place, but there definitely is a better place for me.

I'd like to be off the antiloony drugs, have a happy family, get my life back to some semblance of order and have a successful start up year with my knives

For it to be easy and long

Pigface - Member
......... to kidnap an heiress and threaten her with a knife

A solid gold Kama Sutra coffee pot
A baby's arm holding an apple.

To walk into a McDonnalds, order a McChicken sandwich and not think that it's been made from all the giblets and eyes and brains and poo hole that invariably is in one.

It's a simple ask, tough to undertake, and be comfortable with.

😛

Binners you were wrong :

hookers THEN coke.

One of the things I got from the 'Golden era' fb page is that you can often end up in great places without seeking them out without realising it until much later. More chances for that please and the energy to take them.

carpets

CaptainFlashheart - Member
A binners of my own

its a lot of responsibility, you have to clean up after it, regular exercise and keep it in a constant supply of baked savouries, high in sodium and saturated fats

to earn enough and have time enough to do the things I like. Ride bikes, go to concerts, visit places, eat nice food.

I never realised that a binners was so much work. Does he _have_ to be exercised? Can't he just talk about it instead?

As for me, I'd really like to be a dad, but after three late term miscarriages, I'm having to come to terms with that never being possible. We have, effectively, one chance left and need to work out whether it is worth taking. Failure would mean a fourth small box of ashes on the mantelpiece.

Serious answer?

To be able to make my own choices and accept the results of those with good grace one way or the other...

(which to my admittedly half-baked humanist/taoist sensibilities is actually WAY less ominous and maudlin than it reads)

You're all wrong- it's coke on hookers.

To be able to spend time with the family watching my son grow up and enjoy his own life.

Crush my enemies

daftvader - Member

I'd like to be off the antiloony drugs, have a happy family, get my life back to some semblance of order and have a successful start up year with my knives

I have been watching people on youtbeu making different kind of knives for the past few days for whatever reason the act of making knives is strangely very mesmerising, relaxing and satisfying to watch.

I have also just sharpened my Chinese cleaver this evening, while on a break from STW, to razor sharp edge this evening.

😀

Later this year I'm moving to the jungles of Indonesia to live with the midgets. There I'll be king as I'm about 5ft 3 inches short. I'll get a girl, settle down, have wee midget kids. I'll live a simple life up in my tree house, hunting using bows and arrows and cooking sow over a real fire to feed my midget wife and our wee midget kids. We may even eat beetles and at night dance naked around the fire on herbal highs. A life of subsistence is for me. That's my dream right there.

A job. I really dislike being unemployed. I have everything else I could possibly want.

But if nothing comes up by April. I'm cycling across Europe for 2 months.

This, Mostly.

I was struggling to think of how I could possibly be any happier. Life is pretty damn good!

But now I've discovered that I could have been living a life of pampered, cosseted luxury in one of Flashy's many desirable residences..... well.... I feel a bit cheated

[b]'From[/b] life'?

To continue to observe the universe from the human perspective.

Life is what we make it and in that context, mindfulness, acceptance and attitude. Choose any two and the third naturally occurs. Faith helps too 😉

Sleep! With two young children forming an effective tag team approach to nocturnal endurance, a few good nights sleep would be very appreciated right now...

Right now, to be able to sleep! I've had terrible insomnia for 12 months.

To be able to lay down the burden and have peace of mind - the impossible dream.

Willard - best of luck my friend, I really hope it works out for you. Take care.

Six months ago I was in a very good place, a job I enjoyed, good set of friends, money coming in.
That has all collapsed in the last two months and I'm not looking forward to 2016.
So what do I want? I guess a change in fortunes.

Im pretty lucky decent job, great wife, good quality friends, loving family and a lovely house those are the good bits.

The bad bits are work pressures increased due to cuts, most of the folks at work although respectable people can be pretty awful at times and many act like a bunch of kids in the playground- grow up!, I struggle with self acceptance but I think many probably do and I just dont understand why the world around us has to be so cruel.

Love, Peace and Tolerance is the way forward, but on the whole life for me is a lucky one and I count my blessings.

Sounds like a more than a few of you need a good long chat with God.

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight.

I want to be well enough to ride my bikes. Shall I pray for a miracle?

in all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight.

The wiggly bits are more fun!

@jamz 😀

Look within, not without 😉

Trust in the LORD

Which one?

The Flying Spaghetti Monster, obviously.

To spend quality time with my family, dogs & friends.
To see my daughter growing into an amazing young woman.
To get out on my bike and enjoy the outdoors.
To dance all night in a field to loud repetitive beats every once in a while.

That's about it.

Willard-That is so damn sad.
Puts everything into perspective.
Just go for it, miracles do happen sometimes.
Some people just deserve a break, and you my son are one of them.
Good luck for 2016.

What Binners said, except add winning £100 million on the lottery to pay for:

1) Coke,
2) Hookers,
3) Rehab,
4) Repeat.

Health, strength and to be loved by people i care about.

Ahh, just thought of another...

To drink The Flower Pots beer until I die.

That'll do.

But if nothing comes up by April. I'm cycling across Europe for 2 months.

If you can, you should do this now.

I have little to complain about, although I could. But I'd really like to find my vocation in life. I'd like a job I love doing since I have to spend so much time doing one. If I found that, the rest - which is already decent - would be much better. I think.

The wiggly bits are more fun!

True dat!

Look within, not without

But of course - the kingdom of God is within us all ! 😉

[quote=Jamz ]Sounds like a more than a few of you need a good long chat with God.

She doesn't seem to be replying

My 5yo son told me tonight that he's going to ask Santa next year for me and his mummy to be back together again. This after telling me all weekend about mummy's new boyfriend..

He has no idea how much of a mess I am still in, even after 2 years having passed. I honestly feel like I can never again have what I truly want and need out of life. He's the only reason I bother to get out of bed most mornings.

I'd settle for the knowledge that I'll ever feel happy again.