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If you have no regrets, then you haven't lived.
None. keep looking forward hind sight is always 20-20 vision, just to push on and be happy.
26th Septemer 1993.
Was invited to a party at a friends house.
Met this wonderful girl:
Very cute, very funny, intelligent, successful (designer for Nike), lovely smile etc.
We chatted for ages and found out we had absolutely loads in common.
We like the same books and music, we just seemed to click.
Anyway, about 10.30 the host came round with a tray of choccy brownies. The wonderful girl I'd been chatting to said she wasn't hungry and she declined her brownie, but said that I could have hers, as well as having my own.
Not wanting to appear greedy, I turned down her brownie.
I still think about that brownie now.
Not pursuing the idea I had in 2003 for a free video hosting website.
I believe the founders of YouTube (founded 2005) got $800m for it when they sold out.
Oh, and Anya. She deserved better than that.
Not learning from the past and making the same mistakes again.
Selling our house 18 months ago. We took way too low a price to get a sale because of a silly grass is greener on the other side thought and not taking the long view. Now we are stuck in rented accomodation with no hope of a deposit for a new home.
Before that spending the first ten years frittering away my wage and not investing enough in the house.
I quite often feel I am further back now than when me and the mrs started out in our first home 12 years ago.
All the things I wanted to do, but didn't
None of the things I did, even the ones that didn't work out
It is a cliche, but when I really think about , I have done many things which ended up being bad decisions or choices but the only ones I regret are the ones I just didn't act on at all. The things I considered doing but didn't are what I regret because I'll never know how they would have turned out. Where as the decisions I made and followed through that then went wrong... I know what the outcome was and I can live with those choices, I don't regret them.
heisenberg - Member
..should have remain teaching chemistry
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I'm in the same boat as loads of others. I've got regrets, but I wouldn't change anything.
As it is I've got no money and a career that I hate and can't see any way out of. But I've got two mental, fantastic kids that make everything all right, a best friend for a wife and a roof over my head.
Happy days.
A few have regretted not joining the Forces, which I did at 17 and stayed for over seven years.
Yes I recall a lot of it with fond memories, but can still recall the despair at the shortage of money, lack of women and utter boredom.....at times!
Regrets....I have a few, too few to mention!
I wish I'd stayed in for a quiet night on the evening of march 13th 1998. What happened set in train a whole bunch of sh1te, culminating in stuff it took me a very long time to deal with.
That said, I'm not a great believer in regret - life's too fugging short - although Wrecker's example perfectly captures the discomfort of what it means to be older & wiser, looking back at one's younger self. But you can only allow that younger self the choices as they saw 'em.... and needless to say, you learn (& probably learn the most) from your mistakes.
Whatever happened in the past brought me to the point where I am today, and that's enough.
[i]life is PAIN and SUFFERING, once you recognise this you will find the happiness and joy inbetween. Yoda, Star Wars. [/i]
Surely he didn't say it in that order??
18 yrs old and not climbing in the podium at bcm's to "dance" with that super hot girl when id actually been asked too. Bottled it big time!
And spending my 20's without a bike
What are your regrets in life ?
Suferin from dixleksear and not bein able to spel properle and som of the kys not working on keyboard 😳
Thread is eye opening. Good work STW.
My only current regret is going into a 9am to 6pm Monday to Friday job straight from Uni. I'm too young for this, 23 years old and only having two days a week to enjoy my life. **** that, this isn't a way to live.
Luckily, I have a 3 month trip to Australia and NZ booked which is bringing an end to the two years of the weekly grind. When (If) I return I am going to source alternative income.
EDIT: I do also kind of wish I kept on studying physics after college. Alas my 18 year old self was more curious of the arts. And whilst the arts still entertains me, I find myself researching the sciences just as much. It's easier to imagine the sciences would of taken me to a more interesting path than I'm on currently - but I wouldn't of met many friends (and my girlfriend) without the arts, so swings and roundabouts init.
scotroutes - Member
Cathy Robertson
After googling
+1 😯
A few 'regrets', mostly based around attractive women and my complete lack of ability to recognise a come-on. Sorry Ellie and Jenny, especially. Actually, more to the point - sorry PMJ!
Saying some unnecessarily harsh stuff to an ex when we split up. She's just got married and I genuinely wish her all the best.
Another forces story here, but not so much a regret - I'd probably (hopefully?) be in or have done a stint if my body would allow it.
But otherwise I don't wish to think of 'what-ifs' - it's a path to madness, I tell thee.
Choosing the wrong degree, then taking a job using that degree because it was an attractive carrot dangled in front of a naive student, then staying in that career despite having quit it once to get out and do something different. Getting nervous at being unemployed and jumping back in at the first offer.
I'm trying to get out again now...
Never being the hundredth poster
Hmmm, I was at a karting event, the overall winner of which got a full season's drive in the U.K Prokart Championship and the winners of the other heats joined them for the Prokart version of the LeMans 24hrs. I was well in the lead of my heat when coming to lap this guy I for some reason decided to dive down the inside kamikaze style rather than take my time and pick him off. Dunno why I felt the need to do it as my lead was big but I did it and he didn't see me and took me out. All I had to do was hang back a bit and I'd have at least got to go and play karts in France.
Maybe the odd regret in my love life but I guess everything that's happened so far (including my karting brainfart) has put me where I am now and I wouldn't change any of what I've got going on or who is in my life.
3 years ago and pulling up at a set of lights around 9pm; three lasses in early 20's at a guess and nice looking, pulled up next to me.
My window was already down; passenger in other car wound hers down:
Her:"Are you single?"
Me: "Um, yes"
Her:"Follow us"
I didn't....WHY???!!
Regrets, probably loads of them, my life now has a limited amount of happiness with my wife as she is terminally ill, we now live for now, refuse to focus on past failures and fully focus on bringing up my son in the best way we possibly can until it's left to me, then with inner strength and some great friends I know I should be more than capable of keeping him on the right route so his mother would be proud.
Humbling David, and an wonderful approach. Manly back-slapping/hug thing.
Best wishes to all.
we now live for now
It's all there is, and all we have.
All the best to you & your family, Candodavid.
Should have talked to my brother about his drinking. Should have talked to him about a lot of things......
Seems silly and irrelevant after candodavid's post...
But my only regret is coming 2nd in an application process for a job where I would have had a degree paid for and be on twice as much money as I am n, already met the mrs etc so didn't really change anything but think us and the kids would have a much easier life if I did
Coercing my wife into 2 abortions- we were young and without money. 25 years and 2 kids later she still hasn't forgiven me. I haven't forgiven myself. We still talks about what it would have been like with 4 kids.
Funny thing is I now have more than enough money and live in a big house empty of kids - they've both left home now. Now they've gone I feel there's no focus in life anymore. Yeah I know, nows the time to do all that stuff I always wanted to but couldnt because of the family. I'd rather have kids running around the house. If you've got em make the most of them...
Computer games. A serious waste of your life and barely a significant achievement. Still got the moves on tomb raider though.
Where to start...
- Racking up £25k of debt with 4 1/2 years left to pay it off.
- Not being able to handle and cope with my depression over the last 6 years
- Taking a break from riding bikes between 13 and 26
- Failing college 3 times in a row. Getting an interview for a different engineering job is pretty much out of the window
- I'm sure there are many others
Wow. Can I now apologise for my 3 girls post; seems hugely irrelevant now 🙁
Mine's pretty minor compered to some, but I wished I had learnt to play a musical instrument.
Starting a thread on here a few days ago about a 911 conspiracy theory 😆
On a serious answer...
Not spending a season in Canada or France on the DH bike before I chose marriage career and big mortgage.
Afrika Bambataa was a good band dude. DJ? Maybe one of the members?
Regret going to university rather than getting an engineering apprenticeship.
Now work with great colleagues who are not appreciated for the work they do under management who are clowns, for a company at the centre of this website, who have really lost the plot in the last few years.
But as David and some other guys highlight, nothing really matters but your health and that of your loved ones.
@ hora: Not a band, a DJ and band leader, his band was called soul sonic force, the track in your link was a track called unity that he did with James brown. He's one of the godfathers of hip hop.
Ah! Always loved this tune too 🙂
Wayward that seems a very hard view of yourself. I'm sure you both had nothing but the right intentions at the time. Grand kids will soon be terrorising your every move no doubt, enjoy the peace for now.
Starting a thread on here a few days ago about a 911 conspiracy theory
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😆 ^^
Not insisting my son was moved to Kings College hospital in London for live saving surgery as soon as our local hospital's consultants diagnosed him. It was all too late by the time he got there. I could top myself for it.
On a lighter note, having a child at a young age and not doing more drugs and loose women. On the bright side by the time I am 40 I can do what the hell I want.
Regrets, probably loads of them, my life now has a limited amount of happiness with my wife as she is terminally ill, we now live for now, refuse to focus on past failures and fully focus on bringing up my son in the best way we possibly can until it's left to me, then with inner strength and some great friends I know I should be more than capable of keeping him on the right route so his mother would be proud.
Heartbreaking. I don't know what to say but ****ing good luck.
not sniffing the knickers I swept up after a Tom Jones concert. We just packed them all in the sound equipment for his next gig.
Some regrets, but can kind of see the way that these things make us who we are and if we never did anything stupid, we'd never do anything at all.
Candodavid; it's heartbreaking to read but it does happen and you will deal with it because you don't have any other option, keep your raceface on fella, all the best.
Neilsonwheels whereas now I have NO sleep or social life and all the lose women are dulling distant memories for me.
Still. They were nubile things 8)
bit dusty in here.
anyway
I wished I had learnt to play a musical instrument.
what are you waiting for? bass is relatively easy (bass-ics anyway!), only 4 strings & you don't normally play them all at once 😉
Bass isn't a musical instrument!
is it only me - no regrets
Bass isn't a musical instrument!
Fish innit
No real regrets but I wish I'd never watched the videos we found in a friends dad's wardrobe when we were teenagers.
One had his dad laying under a glass topped coffee table while his mum took a dump on top 😯
Probably not saying goodbye to dad. The hospital staff said he was fine, I had a nagging doubt. Walked out waving but feeling odd.
10 hours later...
Bass isn't a musical instrument!
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No major regrets.
I should have ignored my mother who said 30 years ago that I shouldn't buy a house cash (there'll be time for that) with 9K I'd inherited. Zoopla tells me it was last sold for 186K.
Instead I spent the money on beer.
Having said that if I'd bought that it would have been unlikely I'd be where I am now. Wife kids and a 90K mortgage. 😉
[b]Candodavid & plop_pants [/b] I completely feel your pain....so sorry cant stop crying at what you wrote...brings back way to many memories...regrets...
My grandfathers last conversation with me before he passed away always stuck in my mind for many reasons but mainly because he took the opportunity to share his philosophy on life. Knowing that I am someone who is guilty of over thinking and over analysing he pointed out that the future and past don't exist, the future is just a concept and the past is just memory and therefore you should only live in the here and now. You can't change the past so regretting it is futile. Nothing to be gained from regret.
Have just been reminded that one of the things I really regret is lagging at the back of my team when going down a canyon in Switzerland when I should really have been at the front, where I might have spotted the sump under a rock and made sure my teammates avoided it.
Regrets, probably loads of them, my life now has a limited amount of happiness with my wife as she is terminally ill, we now live for now, refuse to focus on past failures and fully focus on bringing up my son in the best way we possibly can until it's left to me, then with inner strength and some great friends I know I should be more than capable of keeping him on the right route so his mother would be proud.
Hmmmmm aaaand that's me ouuutttaaa this thread, shit just got real. Good luck matey. 😕
I regret not being the person I am now when I was younger. I think everyone has this idea in their head of going back and doing things when they were younger with the knowledge and experience they have now. Apart from that, I don't really regret anything. Live and learn..
Not breaking my ex bosses nose properly when I had the golden opportunity to do so,
There's some genuinely heartbreaking stuff on this thread. Some I've yet to face, quite frightening really.
That's me going home to the folks with a bottle of Whisky and a need to talk really quite soon.
Selling my Subaru Impreza i loved that car, being an arrogant prick when i was younger..
1) declining a dutch, ballet-dancing, surfing goddess for an unreliable and bland english girl
2) declining a safe phd with rolls royce for a wildcard phd. I'm 2 years into the wildcard phd and i'm having doubts about whether it was the best choice
3) moving away from grandparents as they're getting old. It's shocking how quickly they have aged in the past 3 years
4) quitting saxophone, i used to be OK
#1 and #2 were big regrets at the time, but I'm happier now for doing so. Plus, I now appreciate what I now have and what may come as a result of those choices.
Regret #3 is still tough and i don't think that will change.
My real regrets.
Not seeing my great-grandmother the last time I had the opportunity. She looked after me a fair bit when I was very small and it would have meant a lot to her...
Not telling my grandparents enough how much they meant to me. Don't get me wrong I was always affectionate and spent a good deal of time with them - but I'm not sure I ever said as an adult that I loved them... I should have said it explicitly.
Saying goodbye to my dad for the last time - I should have stayed longer but we thought he was recovering a bit and his second wife always made things awkward. I should have ignored that and stayed. My last memory of him is him smiling and giving me a thumbs up. I should have been there when he actually died.
Working so hard - so relentlessly that I drove myself into a hole and had a breakdown. No matter how hard I try, I've never been the same person since and my family deserve better.
Finding this bloody forum.
I hate to think how much the hours I've spent on this site have cost me in time, money and jobs.
My little brother is currently in hospital, he is dying from Liver failure, caused by Bowel-cancer.
He probably has a few weeks left at best.
He is 36 years old.
I'm already wishing we'd spent more time together as adults...
You thought you had all the time in the world freeagent. Tell him how you feel and I am sure he will feel the same. There is no shame in this.
It's still hard being the big brother - even when your little brother is in his 30's...
freeagent, would like to say something to help but haven't much to say other than hang in there and keep friends close. My big brother died a few years ago his last words to me were "go steady on that motorbike". I know what he meant was "I love you". Us little brothers know what you mean even if its not said or done. He lived on the other side of the world for 20 years before he died, we didn't spend that much time together, not sure it matters at all.
[i]Probably not saying goodbye to dad. The hospital staff said he was fine, I had a nagging doubt. Walked out waving but feeling odd.[/i]
Yeh been there too. But he looked fine when we left and he was laughing and joking so that was the best way to remember him. Total opposite with my mum though, three days straight watching her slip away. Not sure which is the best way really.
My thoughts are with you freeagent, you'll find the strength when the time comes.
Candodavid and freeagent, my thoughts are with you.
Things happen in life, some of which we cannot comprehend.
Big hugs
bunnyhop xx
Not going to the pub the lunch time of a double A-level exam even if it was £1 a pint, I fell asleep within 20 minutes of the first exam.
The amount I drank in my late teens and early twenties hate to think how much my spell of heavy drinking cost
The amount I spent on gambling during the same period as drinking
Not taking an apprenticeship.
Not going to uni the first time
Going to uni after a drunken night out on a course I didn't want to do.
Not getting a degree.
Taking a lift home one night, rather than going back to hers.
Not going to a club one night and my mate died later than night outside the club, I still think I might have been able to prevent it.
Not visiting my Gran in hospital because they wouldn't let kids on the ward and we didn't have anyone to mind the kids, she didn't leave the hospital alive.
Not going through with the purchase of a run down five bedroom house as job relocation wasn't imminent then two weeks later we were told the office closes on Friday you can either relocate or take redundancy.
The house had come off the market so I took redundancy.
Live in the present and the future.
Yeah I've screwed up decisions but learned from them.
Move on and be happy.